are you changed for you loved ones?

Yes I changed myself for my husband who loved me. He not like movie or songs, onion so I also changed my habit because I also loved him and I always ready to change myself for him if he is happy with my changes.

Yes I have done many times for my friends, family and relatives etc.As you said the relationship is better than our wish. The other point is that the God will reward for us if we sacrifice our wish.

maybe only in the way I cook things to make for a different taste

I don't believe in changing myself for the sake of others. I am just being hypocrite if I divert from my true nature. It reminded me of the song "Love me for who I am and not who you want me to be."

Hi Remo! I see it more of compromising then changing for our loved ones. See if someone loves me there is something about me they already love, but if I need improvements I will definitely work with the loved one in making the compromises to allow us to be happy and peacefully. To say that I should change who I am, would be a bit difficult because then I have to be someone I am not. I can make improvements and work around different ways to please my love one. But in all relationships we have to accept that no one is perfect. This means that if someone I love say I need to change something about me, then they should give the reasons why they think that area of me needs changing. Then I can think clearly as to would it be beneficial to discuss different ways on how both of us can be happy with me being the way I am. So that means we compromise to suit each other.

Sweetie, The only constant in this world is Change. So Yes, I am changed because of my love ones. Because I look up to them. I learn from them. I change who I am because I feel the need to, not because they ask me to. :) It just comes naturally. Expecting it or Demand it to someone is Selfish. Remember, Compromise is the key to every relationships.

Did I have to change who I am or what I like to do To get a guy to love me? Surprisingly no! Do I have to change what I want to do so I can please my guy? No! But I do support him. I do like making him happy . And his love has changed my attitude . I am more happy and hopeful . That is what has changed. But my core hasn't changed nor Should it! If you think you Must be or act like someone completely different than who you Really are to be loved , you are So wrong!

Well, I think that it's more about compromising than changing or anything like that. I feel that my husband and I do compromise for each other, because we love each other. It's about making ourselves and our life together better. It's about making our life more enjoyable. I don't see it changing myself completely or anything like that.

many times and i dont think there is anyone that hasnt. right now im trying to stop smoking so i can survive for my kids during surgery. but its extremely hard i'll tell you.

Hmmmmm. I don't think I intentionally "changed" for my hubby. I still have my "tastes", but surely I have grown to meld into his "tastes" that are different from mine. We don't try to change each other, but in cases where the difference is huge, we have always tried to compromise. If anything we respect each others differences - and that makes us happy . . . we'd be dishonest to ourselves and to each other if we changed just to make the other happy.

For me not because if you love your love one you suffer more pains and good in your life.

I think change is part of the wisdom process. It's odd that many times I see that in terms of a relationship many women don't believe in changing and yet, men have to change. Many times I've seen women who "change" their men. Men are wild and many times unruly, but a good woman helps them to make that change. Of course, there are women who have changed for their men too. I'm not talking about any kind of change or change for the worse. And it applies to women and men, and there is nothing wrong in that. It makes us better people when we change for the better. And yes, I've changed. I've become less selfish.

yes, but not because he asked me to or anything. i fell in love, realized how powerful it really is and how much it healed my heart&soul, had a baby, and now i realize im not just living for me, im living for my family. he makes me want to be a better person. he makes me want to throw everything negative away about myself just so i can make him happy. and i get sooo happy from making him happy. i love it. i've asked a lot from people in the years and probably the most from him, but he's the one that's always stuck around. he's changing too. we're changing together. it's a beautiful thing. i think your post is very pessimistic, having to adapt to people you love. it's sorta "half glass empty" why not celebrate the differences? there are so many things to enjoy about another person. don't you love saying "i could never do that, you're amazing!!!" ? :)

No. Never ever I would like to change myself to the satisfaction of my loved ones. I honestly feel that each and every individual has his/her own entity and that should be protected at any cost. We don't want to be puppets. Aren't we?

I would not say that I have changed, but I would say that I am more cautious than I used to be, and I try to play things safe. Before I met my boyfriend, I was a party girl with nothing to live for, after I met my boyfriend, I felt like I did have someone to live for. I didn't drink or party as much as I used to, I really started to take better care of myself, and I didn't get into the kind of trouble that I used to get into. I would not say that I've really changed, I just grew up.

If someone really likes you or even worse if they are supposed love you (like family or spouse), they won't ask you change yourself just to please them. They especially won't ask you to change the big important things. It's better to be honest than to lie in my opinion.

I think family & friends should u for who they not what they want u to be.

I don't feel that we have to live as per our loved ones wishes. True love of family is when they are excited for what you want to do with your life. I don't think they should make you do anything. Happiness comes from doing what you love not what others want you to do.

Hiya remo, No, nor me either I don´t change and they get annoyed but I can see their point of view as well but that does´nt mean to say I change my mind about something. They can get quite hot headed and me really cool (grin) that annoys them even more. But hey I do have deep feelings as well and I let them know that I have to have my own ideas and opinions don´t you think? xxx

In a relationship, each party needs to learn how to compromise something for the benefit of having a good relationship. It is true that sometimes you need to change your ways (way of thinking, way of acting etc) so that your relationship could grow. But if you change all of you ways, it could also mean trouble. If you change to the point that you are an entirely different person, then maybe your relationship will not grow since you will not know yourself anymore. Besides, if each of you really love each other, then you will also love each personality. Point is, changing some of your personality in a relationship is good but if you overdo it and change your whole personality for the sake of pleasing your partner, then it is not healthy anymore. You should also need to please yourself sometimes,