how to spend someone's last moments with them
By vegegirl
@vegegirl (828)
Australia
August 25, 2011 8:25am CST
It is very sad to think about and talk about but sometimes you may know someone who has been told they don't have long to live.
Once the person is at the very bad invalid stage that they can't get about and do things, how can you spend your time with them to make the most of the precious time you have left with them? If they can't communicate with you anymore and possibly not understand too much, what can you do to make them feel comfortable and as happy as possible in their last days?
2 responses
@HeartROB (434)
• Philippines
26 Aug 11
To stay beside with the person that you love is the greatest thing that you could do to them. We are afraid to die because we know that we are the only one who will face it and we dont know what to face after we die. So by just simply staying beside to the person you love till the end would be which i think the greatest thing we could do to them.
@vegegirl (828)
• Australia
26 Aug 11
Thanks HearRob
I spent a lot of time today with him and I took some old movies into his room for his visitors to put on and watch with him. He was resting peacefully when I left. If any problems happen during the night I will be called, but he seems stable at the moment.
@ronadelle (1547)
• Philippines
25 Aug 11
I'd like to say something about this although I haven't experienced this with anyone in my family and loved ones, in God's grace. For me, I'd like to spend someone's last moments with them with something that they really wished to do before dying. I think it's the best gift I could ever give that person. A smile and happiness that I could give him/her by doing so is something that I know the person will treasure. Also it would be easier for me to let go although the pain of losing someone I really love is the most painful I will ever experience. I pray that our loved ones are always healthy. You have a very heavy discussion yet something good to think about. Happy myLotting!
@vegegirl (828)
• Australia
26 Aug 11
Thanks ronadelle
yes it is a very heavy discussion, one I avoid too much myself, even though it has been at the back of my mind for a while.
I am surprised how many people have been able to give useful advice and touching comments. Yes I will have to remember to smile more, it seems most of the time we are there, if he wakes us he is always being fed, so it is hard to have carefree happy times with him, but I wll try harder for that.
And yes we do always want our loved ones to be healthy, which is why it is hard to talk and think about this type of thing, especially without guilt. Unfortunately some diseases are so bad that acceptance has to come, as much as possible anyway.
Thankyou again.
