Her guards were high
By tryxiness
@tryxiness (4544)
Philippines
August 28, 2011 12:14pm CST
She has been ranting about him for more than a month now. It was still fresh when she finally admitted and accepted that he broke her heart. There was sadness in her eyes and the aura was different – she was carrying a heavy vibe.
I wanted to console her that everything will be ok, and what she was experiencing was a mere phase of any broken hearted being. I wanted to hug her. But I prayed silently – and I know deep in her heart she would be fine.
Today, I was with her in an event. She was telling me that he would be around. I stayed, and just observed her. My friend was quite pretty today. I don’t know if she intended to be, but people noticed her – they would compliment her – she was blooming they would say.
She pointed to me the guy. He was not good looking but they kinda look ok together. How could I contest what she feels – when I am no one to judge him. She was nice to the guy I guess. She would smile and would pat him on the back. I could feel the connection between them – but I also feel that her guards were high, pretty high indeed. Each time the guy would attempt to hold her hands she would gently shove his hands… an attempt, I guess, to show that she was in control.
I wanted to understand her more. I know that her healing heart is still young… and she is still struggling to move forward.
I empathize with her feelings. She will be ok I guess. She will definitely be.
I heard that the guy is in a relationship now.
Just sharing.
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4 responses
@nenyalorien (899)
• Philippines
28 Aug 11
I think she was doing the right thing. If he already chose to move on, then that was his choice to make. If he regrets that he let her go, then he's the fool. Whatever flaws she showed that caused him to look elsewhere couldn't have been insurmountable. A partner worth having will accept even your flaws. So now that she's radiant, he wants her back? That's not right. She should be found by a man who will cherish and celebrate her, flaws and all. Good luck to your friend, and kudos to you for being a great friend, tryx! :)
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@tryxiness (4544)
• Philippines
28 Aug 11
That's it. She should be found by a man who will cherish and celebrate her.
She is ok I guess (or she will be). 
@mensab (4200)
• Philippines
29 Aug 11
i think she will be fine, as you said. she is taking her own sweet time before she jumps into relationship again. from your story she seems to be brave. may i ask, do you have a crush on her? i am just wondering why you noticed her and even made her a discussion here. well, if you like her bro, go and woo her. wishing you the best.
@tryxiness (4544)
• Philippines
29 Aug 11
Hahaha! I am straight.
She is a friend whom I hang-out with most of the time. We were in the same event - our offices organized an activity where that boy was invited. 
She is a friend whom I hang-out with most of the time. We were in the same event - our offices organized an activity where that boy was invited. 
@RDotson (51)
• United States
1 Sep 11
It is a very sad but familiar story. I know she will do much better without him, he is not worth shedding a tear over since he moved on so fast. I can never realize how it is that men do not seem to hurt as much as most women do. I would love to hear a mans point of view on this. I am not saying they do not hurt at all, I am just saying it seems like a woman's wounds always tend to be deeper and bleed longer. I guess for sake of argument men have to protect their egos and they move on quicker to prove to themselves that they can still get another woman. But I feel that is very selfish also, as I feel a lot of men think about themselves first anyway. I know she will do better without him, tell her if she continues to feel pain to pray daily for strength, as this has always helped me.
