Easier to open up to people not looking at you

Of course it is. You know more about how I felt about my school years than my family.As a friend you do not judge. And unlike a regular conversation, we get to complete our thought and then wait for your response. So we get to Truly listen! And besides of we see the face and let's face it the body One can get distracted! I'm glad I got to meet you here. And we got to connect on many a subject and not just hockey. And to think , our other two hockey pals have gone! and we are the ones that got to be good friends. I will never forget how you sent me a teddy bear picture or will I ever forgive myself for thinking you are a girl! But here we are good friends.

Ya think that's why a lotta shrinks have you on a couch looking away from them? (or is it so you can't see them working the crossword puzzle?)

its not true for me bounce...i really don't come here only to share my sufferings, rantings etc etc....i come here whenever i have time and i find myself discussing on so,e general things ...but most of the times i don't find anything interesting in general matters...an this may be one reason i am seen less here than earlier...don't know why... but i don't like to talking on too much personal matters with strangers and general topics are limited..this u will agree with me... coming to real world friends and relatives...they are the ones who will give you real and good advice in the time of need...if they are your good friends..i believe that internet friends may try to be too good to you...but not real...and as you u know truth is always a bit bitter....so u should have habit of digesting that too...

I'm actually a pretty open person. If you spend a little time talking to me you'd get to know my whole life story pretty easily.. and it doesn't matter if you're a stranger online, a co-worker, or a friend. If you give me the opportunity to talk, I'll never shut up and I will tell rather personal details.

There are some instances that I opt to share with strangers. I couldn't really tell if it applies to everything. I certainly feel the need to confess to my family because basically they are the ones most likely to get affected with my decisions.

The thing about people on-line, is that yes, you can tell them your most private secrets and it won't cause any problem, since you can cut ties with that person whenever you want, it will not affect your personal life in any way.However, family and friends quickly judge you, and its not like you can just stop seeing them since they live nearby. you would have to see them often and know that every time they ook at you, they will think about whatever you told them. So in the end, its a question of privacy, I at least, dislike my friends and family to know my real feelings, thats just my opinion on this.

Maybe it's true. I agree. I don't share my problems with my family or friends. I just keep it to my self. Sometimes I even tell them to my pet. And when i am really confused about the situation or anything I ask my mylot friends. I can easily share it here than with the people I am close with. But to my partner i can easily share my problems with my family or relatives.

I don't really open up and spill my closest thoughts here or at home. But I do agree that sometimes it's easier to talk without having to see someone. Perhaps this is why the Catholic confessional box has endured so long?

There are not many people that I air my problems out to. I am funny about that. I think I am more of a listener. There are certain people that I will talk about certain things with but there are just some things that I keep to myself. I am even a little funny here sometimes about problems in my life. There have been things I have discussed here but the truth is, I don't like the thought of burdening others with my issues. Sometimes it makes me feel silly when I read some of the things that people have gone through or some of things they are going through and I am sad about this or that in my own life. There is always someone that has it worse than me. Take care.

I find this to be very true. In real life so many of our friend and family do not have time to really listen to our needs. Strangers seem to be able empathize and even if they disagree who cares.

I really have two people that are a part of my life that I'm able to open up to. Those people are my mother and also one of my best friends. Of course, I'm also able to open up to my husband but not in cases where it is something about him that is bothering me. I do find that a part of the reason that I come on mylot is because of the fact that there is a large sounding board of people on here to whom I can talk.

Hi Bounce! . This is true my friend and sort of test the waters here early in my membership. I am one who generally does not open up and discuss my life with offline friends and or family. So when I signed up, I refused to put a ID picture of me, to see how "strangers" would react to me and or if they could get to know me based on my sincere writing. I have found it very comforting here as I can count on some to listen when I simply need to vent and get feedback as well. Sad that offline at times I have found that while trying to open up to people they are short winded and do not really take the time to listen as I am speaking. As if they do not have time for me. I thus far have been able to be able to open up to my boyfriend of almost eight years, but outside of him, I really do not have anyone else I can honestly open up with. I do have a special someone here who no matter what is going on in her life she has dropped everything and has been all ears, always willing to suggest some sweet advice and or leave me with some sound constructive criticism. So my take on your "Is it easier to open up to people not looking at you". Not that I have sought it out this way but somehow find that those "not looking at us", for some reason will give us the time we need, while those who "look at us" for some reason do not have the time.

We are less judged by people who don't know us personally. So they can give a sound advice without being bias! My students would open up to me their secrets they couldn't even tell their closest friends. That's because i'm far away from them.