What should I do?

United States
August 23, 2011 10:01pm CST
Well.... It starts off like this. I like a girl. The only problem is she was asked out by my best friend before i could have asked her out! My best friend knows I like her but she doesn't... I don't know what to do. Do i tell her how I feel? I don't want to risk my friendship with either of them... I don't know what to say or do...
5 responses
@Judy890 (1644)
• United States
24 Aug 11
Hello LegitLegacy, So your best friend knew you liked this girl but asked her out? what kind of friend is that. What if for example you were dating someone and your friend started flirting with her behind your back I would advise you to surround yourself with people you can trust your friend is not to be trusted and also I don't think its a good idea to ask her out if your friend already did please dont put her through that because she'll have to choose between you and your best friend and this can hurt both your friiendships talk to your friend and ask why he asked her out when he knew you liked her.
• United States
25 Aug 11
No he didn't know I like her when he asked her he found out afterwards...
@soulist (2985)
• United States
25 Aug 11
I thought you said he knew that you liked her. I would have said the same thing Judy did that he wasn't a friend. But did she say she would date him? If she you'll have to be the bigger man and step aside.
6 Sep 11
Its always good to let someone know your feelings for them. nomatter what is a girl likes one guy but doesnt think hes intrested then she might go for another guy. but if she knows then she has the decision to make. saying your feelings isnt a crime. but she could of answer yes or no to him. if she really like your freind she will turn you down. but be honest with your best friend to. tell him you liked her to.
• Philippines
24 Aug 11
no one would do that in a grown up man's world... you are right that you might be at risk if you try asking her out too but then the question is, do you really feel so in love with this girl that you are willing to risk your friendship with your bestfriend? maybe the first step you can do is to ask your friend about his intentions and talk it out between you how you feel about the whole thing (he knowing you like her but he still asked her out). if you think you can manage finding another girl because you assessed what you have for her is not too deep yet, then maybe you can just move on...
@soulist (2985)
• United States
25 Aug 11
Myonlinejobs is right. Assess how you feel about her. Is our feelings enough to risk the friendship.
• United States
25 Aug 11
Yeah he didnt find out I liked her until after he asked her... But I think I value both their friendships more than just having her and no bestfriend... I do like her a lot though. Thanks for the advice man...
@clocks123 (1225)
• United States
1 Sep 11
see how it goes between your friend and this girl you like. if they get together then go on to someone else. your friend wasn't very nice in asking the girl you like out before you did. if things don't go good with the two of them, then ask her out. otherwise, i would leave this situation completely. you can find other girls to date away from your friend and this girl. the best to you.
@stary1 (6612)
• United States
24 Aug 11
If your best friend asked her out knowing you liked her, is he really a good friend? I would be hurt and angry if my best friend did that. Did you talk to him and ask why he did that? I think your best friend risked your friendship and if it were me I'd talk it out. As for the girl..sure ask her out too. What do you have to lose?
• Philippines
24 Aug 11
It's a hard situation for bestfriend's relationship but usually happen. Your bestfriend already knew that you like the girl but then, he asked her to go on the date. Does your friend has a special feeling for her as you do? Does he tell you what he feels about her? What if he only invited the girl to go out because he wants to help you. If the answer is wrong, I know it hurts you a lot knowing that he is your bestfriend and he is dating the girl you like. My friend, it's really up to you, if you considered your friendship as important than the girl,ten let go of her. You never know what would happen next, what if she also likes you?
• United States
25 Aug 11
Yeah I value my friendship with both of them more than just having her and losing my best friend...