What's wrong with marrying a foreigner?

There is absolutely no wrong in marrying a foreigner . If the bond of love is strong does boundaries really matter ? Whether it is national or international citizens tying the bond the main issue remains their understanding and ability to adopt each other's customs , traditions and culture . As for the success of this marriage it is all in the hands of God . We are all God's children and it is His blessings that can tie us till eternity .

This has been a problem in many cultures. Those who are deep into the tradition of their ancestors want to see the old ways and traditions thrive. The only way to guarantee that is to have the kids marry within their own culture. Many a family has been torn apart over this issue and it's really sad. I have often wondered..did God set up the world for different cultures to give us variety and to make it more 'interesting' or did He intend for us all to intermarry and eventually become 'one. Maybe we will someday know...

I guess there really is nothing wrong with marrying a foreigner as long as you really love them and can see past all differences. so I agree with you. You should take some time to be sure that you have common interests and genuinely like one another. And as for the families not liking the woman, that too just like divorce being common on all cases, has been a long time issue. Hence the dreaded "mother-in-law". Now nobody take offence in that term as I am not one that has an issue with mine. In fact I talk to my mother-in-law and do more with her than my own mother. Not really by choice just thats how it has been. We genuinely care about each other. She gave me a chance from the very beginning.

does not matter to me, no not at all.. whatever your gate is,.. who you are destined to be witt for the rest of your life is yours and not my business. this same goes for whichever i like, whomever i marry. i think people are just naturally judgmental.. whether we marry, there is an issue, we marry a person from different culture, there is yet another issue.. whatever you do people will talk... but for me, no.. there is really nothing wrong with marrying a foreigner!

starlight_starbright, From the relationship standpoint, there will not be any issue if both people are able to work together through differences, issues, conflicts, the willingness to stay committed and devoted to each other. A lot of times, such marriages are being dogged with cultural issues especially when they are being brought up with a different tradition and culture. Even with couples within the same country, all of us have different upbringing and family values. But, when we venture outside, I am sure the difference is even much greater. So, there's really a lot of adjustment and adapting for both parties. What you've brought up has another predominant problem - language which is so vital for couples to communicate. It would really be a challenge when couples have to learn each others' languages when they do not have a common language. Though, it can be interesting and adds novelty into the relationship, I can assure you that the process can be excruciating. Like you, I do not have anything against such relationships or marriages but like all couples they must be able to not only be able to look at each other, they need to be able to look at the same direction.

It does matter, and it matters a great deal. Everything matters in marriage, because by its nature, it is taking two people, and combining them into one. You are no longer 'you' but 'you and her' or 'you and him'. Because of this merging of two different people, everything can have an effect on the ability of the marriage to survive. Now, you are correct that divorce can happen anywhere under any situation or culture. However, I would suggest it might not be wise to say it doesn't matter. No matter how careful a person is, they still smash their fingers in a door now and then. Does that mean you don't care where you put your fingers now, since it can happen no matter how careful you are? You should get to know the other persons family, and you should take that person to meet your family, and you should do this many times before you get married, and determine how they related to you, and how your family relates to them. And if there is a problem, you should consider that. I have known people, even now, that are considering leaving their marriage because of the spouses family. This is not a good plan. Further, there are cultural differences. In one family, a big issue was over religion. People tend to think that religion and culture is different. In the western world this is mostly true. But not so in other areas of the world. One person believes one thing, and the other another thing, and we don't care here. (or pretend we don't) But in the rest of the world, changing faith is equal to rejecting your family, country, and culture. You are no longer an Arabian, if you reject Islam for example. How would you like to have the family of your spouse, sending him/her pictures of prospective wives or husbands, because they do not even except your marriage as legitimate? This has, and is, happening today. Some would say, forget them, it's about you and your spouse only. That's simply not true. It's about your family, and his family, and everything between. Sisters, brothers, cousins and so on. And even if it was about just you and the other person, there are cultural expectations. A Japanese wife would expect me to take my shoes off at the door, and would become unhappy if I didn't. That's a minor thing, but it is a thing. A middle east wife would expect I wash my head and feet and hands before eating. Again, minor, but its still an expectation based on cultural history. And these play into discipline of the children, acceptable forms of entertainment, and so on. Now I am in no way suggesting a person should not marry a foreign person. But differences do matter, and you should deal with them head on in pre-marriage counseling. And do not marry until you do.

