Girls Taking the First Move

A lot of girls are like that nowadays. Maybe they just want to express themselves, perhaps they are hoping that the guys feel the same way but if not then they will still feel good since there won't be any regrets in the future that they didn't do anything about their feelings. I am not one of those girls though since I will feel embarrass if the guy doesn't feel the same. Also, I don't want a guy courting me or dating me just because I like him. I want the feelings to be mutual and I want them to make the first move. I don't have anything against those girls that tell or show the guys they like how they feel, I actually think they are tough and brave. I am just not like that.

With due respect to your view, I don't see anything wrong with that. I have ever made the first move...now I remember...not just once, but twice. The first time, I got rejected because the guy already had a girlfriend. (I didn't know about that until he brought his girlfriend to meet up with me.) But the second time, I succeeded.:P There is a Chinese that goes sth like this,"When a guy pursues a gal, he is faced with a mountain; when a gal pursues a guy, it is easy." So, I don't think there are many guys who would be disappointed if they are being pursued by gals.

I think it's great that girls feel they can share their feelings openly and feel free to choose who they want to spend their lives with. I think it's harder to sustain the relationship. There's something special about a man who goes out of his way to chase you and express their interest for you, i think girls are suckers for players.

In today's world women make the first move all the time. There was a guy I was in love with years ago when I was a teen. I was to shy to make the first move. I know today it was probably for the better. Because had I not been shy and had I made a move on him, I know it would have altered the future for me. These 38 years later I still think back remembering him and still at times dream and fantasize about him. When you say girl how young are you talking? Because young girls really need to be careful about guys.

Girls have been doing that for decades. But perhaps not so much in your country. Why not? Why should guys chase the girls only? It's called equality!

Things have changed. Women are much more independent then they ever were. There is nothing wrong with the girl making the first move, it is the way it is today. It seems to me the old fashioned ways are out the window now. When I was growing up it was always the guy who asked the girl out, never the girl asking the guy, but like I said, times, they are a changing.

It is their personal choice, if they want to take the initiative, there is nothing wrong in it, to my mind.

That is depend the woman situation or how she communicate to a man she likes. I am not a modern or old fashion girl but i am not agree with the girls who did the first move in a way that the guy does not telling her she loves her. First let the guy so the first motive then the follow up goes to her.. Well maybe she doesnt want him to lose. But the point is she is not sure if he will stay or not. Some boys dont want to a girl to do the first move they turned them off. So girls be careful.

For me they are disappointed too but there are some men like it.

i was quite shocked to see a love letter by my son's classmate, she was courting him! times have really changed as women have really cope up with the equality issue, lol! honestly, i am for women who really knows what they want and able to express them, and obviously i would be really flattered!

I think it depends. But for me, I'd rather wait for the guy to make the first move because I'd be really embarrassed if the guy doesn't even like me a bit. I would just rather loose him if he doesn't have anything for me. Besides, it is really awkward. That's just how I feel about it.

We now live in a modern world and i think a girl making the first move is ok now in this generation.I once made the first move and i was glad i took the risk even if it didn't turn out very well in the end.

girls of this generation are more open and more aggressive. they don't care if they're the one's making the first move. it just depends on you whether you will stay being old-fashioned or you'll try being aggressive. you have the freedom to decide which one do you like.

Guys should definitely say the "L" word first because it is better for them to say it when they feel comfortable. Some girls are confident enough to ask guys out. Kudos to them! I honestly think that guys should do the asking out. However, Men love it because they won't have the risk of being turned down.

I believe I thought as you when I was younger and perhaps if single I probably would not be shy to "make the first move". I say this only because in reality there are just as many shy men as there are women. If we want something/anything in life we tend to strive and work hard at it. So I believe this same rule would apply to me if I felt I really liked someone.

I guess there's nothing wrong if the girl will do the first move . .we are now in a modern generation . .Its a call of equality with everyone . .Its just how the boys interpret it . . good luck