I'm so depressed with things that are going on in my life right now!
By Angel
@Angelee_27 (3460)
United States
August 20, 2011 3:13pm CST
There is so much going on that is stressing me out, and making me depressed!
First off, I can't find a job. Every place I call is not hiring, and the ones that are just keep giving me the run around!
Then, my fiance is disabled, and is trying to get SSI-Disability, but they have denied him! He needs this SSI-Disibility check each month because he can't work, and we need money! We have no income! Also, he cannot get medicaid (insurance) without it! He needs to see doctors, and he needs medication, but with no income and no disability checks... we can't afford it!
I just don't know what to do. We are trying so hard but nothing is happening. We just want to get a car, our own place, and settle down... but it's not going to happen with no money!
Then, my fiance is disabled, and is trying to get SSI-Disability, but they have denied him! He needs this SSI-Disibility check each month because he can't work, and we need money! We have no income! Also, he cannot get medicaid (insurance) without it! He needs to see doctors, and he needs medication, but with no income and no disability checks... we can't afford it!
I just don't know what to do. We are trying so hard but nothing is happening. We just want to get a car, our own place, and settle down... but it's not going to happen with no money!3 people like this
14 responses
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
20 Aug 11
Hi Angelee,
I do know this feeling about being unemployed and not able to find any work. Same with us here where my boyfriend also has been with very little work.
The stress is very difficult to deal with and many times I just don't know what to do. Sadly I am not able to add some words of comfort, only to say that I really do wish things pick up soon for all of us. 
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@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
21 Aug 11
Main reason I can't offer comfort as I am in the same boat and nothing really can change things until life itself makes the changes for us. Best of luck Angelee and I do hope that things do turn around for you both.
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@Angelee_27 (3460)
• United States
21 Aug 11
Well, I appreciate your response HWG. There is probably nothing you could say to make my situation better anyway.
I am just so depressed and worried.
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@Angelee_27 (3460)
• United States
21 Aug 11
I understand, and yes you're absolutely right. Nothing can change until life itself makes the changes. 
@mods196621 (3652)
• Philippines
21 Aug 11
Really that is hard too. But have trust on God and He will give all you need.. He will not allow their children to starve for food and other basic needs. Just let try and try to get the chance or doin all the best as you can with prayer and you will see the result. Maybe those jobs you are getting is not fit for you. There are more chances to have and opportunity to wait for you. Try to think more and for sure there is one that is for you only. DOnt lose hope and give up. 
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@dodo19 (47317)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
20 Aug 11
I can certainly understand how you feel. The economy is certainly stressing a lot of people out, myself included. My husband graduated from university in 2010, and has been unable to find any kind of full-time work, despite all of his efforts and his constant looking for one. I graduated a few months ago, and am pregnant at the moment. We really are worried about work, money, and how we're going to manage to make it from month to month. It is frustrating and stressful. I can certainly relate.
@Angelee_27 (3460)
• United States
20 Aug 11
Hi dodo19,
Glad to know I am not alone with this. I think my depression and anxiety just makes everything worse. It makes me feel like everything is impossible, but in my mind, I still know that it's not impossible. It just seems that way.
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@GemmaR (8517)
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21 Aug 11
I don't know anything about the finance side of things that you're talking about, but I do certainly know how horrible it is not to be able to get a job when you really need one. The thing is with me now, I've given up trying to find work off the internet and I am using my energies to find work online. If I'm being honest, that's working out amazingly for me. You might find at first that your wages aren't as high as you might expect from a normal job, but you then need to take into consideration the fact that you don't have to pay for travel as you're at home, and you don't have to pay for food while you're at work either. That saved m $20 per day so I ended up earning a lot more than I would have done if I'd stayed in a "normal" job.
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@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
20 Aug 11
Just calm down and think things through. All of us have problems so you also have to find a solution for all of these but not all at once. You have to solve these problems one by one.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
22 Aug 11
I wouldn't know any other solution for you but it's your life, you can definitely find ways to improve your life. If you don't have any options, go make yourself one.
@Angelee_27 (3460)
• United States
21 Aug 11
I would love to find solutions for my problems. However, I just don't know how. I feel like there is absolutely nothing I can do about what is going on. Like I have no control over what happens.
