if i were you, what would you do?

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i am in a relationship of more than a year which went really bad. i love this man so much that i did everything i can to save the relationship. even tried communicating with him but all my efforts were in vain. it could have been easy for me to just walk away because of how he was treating me. he never argued with me for the past weeks, all he ever said was he loves me so much and he doesnt want me to leave him. but he hardly did anything to get me to believe him. just then i met someone really wonderful. he is everything my boyfriend is not. we have been constantly communicating and i feel very happy since. it might sound like im cheating, of some sort maybe yes but in my heart i know i am not... we have become friends and we are taking our time towards building a relationship. we know very well how we feel for each other; we just dont want things to go really fast. i am so clinging to a relationship that has long made me suffer and now i feel its time for me to be happy. i prayed so hard and asked to be guided and be given wisdom to do what is right. with how things are going, anytime i would really have to break it off with him. how soon would you get into a new relationship with someone after a breakup? would you really go with societal standards and wait for the time until they think it is right for you to do so or go with the flow and make yourself happy? do u think it is healthy to be giving this new person much attention or it would hurt either of us in the end? i need some enlightening...