Why is it that when in a relationship...a girl becomes insecure?

It's because we women are ridiculously complex and just cannot enjoy anything in it's simplicity! We have to over analyse everything, and imagine every possible outcome and it's consequences. Then of course when the bad thoughts have been allowed to enter our heads, the doubts creep in and our men become the bad person even though they have done nothing! I feel sorry for men having to deal with this, try to forgive us though, we can't help it!

In a relationship, a girl tend to be insecure for many reasons. There could be some concrete reasons for this insecurity like she feels that her boyfriends is not attentive enough to her, or she may notice that her boyfriend sometimes stares at other attractive women, and many other reason. Another reason why women could become insecure is because of the stiff competition nowadays. It is a fact that women outnumbered men so many women are afraid they might lose their boyfriend to another girl whom they think is more attractive to them. When I was going steady with my boyfriend, I didn't feel any insecurity. Maybe its because he made me feel so secure in his love. He don't bring me lots of presents but he showered me with his presence. He made me feel that I am the most beautiful woman in the world. He don't just say he loves me but his actions speaks of his love for me. So, I think it also takes an effort on the man's side to make his girlfriend secure in his love.

I must admit, when I was in a relationship with my first boyfriend, I feel so insecure. I feel that we can break up anytime if he find a better person. However that changes with my second boyfriend. I don't feel any insecure at all. I feel secured every time and confident that we will not break up since we love and trust each other. I guess it really depends on how the two parties handle relationship specially on how the guy makes the girl feel secured in a relationship.

i agree that girls are complex beings and that they over analyse things.. a girl wants to know that the boy loves her and wants the boy to reassure her from time to time because there are other girls who are flirt that can take the boy from them. reassurance and constant reminders and sweet nothings make a girl secure.

hi:) yeah I noticed that on some girls, but maybe it's because they love the man so much and hoping that they will end up together, but me personally I'm not like that, because I believe that if you're meant to be even if you don't ask him to marry you, it will happen.

At the beginning of a relationship, a boy will do everything to make the girl happy. Then the girl is used to it and become rely on the boy. But the girl do little things in the relationship. With time goes on, the boy is tired and he will not be as ensuiastic as before. The girl starts to feel insecure.If things become worse, the boy will dump the girl.

There could be many reason for that, most often if she doesn't get the amount of reassurance or attention she expects from her boyfriend, she then tries to confirm it through such questions. Other times it's her own insecurities about her looks, qualifications which make her doubt herself. Also there are many examples of breaking promises in love relationships these days that makes girl wonder if her boyfriend would do the same! You can only take a girl out of these insecurities by not only telling her "Yes I won't leave you" "Yes I would marry you" but rather "explaining" to her that why you won't leave her, why she is worthy, involving her in your future plans to show that how serious you are. Yeah I know it's kinda tough but if you are in love with your girl it's worth trying for!:)

I am insecure because of a lot of horrible things that have happened to me in relationships in the past. I have had many of my partners cheat on me, and in my opinion there is nothing worse than feeling as though you're second best in a person's eyes. Once you've had something like that happen to you, you're constantly on your guard thinking that it will happen to you again. I can't stop that thought, I wish that I could. My current partner is lovely, and is really patient about the fact that I'm insecure about pretty much everything.

Because women are too sensitive and they can feel if the guy is cheating them or not. It's not being insecure at all, it's part of love- jealousy and all. Men like it when they feel that their girl is always after them and they feel that their girl can't live without them.

I agree with you Russel, Women are always sensitive and very emotional, on the other hand they feel very insecure about a relationship. There can be en number for a girl to be insecure, but the most common thought that runs in a girl's mind is that being in love for so many years should not go in vain. Because the pain the girls feel, no one knows it, its very deep thing and we boys can't discover such things. Whenever you happen to be in a relationship always make you presence in such a way that the girl never thinks about such things before you. Fill her with your love and iam sure you will get the benefits out of it.

This can apply to boys also, will i be able to get her to my life partner or will she leave me for someone all that is common to boys to, both are prone to risk male and female, always do think before entering a relationship and see that if he or she is faithful to you, i think some people take love for leisure or time-pass not serious to what they say those people will not attain a true love for sure, love can be only once in a life time offer and should be taken not lightly.

Women think and feel with there heart while men use there brains mostly. A woman can sense when something is wrong in a relationship and most of the time she is write, so when she feel insecure, it is because she can sense danger. It's good to first investigate before you go crazy over nothing.