How can I make money when the opportunities are not available? It's not like I am not trying... and I can't "make" them approve my fiance for disability. It's completely out of my control.
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@huilichan8 (1378)
• Singapore
21 Aug 11
I believe that there is always a way out if you do not give up. I have gone through worse things and so I can empathise with you. Do not let your situation get you down. Stay positive. Our thoughts can determine what happens in our lives. It's true. Take care and bope that you will have good news to share real soon.
@Angelee_27 (3460)
• United States
21 Aug 11
Thanks friend.
I will definitely start a discussion on anything that improves in my situation, *IF* anything improves.
I would love to stay positive, but it's really hard when you have depression and anxiety like me. 
I would love to stay positive, but it's really hard when you have depression and anxiety like me. 1 person likes this
@Angelee_27 (3460)
• United States
21 Aug 11
Thanks.
I will try to just forget about my problems for a little while. Maybe that will help me become less stressed.
@myfb2009 (8296)
• Malaysia
22 Aug 11
It is a pity to hear that you are having a very difficult life in your area. Although i can't help much but i hope my suggestion can helps you a bit. Why not, you try to check out whether is there any association that can give you some part time job that can be done from home. As for my area here, we do have the ladies group, where they are helping those needy by providing some kind of do at home job. Although the earning is not much but at least it can helps out a little. Hope you don't feel sad by your situation. Always keep your inner self going strong and i am sure you will be able to overcome your problem soon. Good luck to you...
@jugsjugs (12967)
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21 Aug 11
I think a lot of people are getting stressed out at the moment, mostly to do with not having a job, or enough money.I feel sorry for the people that are trying so hard to find a job and either the hours are not enough or they have to do two part time jobs and then have to try to find child care for their children.A friend of mine had to have a few sales of the items in her house, just to be able to have a roof over her head for a few more months before she found another job, now that job has finished she has now got to sell family jewelry that was left to her in family.
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
21 Aug 11
Hello angelee, maybe you can try askiing our friends here about joining writing article sites, though i am not sure as to how will you do it but if it's a desperation to earn money i think that's where you will should go. and not just doing mylot or some other social earning sites. I have solution to offer except for you to explore it online earnings.godblessi know you can find the light of the tunnel
i know you can find the light of the tunnel
@sjvg1976 (41281)
• Delhi, India
21 Aug 11
Hello Angelee_27,
Everyone goes through ups and downs in life so are you but i suggest you not to loose hopes and hope for the betterment.Try your best to get job don't be upset surely you will get it one day soon.
Oh sure everyone wants to own house,car in life but that takes time friend firstly try to get out of this situation.Surely with the time you will get these.
.Try your best to get job don't be upset surely you will get it one day soon.
Oh sure everyone wants to own house,car in life but that takes time friend firstly try to get out of this situation.Surely with the time you will get these.
@averygirl72 (37845)
• Philippines
20 Aug 11
I have experienced that in my life many times,I do my best but things are not going right or is going well with me. But I just fight my depression and worries and think everything will pass. Just invest in doing good and one can find favor in God and He will rescue you. I have tried it and it worked.
@Angelee_27 (3460)
• United States
20 Aug 11
Thanks for your response, I really appreciate it. However, I am not a Christian. I do not have a religion. But, I do respect those who do, so good for you that found comfort in your God.
I try to stay positive, but when you have depression and anxiety, it's very hard.
I try to stay positive, but when you have depression and anxiety, it's very hard.1 person likes this
@koperty3 (1876)
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21 Aug 11
The times are bad. I'm so sorry that you have this type of problems. I'm also disable and I don't get any benefit because they said that I'm to much independent. I can dress myself, eat by myself etc. I use walking stick and I have to take medications and have physio but I guess this is my problem. Cheer up. They say "it can't rain all the time". You will see some happy moments in your life soon. I believe in this. I wish you all the best.
@lavender_000 (13)
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21 Aug 11
It is so terrible. I am still in school and spend my parents money.Althought I donnot have experience like yours,I believe it will be better.Please not think too much.You know optimism is very important in our life.Now you need grim courage to hold out.Please not think stress itself.Just do what you should do like finding a job.Presumptuous to ask you that do your fiance's parents give you a hand ?Maybe you can talk with your families and they may have good ideas.
In China ,when you have some matter ,family will help you by nature.I learn about US a little.
