Do you feel irrelevant sometimes and useless?
By vycess
@vycess (1588)
Saudi Arabia
August 26, 2011 9:11pm CST
I hate when I can't help my family especially in financial matter. My brother needs money this coming end of the month and I can't give him money because my salary will be given 5-6th day of september. They are worried that my bro can't take the exam if they will not find someone to lend them some money. I want to help as soon as possible but it is not as easy as that. I hate this feeling I want to help but I can't. I will try to talk to my boss and I hope I can advance my salary.
6 responses
@katrinapaz (2436)
• Philippines
27 Aug 11
i am sorry about your situation now vycess and i can feel for you. there are really times when we wanted to help but we do not have the resources. maybe a relative of yours can lend money or they can pawn some itmes for the meantime. that is only a suggestion 
@katrinapaz (2436)
• Philippines
29 Aug 11
you are welcome and i am happy that you have contemplated my suggestion. in times of difficulty, loaning or pawning things or selling things can save us from hunger and that is based from my experience.
@bounce58 (17385)
• Canada
30 Aug 11
If I am not mistaken, you're not married yet vycess. Am I right?
I ask, because as hard as it is to feel financially useless, it is much harder to be financially incapable when you're dealing with your own family. That's the hardest thing.
So, don't beat yourself up on it. I'm sure your family would find a way!
@randylovesdar (4932)
• United States
27 Aug 11
I know it is hard when you want to help your brother, but can't because of finacial issues. I am sure that he will understand. I know my husband and I have bene struggling as well and it has been a burden for us as well. I hope that your boss will advance you the money. Try asking him for a small amount as opposed to asking for the whole amount, maybe if you do not ask for all of it up front that he may want to help.
@Awinds (2468)
• United States
27 Aug 11
Most of us go through this at some point. For example my closet friend is experiencing financial strangling right now. This is very hard for her because she has been well off all her life. But as of right now I am strapped myself - I am barely paying the basics the right now. That doesn't leave me with a lot of spare funds so yes I do know the feeling of being useless. You want to help but you can't. There is no place to pull the help out of. It is a horrible feeling.
@veedee13 (242)
• United States
27 Aug 11
Yes of course.There are points that i guess everyone is just so tired around the house so they say mean stuff to me.I'm not supposed to like take it seriously because i know they don't mean it,but sometimes you can't just help but feel useless when they tell you hurtful things.
