Ready to criticize but reluctant to praise.

"You cannot have light without darkness ... where the darkness abound, there the light does much more abound." That's what came to mind.

I don't have a problem when it's constructive criticism. But if it's to criticize because one is jealous (which is mostly the case of), then i don't partake in such. I have been a victim of envious criticisms and i was really hurt a lot. I tried to prove to them though that i was really capable and deserved what i got.

That is quite true, people tend to be criticize than praise. I think that is the nature of human behavior. Some people feel better when someone get hurt rather see them happy. For example, when someone fell down, most of the people will laugh at the victim, but how many people actually will go forward to give a helping hand? I think only people who are really well being taught about manner will help other without thinking twice. In fact, if everyone can take down their pride and praise other more often, I think this world will be more peaceful and more happiness.

As always, you have interesting observations: It is very true that many of us really like to criticize, but we don't really like to praise somebody. I think I am not an exception, but I always try to control myself, as I think it is not my right nor my business to make some statements about individuals. But because I am an emotional type, there are many times when I get carried away and I criticize. As for praising, I cannot do it very easily, as I am hard to be enthusiast by something or somebody.

I agree that is is common of human nature to criticize when there is the right opportunity and when someone is praised just not to bother and in fact if possible not to be a part of the entire session during which someone else is been getting praised. This happens at all levels, whether it is as a student in school, or as an employee working in a company, but then there are people who learn from experiences and change their ways. If someone else is getting praised and you are not in his position then that person who is getting praised must be having definitely something more than what you have, some additional qualities. The best thing to do is to congratulate that person and then learn how to move ahead with things in life. It is always good to have a healthy competition because that brings out the best that a person has in him.

I rarely criticize people, I try to highlight the good in everyone. Are someone doing very wrong I try to say try to it this way, it'll probalby work well for you. When someone have done well I love to give admiration with positive compliments. I've myself pretty much been the target for people pinpointing all my wrong doings until I an seen as useless in their value. After that I leave these people, encouraging myself doing things to build up my self-worth. I try always to praise and say up lifting appreacting words to people.

I think you are correct that for most people criticism flows off the tongue more easily than praise. If you are with a group of people that is busy with criticism, you feel normal, like you belong or fit in. What do we feel if we are with a group of people praising another? After a bit we do not feel that comfortable. We will start to recall some criticism about that person, and then see if we can fit them into the conversation.

Why would we provide MORe information when someone is being criticized? Maybe to make it completely open and all known but rather than that I don't see why someone would do that. Criticsm is sometimes positive and helps make a person better but only when done in growing type situation.

You know it is so easy to fall into this habit. It's as if we feel the more we can criticized another person the better we feel we are. In truth it is just false pride. I listened the other day to a group of five women tear apart a new boyfriend. I was so tempted to stick up for him, but felt this would cause the others to dislike me. Coward that I was when I left the group I really didn't feel any reason to continue my connection with them. Now looking back I realize that I lost an opportunity to see if any of them were open to a different point of view. Maybe next time I'll be braver.

Doctordidi, it is human nature to get caught up in these types of conversations. There is this person in my family who can make me upset with someone that I really care about. She just has a way of manipulating you into this web where when she's finished talking, you are angry with the person also. I hate that, so I catch myself fighting that now and recognizing that I need to gain control and realize this person speaking is just to good at what she does. I don't want to be a part of that sort of goings on.

Think of it, this is what really happened in our society. Sad to acknowledge it but it is true. Therefore, I think we should give credit and praise when it's due, to give encouragement and appreciation. It is a win-win situation, for example if an employer give praise to a salesperson who achieve his sales target, he will feel more encouraged and feel appreciated. This will drive him to work harder and achieve better results.

I have found this to be true and simply because I have witnessed it with offline people as well. I am in no means a perfect person, but can say that it is not a good feeling to take part in criticizing others for the sake of gaining praise. I have sensed this from time to time amongst peers and I know enough not to partake. I would not like to be the victim, therefore, I know how that feeling can be hurtful, therefore, I do not partake with such actions. If I as much as sense that is the direction it is going it is time for me to change the subject and or leave.

I do not support this bad habit. I think it is equally good we call a spade a spade. I was taught at a very early age to say the truth and to condemn what is bad. If someone does the right thing, then praise him or her. if someone does the wrong thing then is it right to critize and also to teach the person the correct ways to conduct himself or herself. we should avoid fake praises and stand for what is generally acceptable as the right way of doing things.

i always do what is right, if something is to be criticized i do it, but if something is to be praised then i also do so, I don't follow what other do. I go by my own understandings of thing rather than following the crowd.