Too Young to Marry / Too Educated to marry? ( a rant)

You say that in south girls are marrying very young,what south mean?is it india.? If so your are wrong,friend...i old india it was true only certain village girls are till get married on their younger age.As per new surveys indian womens have more educational qualification than american womens.know a days indian girls are gaving education more important and they are not married as youngsters..

Isn't there more important things to reasearch then this trash? Come on! Why do we need to know this information? I could care less! If a person wants to marry or not,they have the choice. It is their decsion! No matter if they are young or not! Then there are the people like us who never will get married! It is our choice!

They probably were going in the direction of more educated people have different goals..like having a career...where others without an education have different ones too...but I can see your point. It was too broad and included too many people. The funny thing is that once someone was talking about a study that was done....come to find out there were only a hundred people in the whole study yet everyone bought into the results? Why.....like sheep led to the slaughter!

marrying has nothing to do with age. some people marry young and still had their education and they live happily ever after, there are also people who married young and they are still together. there are also people who married late and even they are educated they separate. it is all in a case to case basis. marriage works out on people who are willing to make it work. there are a lot of educated people who got married but still look dumb at the end.

Broad generalisations like these never work, as there's always exceptions. Who cares anyway? If someone wants to get married, whatever their age or educational level, good luck to them.

I think that to be married we have to understand a lot of things that when we are young we don't, for example today I woke at 5:45 to prepare my son breakfast and get him ready to go school,I cooked grits with sausage for my husband, corn meal for my son, rice with tuna fish for lunch for my husband,iron his uniform (second time because I did it before but he scrunched again), give my husband a massage because his back was hurting a lot, and besides satisfy him sexually because he didn't want to work like that, and all what I wanted was go back to sleep but I know that a marriage is like a company in which we have to be hard worker to see the fruits, I know that if I would be 20 or 23 maybe I will quit maybe I will say that this is too much, but I know that I am a very important piece in this puzzle and that without my efforts this marriage wouldn't go on. So I understand why a woman with experience don't get marry as easy, the people of this time like more the Mc Donald,(fast food)than to cook a healthy food, like more the microwave, than to cook real food,don't care how the kids are going dressed to school, so I really understand and think that is correct that if they don't think they can deal with a marriage don't get married, that the best solution. But for me this is the most beautiful experience being married I already studied,I already worked two jobs,I know what getting up early to work, I know what is paying the bills without any help. So I feel great in this new experience because i only have some months of marriage.

Stupid statistics! My duster married at 19 and it worked. Mom married at 21, and it didn't. She married again at 47, and it worked. I married at 25 and it worked. I agree that education gives people different reasons to marry, but there's no such thing as being too educated or too uneducated to marry.

I agree, my friend, that smart people do get married. I think that a lot of people who marry young are simply not mature enough to make that sort of decision. They don't know what they're facing. They think it's going to be all hearts and flowers and have no idea what's really involved in making long lasting relationship. The key is making sure they are both equally ready for what lies ahead. I don't think age matters, per se.

Much to my dismay, it seems to be the thing for young adults to live together and even produce children rather than getting married. That may reduce the number of divorces, but it does not reduce the numbar of broken homes.

Well since I haven't read the article, I can't speak much on what it was trying to say, but it doesn't sound to me like it meant that only young, stupid people marry. It sounds like it's just pointing out a correlation, which does not necessarily mean that one causes the other. Firstly, of course those who marry young are more likely to divorce. Kids are stupid. That is a fact. As a fairly young person, I can certainly attest to this. lol. When we are young, we have unrealistic ideals about the future and things are not so black and white in the real world. We grow up and we start wanting different things. Sometimes, the people we spend time with start heading down a different path than us. That's just how things are. About the education thing, Women who get a higher education are generally going to be more financially independent than those who haven't, so if a marriage isn't working out, they are going to have more resources to leave, and therefore those with a lower level of education may be more likely to stay. They will also be more likely to get married in the first place. If a woman does go to college, then she is more likely to be more career-, rather than family-focused, so she will be less likely to marry or wait until she has her career, which would make her a bit older when she does get married, and as I said before, of course older couples are a bit more likely to stay together. I know what you are saying and I certainly understand why you would find this article offensive, but the information itself really makes a lot of sense to me. I just don't think that it indicates what you were interpreting it to mean. Perhaps the article was very misleading or is misrepresenting the information.

hi sarah, i guess in some way this is true. you see, a girl (or even the parents) lets her marry at a young age because they think there will be someone who will be giving her the basics which they cannot because they are no longer getting younger. when a girl reachers her marrying age (sometimes, younger - like teens) the parents start to let them go independent. hence if she is already needing to be independent, yet she cannot do because she doesnt have skills nor education to boast of. in areas where there are not much recreation, too, they marry young. ann

That's interesting! So education and marriage don't mix?! I always thought that education and academics are with the head, and love and marriage is with the heart, so I don't see why one would get in the way of the other. But, I'm just a guy, so I don't know much about these things.

Much water has flown under the bridge since the institution of marriage not to say marriages were successful even in the good old days. I look at it as a package deal and each package has different contents depending on the needs of the couple. Along the way things go awry leading to divorce or separation. It is better that way than living in misery and this thing about 'young or educated' it has no role to play in this equation.

I don't agree with that either. What makes women in the north smarter then women in the south? Are they saying that a southern girl is stupid and dumb? I think kids today are much smarter then they were years ago. I also think that marriage is just not a big deal anymore. There are very few people that marry these days that stay married for a lifetime. Getting married just gives legal rights to each others money and possessions. Marriage should me listed as a bad word in the dictionary.

I know I havent married yet is because I didn't find the right man until I met my boyfriend. It has nothing to do with my education or my age. I have a college degree and am older, but none of that matters. What matters was finding the right man to who would love me and treat me the right way. I have been in other relationships where if they asked I would have married them, but it wasn't "right." Now I am with the man I will marry and I am glad I waited that long for him to come my way.

People who seek to further their education tend to delay marriage. Those with higher levels of education also tend to marry those with similar levels of educational attainment. In other words, like marries like. However, as one delays marriage, the pool of people available to fill the role of potential mate dwindles. Our culture emphasizes youth and a certain prescribed idea of beauty, so women often face a tougher dating scene as they age. When one marries early, one generally hasn't had a chance yet to attain a higher level of education, see much of the world, or really date very many people. While that may work for some people, that really doesn't work for most people.

For me, it does not depend whether the couple married early or not. The success of their marriage really depends 0the couple. If the couple are really good in facing the obstacles of marriages and if they are responsible enough. Then i think their marriage would really last long. It does not matter that you have to be smarter to be old enough to marry. The couple should work on their marriage together in order to make their marriage last long.

Both the statements show the dilemma situation of the people, no one in this world is satisfied in either way, you see some says getting married in young age is not a good decision and it will end up soon and some says too educated women will not be fit in the family and life because she may keep on arguing on one and another thing, i think it depends upon the partner that how well they carry on the relation and understands each other, love is the only thing which need to carry on with the relation, keep your mind aside and let heart do everything then all is going to be well.