Will it be good to maintain friendship with persons who younger than you?
By Shineveramya
@Shineveramya (530)
India
August 27, 2011 9:44am CST
Nowadays i'm getting friends who were younger than me( 4 yrs ). I feel happy when they treat me equal to their age friend. I feel like i decreased my age. But sometimes when they teasing more i feel i'm losing my prestige in front of them. Do anybody feel this? How you manage friendship with youngsters?
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18 responses
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
27 Aug 11
I have officemates who are just of the same age level as my 29 yr. daughter. I am friends and get along well with them. We enjoy our conversations together, because they said they learn a lot from me, being much experienced than them. They in turn do make me laugh and happy with their stories too.
Though, i am more closer of course to those just 10 or more years younger than me and still prefer my friends who are of same level or older than me.
@Shineveramya (530)
• India
27 Aug 11
I was happy too when we shared funny moments and all. But problem arised when they tease me.
@Shineveramya (530)
• India
28 Aug 11
Yeah i tease them too. But sometimes i realize that i'm elder than them and should get respect from them. We're two friends. She is elder than me. Other girls give respect to my friend and they dont give to me. They told since i behave childish they dont feel to call me with respect.
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
28 Aug 11
Teasing is part of the enjoyment of friends. When they tease you, then throw it back to them.
@huilichan8 (1378)
• Singapore
27 Aug 11
Yes, it is good to maintain friendship with persons who are younger. In fact, I have friends who are significantly older and significantly younger than myself. How do I manage friendship with someone younger? Well, I show them respect. I respect their views. I do not impose my views on them.
@Shineveramya (530)
• India
27 Aug 11
Yeah! If we behave like elder to them, nothing goes wrong. But when we behave equal to their age, that makes things.
@huilichan8 (1378)
• Singapore
28 Aug 11
I believe there is certain childlikeness in each of us, no matter how old we are. I don't see any problem with behaving like my young friends, as long as I am not faking it. Why don't you try to laugh it off when your young friends tease you? I don't feel bothered when they tease me; I simply laugh it off. At least that works for me. I have a very old friend, who is her sixties, and I can get along with her. She is very childlike in her manners. Occasionally, I like to tease her in a light-hearted way. She is not bothered by my teasing. In fact, she will try to tease me back. I like to be in the company of young friends, because they tend to be more carefree and that could actually rub it off on me.
@Shineveramya (530)
• India
28 Aug 11
Yes. In initial days i also laughed with them. But when it happens always, i feel little bad. They behave friendly with another my friend too who is elder than me. They enjoy, share jokes and laugh together. At the same time they give her respect. But to me they make fun and play and tease more. It hurts me a little.
@pankajgarg (797)
• India
28 Aug 11
I maintain friendship with people in an age group which includes youngsters and as well as elders and this way the increasing age is never a concern.
@Shineveramya (530)
• India
28 Aug 11
I never thought of their age. But when they take more advantage like ordering me and giving more advice it makes me to think about my age.
@pankajgarg (797)
• India
28 Aug 11
We do not make friends by their age but we are able to adjust with people of a certain age only and meanwhile younger friends tend to entertain us and the elder ones advice the best.
Have a nice day!
@Shineveramya (530)
• India
28 Aug 11
How you will react if they order you to do something and denote your mistakes and give advice?
@viju0410 (2286)
• India
29 Aug 11
Age difference has never bothered me in friendship so far and I enjoy being the all younger as well as elder to me. I share a very healthy friendship with most of them. It is always important for me how our temperament match and how well we handle all the friends.
@Shineveramya (530)
• India
30 Aug 11
Even i enjoyed much with them initially. But when they starts treating younger than them, ordered me and advice me more, i got irritated.
@Harmonics (251)
• Philippines
30 Aug 11
Age can only become a barrier to friendship if you allowed it to. It's a common thing that people of different age and even background can develop a close friendship together. It is not with the age but rather on the values that connects you together that will make the bond more stronger.
@Shineveramya (530)
• India
30 Aug 11
Well described. But in my case sometimes they treat younger than them. That thing i cant bear. I dont feel this problem with all my young friends. Only with few.
@ladygator (3465)
• United States
27 Aug 11
I really dont see ages being so much of a factor in friendships. People are more the factor in how they actually act. There are mature people and immature people. It can be a very separate piece of the persons personality. And really 4 years is not much of a difference to me. I have several friends that are 10 years younger than me and my husband is 10 years older than me. In regular day to day things this is not something that can be noticed. But he does have more wisdom in certain areas and that is something that I like. The friends I have that are younger than me are surprised when I reveal my age. I am pretty sure that they are just having fun with you to see what your reaction will be. I am sure its all in fun.
@Shineveramya (530)
• India
28 Aug 11
Making fun is good and common in friendship. i knew it too. But they used to order me and advice me more and suggest me you might have done like this and that. These are all irritating me.
@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
28 Aug 11
Hi shine!
