Are you a dependent or independent person?

I am an independent type. Especially now that I am married, I seem to make decision together with my husband. I am very dependent in him and it makes people think that I am weak. Sometimes I think I am weak. I can't seem to realize myself without him in my life. He is the same with me. We just can't do things on our own and we also do things together as a couple. We also make decisions and try to inform each other on what we are up to.

I am much of an independent person, not by choice but because of life. I have been through things that would make you strong or kill you, and although it almost has *literally* a few times. I have made it out and now as a single mother I have to be strong an independent for my 2 year old. I make it to where my life is as stress free (as possible) for her so that she can grow up and be independent by choice and not just because of the cards dealt to her by life. I thank God for her everyday because she is the one thing I know will always be there, so I guess in a way I am dependent on her to keep me strong. If that makes sense. Thank you for this question, it's one that really makes you think! .=)

For the most part, I am independent. I definitely rely on myself for life's many challenges. If I seek advice from others, I will consider what they have to say, but will make my own choices. I have worked really hard to get to where I am at now in my life, but I believe that I was raised to be independent. But the one thing that I am dependent on is LOVE from family members and friends. So, overall, I would have to say that I am mostly independent, with a dash of dependency which equals a combination of both.

I'm not gonna lie, I'm still dependent on my parents on some things but I can certainly tell you that I am an independent when it comes to my own thinking and decisions in life. Perhaps it is due to the circumstances that happened in my life. My parents certainly raised my sibling and I to be independent but somewhat sheltered environment. we can do what we want but we know where to toe the line. Since both of my sibling and I are starting up, our parents remains in the background. We kinda live in a situation where there are still bonds that are not cut. I think my parents are still think of us as their children and should be protected by the world and its harms. I grew up in a culture when everyone in a family is complacent to each other and gives a fuss about each other even when the other party wants it or not. And parents still have some say about their children's lives. But that doesn't mean that my parents don't honor what my sibling and I think about our own future. They respect if we want to move out but they also give the reassurance that if things go bad, there 's always a welcoming party at the house. So, I cannot claim to be completely independent becuase I'm really not. But I have my own parameter at being independent. Perhaps mine are lower than others but it's better compared to other children who are literally 'slaves' of their parents.

I couldn't say now what I'm. I need to reflect about that. I'm aware that if one makes an action, there is a ground for that. Perhaps we doesn't know the reason at that moment, we are unconcious about it. If we act only for recognition and honor, then our actions are done only for this reasons. So we are dependent from them. On this way we can act many times depending from several grounds.

I am a little bit of both.I am independent in a way that i am capable of making my own decisions and dependent because i still rely on my parents about things that i can't do.

I cannot afford to be a completey independent person. When I can fix things for myself and have lots of money, then I will be independent. I am in between. Sometimes I ask independent, and sometimes dependant. I do not mean I do what everyone else says that I have to, it is just that I need help as if I put a hammer in my hand I would hit my thumb nail, if I painted a wall, I would get it over myself, I would put a bookcase up wrong, and do not know how to get a vcr to run and show the pictures.

I'm both. I am dependent on the support of my family and my guy but I am very independent when it comes to making up my mind. I will gladly will act " contradiction to what everyone else thinks"if it feels right for me.

Hi Awinds! I think no one could be fully independent or should be fully dependent. I am both, am independent in taking certain decisions, when need be and once I have taken a decision, I do not repent, thereafter. However, as regards major decisions are concerned, I would seek the advice of my better half before arriving at any decision.

Dear Awinds, I really dependant on my father for financial issues such as daily savings and internet bills but for other things like emotional well being I am totally independent. I chose who I want to be in love with and who I will trust. I chose whether where I want to go for an interview and how much I want to earn from the internet. Its all on my mind.

I am dependent on myself. I have to be that way. Growing up I didn't learn to be independent on my own. So when I moved out of my parents house I moved in a with boyfriend. I became toldly dependent on him! Six months later the relationship was over and I had to moved out! I learned pretty fast I had to be on my own. It is one of the best things that even happened to me! I will also be independent on myself! I will never go back!

I am an independent person ever since i was a kid. I guess, my parents trained me to be so. I would do things on my own if i can. Sometimes, even those physical works, like lifting some boxes, i would do them , if i can. My husband would sometimes prohibits me from doing so because he said i might injure my back. I enjoy being alone, watching TV by myself, when hubby isn't home yet. I never ask for help unless i really cannot do it. Before asking for help, i would really try to do it on my own. I think, my daughter took her being independent from us, her parents, because my husband is an independent person too.

I'm an independent person I enjoy myself, I can manage myself I find solution and improvise or adapt to any situation or circumstances. I enjoy to spend time with others and enjoy the togetherness, but like to do it in my own way if it is possible.

That's not exactly what independent means.. What you described is being introverted. Independent is being able to do things for yourself e.g pay bills,sort out problems with your life without any help. People can be independent and still like to be around people a lot, it just means they won't ask those people to provide for or help them. I'm pretty independent, yet I love hanging around other people. I just don't ask them for advice or help, because I can make my own decisiones. You can be independent and not be a recluse.

In financial part, I am really independent now. After graduated from university, I live on my own income, and never ask my parents and anyone else for money. But in spirit part, I think I still depend on my mother. When I meet problems in my live and can not deal with relationship with co-workers well, I always ask my mom for advice. In many case, my mom can not give me help, so I have to find out possible solutions. Looking for help from internet or friends is quite normal for me.

hi Awinds before I had to live here I was sharing a twobedroom aprt with myson and my age to me did not matter as I did my own cooking, washing up, house cleaning and yes I am in my eighties and so what? i am neither senile or have Alzheimer either. now living here being waited on head and foot is both daunting and somehow seems to make me feel less of a person .so I do take refuge in mylot where I can at least talk like an intelligent person if I cannot do the things I have always done for myself. For heaven;s sakes I can make my own bed and change the linen but its their job so they will not let me.so okay .My son lost his job we were evicted like a thousand other Californians so we had to find places to stay. He still only has a part time job but at least he has that now. so now I am a mix for sure.I was independent mostly once in awhile depending on my adult son for a few things namely computer maintenance.

Maybe sometimes I am independent,I went to another city after graduated from college which is far far way from my hometown(It takes me 27hours when back home by train),Then looking for new jod and rent room by myself,and made decision in everything alone,of course feel lonely sometimes.

Good discussion. I have been an independent person since age 15. I started working as a nurses aide and there were a whole floor dependent on me when the nuns went down for evening prayers. after working there 3 years then I went in the Army and you really learned independence from them. When I got married, from my learnings with my parents and how they did things, I tried to be dependent on my husband so he would be superior. When he left me 7 months pregnant with a 17 month old baby also, Thats when I broke the rule of being ever dependent on a man again. Having grown older now and have illnesses that I can't control, I try to let my husband take the lead again. But he is a very passive person so no matter how I feel I am still and guess til I die be the independent one that everyone always depends on regardless of my health. In some situations I am learning to say no though.

Friend according to my views is I am mix of both if you are asking about income then I am independent person means I spend my own earning not taking from any family members. But if you asking about family then I am dependent because I cant do anything without asking my FIL and MIL and husband.

I am an independent person though I am married, I don't depend on my husband. I make decisions for myself and the family and I will just inf0rm him later. Sometimes, I ask his opinion.