Secretly in love with? Why secret?

Hi, so sorry...I forgot to answer your questions. If you are sure you like him and if you are not afraid of rejection, then I would say go ahead and confess your feelings for him. I am not saying that you will definitely get rejected but there is always a possibility unless you know he also likes you. If you are very much in love with him, then you might regret not telling him how you feel. Good luck to you!:)

What if you have the confidence? What if you marched up right up to him and say "hey I have feelings for you? It can go either two ways, either he shares the same feelings or he doesn't see you in the same way that you do. This is pretty risky and I have been in this situation before. I never had the guts to tell him so I never did. Years later, I don't like him anymore and he turned out to be someone I didn't expect him to be. So I guess I'm happy that I didn't tell him to save myself from the rejection. Remember to weigh out your pros and cons and just keep hoping. best of luck! =)

Keeping a love secret to the person who you love? I haven't love someone secretly, but admire many guys as they come and go like seasonal to me. For an instance,i admire Christopher Reeve - Superman,when I was 10 years old. Then as I grow older my crush/admiration lasts, and then I get to admire Nicolas Cage. Then Andrea Bocelli. But loving someone secretly- NO. Have a good day always jaiho®

Isn't that a level above from a secret crush? Ha ha, sometimes I don't think it can be called secretly in "love", maybe super crush. The only way for it to be secretly "in love" is when you converse with the special other more often, in such a way you two are best friends. But if it is a stranger who you notice all the time, I believe it is just a super crush. So my question to you is, is this person a very close friend? or somebody that you have not met, but see all the time, in the train, work etc.? If he is a close friend, I do suggest to start talking to him more often, not actually revealing your crush for him, but converse more, discover a little more about him. If he is seeing someone else currently, be supportive at this time. If he isn't seeing anybody, then perhaps the more you two converse the more he will open up. Perhaps he too have a secret crush on you. To make you feel for comfortable, we are in a generation that view men and women more equally, with that given, women should be able to ask men just as comfortably and openly. Of course men courting women should be the tradition, but women should just be as comfortable in courting men, as long as you don't de-masculine that man,

When my husband was still courting me, I also hid my feeling at first from him. I don't want him to think that I am easy to get and I waited for the right time and place to tell him I love him back. If the guy is courting you and telling you he loves you. Then let him court you first and meet your family. But if he is just a friend or if he is not yet courting you then I think don't tell him how you feel. SOme men just don't like it when girls do the first move. They get disappointed and end up unliking the girl. But if you think it is a win or lose situation for you and you don't want to hide the feeling anymore, then you have to take the risk and tell him how you feel.

To tell you the truth, I've experienced exactly same thing as what you did. It was a feeling I've never forget for five years. What I did is I wrote a letter telling him all I feel for him. I think it's okay for a girl to be true to her self and tell that guy the truth about what you feel for him. It's not easy to do that and it needs a rel courage.Have a courage to try.

I have has my share of secret crushes but I never told them!hehe It's not easy especially when you don't know what other person's feelings are, whether he is already interested in someone else and so on. Though I wish I would be more daring when I am truly in love with somebody. Waiting for that day!

when many people are in love with someone hide it and definitely know why. Because they are ashamed to admit their feelings would not be rejected. I am also deeply oppressive such feelings in themselves and I know how to torture. I think it's a disease but should be able to say those feelings to know that this man wants to be with us and show your love. Now when I think sometimes I regret that I have not told anyone I've ever been in love. but sometimes the shame and embarrassment is very high. successful and enjoyable day!

Yes! Now I don't tell a guy I like him because I have no intention to get married. I know he likes me too but it would not do him any justice if I tell him how I feel, since I really don't plan to get married. During my school days, however, I would openly let a guy know that I liked him. I didn't know that he was already attached and so I got rejected.:( But that was ok. It's part and parcel of life.