I don’t see anything wrong with it. Several years ago, I was ready to marry a lady of Kuwaiti descent? I am an American, but my parents accepted her also. Unfortunately, I screwed up the relationship, but her nationality was never an issue for us. I think my being an American was more of an issue to her parents, even though this was in the days before 9/11. I would still have married her if I hadn’t messed things up. Even though this was almost 12 years ago, and I have since married and divorced another woman, I still have feeling for this lady I loved so long ago, and now that I am single, I would like to be with her again. She has married someone else now, though, and I think they are still together. I haven’t heard from her in a few years. I would really like to see her again though…

Since I married a career military man, I have seen more married couples that are of mixed nationalities than the average American. It is mostly service men who met their wives while stationed in their home country. There are three in this block alone. Since it is so common for a serviceman to marry an Asian woman, we do not usually even think of them as being of a different race. What is more likely to cause problems is when two Americans of different races marry. That perturbs me.

I do not believe there is a problem marring someone with a different nationality. My uncle who is American is married to a women in the Philippians. They are happy and are no where near getting a divorce. Like you said people are people it depends on the personality and how they are. There is no say what kind of people should be together and if we were limited to our own country then how would we find our soul mates. Plus some people really like other nationalities and some people only date people of a certain ethic. People are the key word to making a relationship work. I have dated Hispanics and Caucasians (my own race) and the relationship with the Hispanic seems to work better and that is another race.

hi, for me,there's no wrong with marrying to a foreigner,sometimes people just only being over react or very exaggerated when they know that a woman will get marry to a foreigner,some of them accused them easily that only the money or wealthiness of the foreigner they only wanted and reason why they get married.

There is nothing wrong with marrying a foreigner as long as you two know each other and the love is there. People are judging others, they should stop that. What if they are in that situation? Do you think they will be happy too? Lets just be nice to everyone.

A marriage that lacks love, respect and trust is bound to fail no matter what the race or cultural background. There's nothing wrong with marrying a foreigner. These are modern times we are living in. Nothing is impossible or taboo when it comes to love. =)

What's so wrong about falling in love with someone of another background? In Australia where I live, it's practically normal to have for example a Korean woman with a European man. I have a cousin who is half Australian and half Vietnamese. It's awesome being half and having different backgrounds. It's great to have a multicultural family. love comes in different shapes and sizes. And yes, marriages are also unpredictable, there are good ones and bad ones, regardless of racial background.

Marrying a foreigner is not wrong in itself. The things however to consider is that since both of them grow in different places with different cultures, lots of adjustment will be made. In any case, these adjustments can be worked out by the couple as long as they see it as something that will strengthen their marriage ties.

Nothing wrong with it at all. Take a look at my screen name. My mother is Danish, and my father is Canadian.

I don’t see anything wrong with it. Several years ago, I was ready to marry a lady of Kuwaiti descent? I am an American, but my parents accepted her also. Unfortunately, I screwed up the relationship, but her nationality was never an issue for us. I think my being an American was more of an issue to her parents, even though this was in the days before 9/11. I would still have married her if I hadn’t messed things up. Even though this was almost 12 years ago, and I have since married and divorced another woman, I still have feeling for this lady I loved so long ago, and now that I am single, I would like to be with her again. She has married someone else now, though, and I think they are still together. I haven’t heard from her in a few years. I would really like to see her again though…

I love it. We are all human so as long as the couple love each other they should couple up and not mind what anyone else think about it. I see it as a way of becoming one flesh again. Like we were in the beginning. Before the tower of Babel.

There's never anything wrong with marrying someone outside your group. Many have done it. What you and others said here, marrying a foreigner and marrying someone from the same group are generally not that much different. In the Asian culture, language barrier may make things difficult, but this happens in other culture as well. It would be wise if a potential wife spend time in her boyfriend's country to see if she likes it or not. This could take time and she would need to be sure if she wants to live in her boyfriend's environment. If not, she would be miserable after they got married. Hopefully, there should not be any pressure although in some Asian culture, there is still arranged marriages. Still in the context of Asian culture, another possibility could be if the potential husband lives in a very appealing country like Japan, USA, Canada, UK, and other countries that many people would love to live in. There is no certainty, but generally many would not pass on the idea of living in the US for example. The worst scenario could be if the husband becomes abusive or vice versa.

HELLO starlight I think that if the couple understand each other and comprehend, if they have things in common, and of course if they love each other, they can have a good marriage. My husband is from Guyana but don't know that country, because he grew up here in U.S. I am Dominican and we have a lot differences but at the same time a lot of similarities, but the most important is that we love each other and value each other.

I believe that love and understanding are very important. No matter what people says around you. If you can build a happy familly with your wife or husband then you need to do it. It is not easy to find a perfect wife or husband but if you'll listen your heart you sure will have a happy family. For me, no matter where from are. Very important is to have that feeling who can make me to feel a body, entire with my wife. We need to be half of each other, to complete each other. There are more things to say. No matter where from is your partner.