I Am Pregnant, Should I Get Married?

Hell, i almost fainted again, sweetie. Don't do that. I don't think it's necessary to get married when pregnant. It's a decision both have to make and agree on. I don't see the point though as marriages just doesn't keep in today's life. With children or not.

bhaby that was stunning! i was talking with the professor now and i just told him what you wrote. he said "what? bhaby said that?" he was truly concerned. well, if it happened say 25 years ago, i would demand that i be wed. i dont know. it is just a very shameful thing during those days. but people are practical now. for me, i will only marry if the husband to be really and truly loves me and will offer marriage.. not that i will ask. i never want to be in a shotgun wedding. ann

Errr...are you...pregnant? Well it's depends on the situation actually. So I could not say a definite answer. One thing I know for sure is that if it happened to teens or really young adults, I'd probably say hold of the marriage until they absolutely understand and are ready to get into marriage.

It is really not necessary to get married for reasons that the girl is pregnant. It is should for love. I have seen so many married for the baby and most of that end up bad. If ever my child gets pregnant at a young age I would not choose for her to get married. Maybe they could live together first and see how it. If they are meant for each other then the better. It would be sad if the baby will have unmarried parents. But it will be sadder for me to find out that they don't fit each other after the marriage. Love should be the best reason why people marry. Even if it might not be a guarantee, still there are more chances that the couple will be living together happy.

Tradionally, girls should get married when they're pregnant but this is an old tradition. Nowadays, a rational mind would think before getting married, women must not be obliged to get married just because they are pregnant. Marriage should be done when both parties are ready. They say that this will affect the child but in my own opinion, a faulty marriage affects the child more.

I don't think they should get married just because she's pregnant but because she tthey honestly love each other because I'd rather of lived with a family with a single parent over a family with parents who don't love each other and fight all the time or end up divorcing when your a lil kid

I don't think people should get married just because the girlfriend is pregnant. I think that two people should take that kind of commitment when they love each other not just because they feel responsible. Plus, just because you're married doesn't stop him from leaving you. If he doesn't love you when he took those vows he will eventually come to hate the situation and walk away. If a man feels responsible he should just step up and take care of his child. If it is a child made from love and the two of you are happy then you should wait till after the baby is born and get financially stable again. I wish you the best of luck and hope everything works out for you, the little one and the father-to-be.

I don't think it is necessary to get married because the girl is pregnant. What necessary is to give support to the baby in all ways possible (especially financial support). Couple should get married for the reason that they love each other and want to be together for the rest of their lives. Any other reason aside from that is not good enough in my opinion.

I live in a progressive country with modern ideas. In the 1960s unmarried mothers were sent to homes and for others like that. Usually the baby was adopted and then the lady moved back home. Life is very different today with some couples living together and having children. Some ladies have a baby when they are single. This is totally acceptable. I think marriage should be for love and compatibility. If the girl gets pregnant the couple could continue dating and if they live together they will know if they should be getting married. Living together unmarried is also accepted in my home country. A man that gets his girlfriend pregnant and leaves her should be ashamed with himself.

Oh no...my bhaby is pregnant and you never told me about it. And here you are proclaiming in public...international, globally Don't worry my bhaby...if the guy doesn't want to marry you..let him go to h*ll. We will raise the baby, anyway, I am now excited to see a little kwek kwek

We know for a fact that us, women , when we give in to the call of the flesh with our partner, it is always because we feel something special for that partner. Right? So, it goes to say, that whatever is the outcome, we are more or less prepared for it. But we never know if our partner is also prepared for it, though. When that happens, i think it is time to get married and be responsible for our child. But if that doesn't happen because one of us backs out or isn't prepared for it, then we have no recourse but with dignity, be responsible for our child.

Well typically, I would expect the man in your relationship to act like a man and accept his responsibilities. I would expect the man to offer to take your hand in marriage. It is more of a rule that hasn't been written down. It is a way to be certain that the father will take care of you the mother and be there for the child as a male figure if needed. If however, the decision leads to not getting married, the father must dedicate himself to take care of you and the child when need be. He simply should not, and cannot abandon you or the child.

Your topic is a bit sensitive, I think that people marry for love and for the vow of living their whole life together. If you are pregnant, then that means you love the man, so why not get married? This is not only for you but also for your baby. It is best that they get married and be responsible parents by giving the child a family. I am not judging you but I think that marriage should come first. I know we live in this modern world, but to prevent that situation of a man escaping from the situation, I think it is better to know each other well, and then when the right time comes get married. After marriage and they are both ready for the child, then that is the best time to have it. But I agree that there are situations that the child comes first, and it's not a problem either. I believe that every child is a blessing. Every child deserves a family and I think if the man and the girl love each other, they should get married, first because of the love and second for the child by becoming responsible parents.

I don't think you should get married because of the pregnancy. Getting married is a very big decision to make and I think it should only be done by two people who don't only love each other but are also ready to take the responsibility and the duties of a married life. Marriage has a lot of commitments with it like providing for your family and being there for your family. A lot is a stake here and should be talked about by you and your partner along with your families. Marriage isn't always the answer, sometimes it's even the problem.

I don't think that pregnancy is the right reason to get married. it should be because you want to spend the rest of your lives together. it may be that you already wanted to be together for the rest of your lives, then this happened before you got round to marriage, and want to be married before the baby is born, and that is fine. if you are pregnant and thinking of marriage, my advice would be this. imagine that you weren't pregnant. if so WOULD you consider marrying him? if you would marry him if you weren't pregnant, then go ahead. if the pregnancy is the reason why you would consider marrying him, then it's probably not the right thing to do.

When I was young and had heard about people getting pregnant and having to get married I just assumed that was the way it was supposed to be until a friend was saying how she hated that. I got to thinking about it as well. Ok so you make one mistake should you be stuck with the father for the rest of your life just because you got pregnant by him. No. You might have been a good match sexually but would make a terrible relationship. That wouldnt be good for the child either for the parents if they couldnt get along. I think its better when pregnant to not get married and see if the couple actually loves each other and wants to get married as if they hadent gotten pregnant first.

well don't let that be the only reason you get married...PLEASE!!! believe me, i know. i am married for love, but me and my husband have some friends who got married just because the woman was pregnant. now their marriage is suffering, as is ours, and also our friendship...don't do this until you really think about the long term affects

If I would been pregnant that would be not the reason to get married. You can be responsible for a child and you can be excellent mother without getting married. If the relationship is rocky and both of you don't feel like to be together the child will not make this relationship stronger and getting married is mistake. I wish you all the best!

NOOOO! Don't! NEVER get married just because you got pregnant. When I got pregnant, my father forced me to get married and I regret it to this day. But if you both want to get married because of love, go ahead. Just don't get married because you got pregnant. PLEASE.

As to its being necessary, it's not. But it is not at all forbidden to do so - out of love for self, for the partner, or for the child, it is a choice.