I have lots of friends who are younger than me. Many of them treat me as their equals, like I'm at the same age with them. But many also treat me as someone older, they even call me "Ate" which means big sister. But I don't mind. I got used to it since I was in my second year in college.
I do not have troubles getting along with them. They respect me and I respect them. If they are teasing me, I just go with the flow. I mean, it's a tease, it's not meant to be taken seriously. Then I also tease them. Teasing is just a form of having fun. But it's true that there are jokes that are below the belt or those that cross the line. If you didn't like the joke then tell them. But not in a very serious manner, because you don't know if they are just playing or not.
@Shineveramya (530)
• India
30 Aug 11
Yes. you're right.I know whats the difference between play and serious thing. They annoying me. They used to order me and advice me more. That irritates...
@Shineveramya (530)
• India
30 Aug 11
Ha Ha very funny explanation. For me also age doesn't a factor when everything goes right. I dont feel the same with all other younger friends. Few will annoy me like ordering me and advice me in my things. Those irritating. Otherwise im also happy with them.
@sjvg1976 (41289)
• Delhi, India
28 Aug 11
Hello Shine,
I love to have friends of age younger than me as it gives me feeling that i am still young.But i don't hesitate to have friendship with people elder than me as they teach me right ways when i stuck somewhere.
@Shineveramya (530)
• India
30 Aug 11
Yeah. I felt the same at first. I felt like i reduced my age. But as time passed, they taking more advantage and ordering me and all. Thats the problem
@Shineveramya (530)
• India
28 Aug 11
I was happy too when they treat me as their age friend. I felt like i decreased my age. But how it will be if they order us and give more advice?
@fantabulus (4000)
• India
28 Aug 11
Hi....
For friendship not necessary the age same even a small child can also make a friends and elder person can also make a friend no matter of age for true and innocent friendship. Even our parents are also our friends.
@Shineveramya (530)
• India
30 Aug 11
I never thought about age till the problem arise. I'll be happy with all age group people.
@bond027 (107)
• India
28 Aug 11
I don't think age has anything to do with friendship..Well its true though that you tend to make friends of same age more often but its not compulsory always or in all cases..!! So if you want to make friends just do it..!!And moreover friendship is about understanding so if you are good friends then automatically you both have good understanding....and when there is understanding then there is no question of loosing anything I guess..:-)
Wish you all the best and hope you get true friends in life...!!
Happy Mylotting..:-)
@Shineveramya (530)
• India
30 Aug 11
I agree with your concept. If there is a good misunderstanding there wont be problem in age or whatever. Thanks for your valuable opinion. :)
@Mar121710 (49)
• Philippines
28 Aug 11
Most of my friends are younger than me like 4-5 years, and I get along very well. Yeah, it does make you feel less older. Hmmm...About the teasing part, I usually do the teasing (but I make sure I won't go overboard), and when they tease back, I find it fun. If i feel it's out of bounds, I just tell them to stop. And thank God, they listen. One advantage of being older. :)
@Shineveramya (530)
• India
30 Aug 11
But in my case, they're not realizing it that im elder than them. They telling like they matured than me and advice me more.
@kaplya (1578)
• India
27 Aug 11
It feels good if you have younger friends they kind of remind you of what you were like when you were their age. I have a few friends who are younger than me and we do have fun talking and when they do tease me about my being older than them I tease them too about their being so young and immature and that they need to grow up! It's all good when it's done only for pulling each others' leg but when some friend picks up on you for being older better break friendship with them.
@Shineveramya (530)
• India
28 Aug 11
When they teased me initially i enjoyed too. But when they started ordering me and give me advice it makes me to realize that im elder than them and i know all.
@jricky1 (6800)
• China
28 Aug 11
I feel happy that i could have such friend and keep our friendship longer.I feel even become younger when i stay with them,but i think it would be great and listen to them and communicate with each other genuinely.It's been a great relationship that others won't have,just enjoy and cherish it.
@ClassyLady1 (109)
• United States
28 Aug 11
I have many friends more than 20 years younger than I am. I feel that keeps me thinking younger therefore feeling younger. Don't worry about your 'prestige' - just let them know that they are being disrespectful and that 'older' folks don't appreciate that. If they are horsing around like children, tell them they need to 'grow up' when they are around you. If they truly want to be your friend, they will abide by that.
How I manage friendship with much younger people: I respect their point of view, if it is too far off base, I explain to them why they should consider a different point of view and try to lead them in the appropriate direction.
I think it is wonderful to have friends of any age and love being around younger people as long as they are respectful, talk using decent language and act in an appropriate manner for the company they are in.
@sirulrike034 (166)
• Philippines
28 Aug 11
Yes, I have friends older than me and younger than me. In my work, I am the youngest and my colleagues treat me like their youngest brother. I also have a group of friends wherein I am one of the eldest, I always feel responsible for the youngsters actions. What I did is I talked to other older members to gather ideas to create rules to follow. So far, the group is still going strong and the members are well bonded. Being with youngsters is okay, we can share our experiences and we can also learn new ideas from them.