The world doesn't revolve around you...

I have been selfish before in my life and it took me a while before I notice that I was. I was only thinking about myself and not caring about others, including my loved ones. I realized that we should also be thinking about the people we love in order for us to grow personally. Being selfish, if you think about it, is actually childish. It's one of many traits of kids that we often don't like that's why we should also eliminate this attitude.

I think we feel needy more than selfish. We feel the need to have attention in order to feel loved. I know I demand a lot of attention from my boyfriend but that is because he gets some space. Even if we go places together we are not the clingy type so we are always spaced. I am usually with the women and him with the men. So the only time we really get our alone time is at night and I get aggravated when I do not get. That time. We also have three kids so a lot of our energy and time goes into them. But he gets his space. I feel like I do not get mine but that's besides the point!

I wish I could let my girlfriend read this, but that would be too upfront. Hehe! I'm not really complaining, just maybe wondering. I'm vague here, I hope so. Don't mind me, just sputtering things around. Excuse me.

i can understand that. I guess its normal to seek attention from your loved ones. BUt i guess we all have a tendency to overdo things. You're right sometimes we need to allow a bit of space. I have this friend who I love so much and i know he loves me too but i guess i sort of smothered him with so much love and attention that he became spoiled so now im giving him all the space he wanted.

Hi Mysteria, I try to be as kind, thoughtful and considerate of my loved ones as possible. I don't see myself as being selfish. I hope people in my life don't either. I know no one is perfect. There are probably times when I am selfish unintentionally. PS Are you the same mysteria who is also on Blogit? :)

I can totally relate to this discussion, except it's my friends who are really needy for attention. Friends aren't perfect but there are just some people who do not realize their selfishness. I sometimes crave for attention and become jealous of how much attention my friends receive. But I try to stay as humble as possible and treat everyone as equally.

You are correct. Our desire is for those we love to be happy. Because we are not always what they need, it is good to give some space. To do this we must have some faith and trust in the relationship. A good relationship can handle closeness, as well as space.

I know what you mean. I have several relatives who are like this. I don't think I'm one of them, as I'm usually the "listening ear". One is my sister, who if I have news, I literally have to interrupt one of her stories so she will actually listen to me for a change. It gets old. Everything is about the drama in their life, or even the littlest most silly things that they seem to prioritize in telling everyone (over listening to others). I am actually more introverted with my family, mainly because I don't like when people pry and I like my privacy. And I don't like blabbing people's ears off either.... (Even though people love to do it to me. Ha, oh well).

They do need time for themselves too. But I am sure that they also don't forget to give each other time. No I haven't been selfish. Most of the people I love have problems and I would never in a way try to take some of their time for me. Instead I would give my time to try to help if necessary. They also have other loved ones to spend time on that are needing more attention than I do and I always understand that. So I really don't have problems with it if there is enough reason to understand it.