Till' When Can You Wait?

Oh my god what's your parents thinking about? I can not image that you two have relationship for 9 years and also you have a baby. My BF and I will get married nxet year as we have the relationship for 6 years and in the begining my family also do not like him but as time goes by, they found that we love eachother so deeply and we can face to the diffculity together, so we are prepare for the wedding ceremony now. I do noe understand why your family do not accept your BF but I think you should try your best to make chance and let them get well with eachother. I do not think that one person can wait for another for the whole life and maybe your BF is another kind but is it your wish? what will you do if one day he feel tired?

Why will your family not accept him even aftre you have child together??? You two should just go ahead and get married. You have family together already. He has responsibility for the two of you even if your family dont like him. They may never like him. Go ahead and marry. Think of how your child will feel.

On reaching 21, a person should have already gained his/her passport to freedom. Parental control should no longer exist as they already reach full maturity to think for themselves and lead an independent life. I think your parents have exceeded the boundary as parents. For once, you should rebel and tell them that it is you who is getting married and what ever the outcome of your choice is none of their concern anymore. They would definitely be unhappy to hear it but how much longer can you wait for their approval when you already have a child that needs both parents intact to grow up normally.

Am sure i cant wait that long, anyway in your case if you two love each other and you also had kid you should be married soon why wait for permission, without permission you had already a kid so whats there to wait get married and go ask your parent that you like to live life like this, am sure your parents would surely understand your feelings and accept you and your boyfriend.

Hello my new friend Love2. Love is beautiful! I am happy that you are in love. Love is the most beautiful feeling we can feel. Well I think you are an adult and he is too, you pay your bills and taxes without the help of your parents and he does too, you took a more important decision than to get married, because you took the decision to bring a baby to the world. If guys did something something as important as having a baby together, I don't see why you don't take a decision about your relationship, at the end you both work and are adults, so your parents can agree or not but anyway your boyfriend is not going to marry with your mother or he is not going to marry your father,he wants to marry you, so forget about what your parents say if you really love him. But on the other side of this I would say that the parents most of the time are correct when they don't want a specific person with their daughter,because they can see what we don't see. I would recommend to defend your love and talk with your parents ask them why they don't want him, if you love him so much, if they give you a good reason, try to investigate more about him, I know that you have 9 years with him but maybe have being 9 years of blindness,if you are sure that what your parents say is not true talk to them with proves to convince them. And I wouldn't worry for him, because if he really love you and your parents are wrong, he will wait for you. Of course not twenty, thirty,or fifty. years but he will wait for you. :)

Oh my god, you are just 21. So it's strange your parents can't accept the boy. Although you and you BF have fallen in love with eacn other 9 years, but in your parent's eyes you are still a kid, the little girl in their heart. They worry about you, they are afraid you will destroy your life and your future will become rough, and maybe they hate the boy because they think the boy destroy you. I do believe you are mature to become a wife and a mother, but you should prove it to your parents, your kid's father should also prove thet he is good enough to become the father of your parent's grandchild. DO NOT give up your hope and your college, your parents will understand one day. I wish you a happy ending.

if you're still together after nine years, I think your family need to grow up and be civil. marry him. focus on your lives together. they will either accept that this is your choice, even if they don't like it, and support you, or they will be childish about it. but this is your life now, your own family with him and your child, and they can like it or lump it.

If i was in his position i would also wait i mean it has to do with family. He is showing you the respect you need and wants your family to accept him and you relationship. It is a very nice gester from his side

I dont know why yr family dont like him and i dont want to know! Sometimes one boy can love you but he cant give a future and good life.If a boy loved you and can give you a warm family except one promise for 9 years!I think you should keep yourself and face the problems with yr bf!Sure you must understand yr boyfriend and you believe you can have a bright future by your hands!You have been a mother so you must be strong!Good luck!

Waiting for someone is really very tired no matter our physical or mental.I'm tired of waiting for the one i loved.So,just do not hesitate,if you both love each other,why not insist,it's the matter between you and your bf.So good luck,hope you are happy.Just choose what you believe.

As long as you are both in the right age, secured financially and emotionally, I think you can really talk to your parents about the marriage. But, maybe there are some other reasons why your parents does not approve of your boyfriend since you already have a child. You may consider your parents' view as to why they can't accept him.

Well, its surprising to hear that even after getting pregnant, still your family is not accepting your boy friend. I think they should give him a chance, as he is with you for 9 years and is willing to wait for acceptance in your family. I guess your family should have realized by now that such a person can be trusted, to become a right partner for you and part of the family.

If he truley loves you he will wait and wait, and it sounds like he does if you have been together for 9 years! My guess is that hes just happy hes with you and getting married is just like icing on the cake. Icing would be great, but as long as he has the cake (you) hes happy. But if i were you i would just tell my parents i love him and merry him. But that's just me.

9 years is a long time. You don't need a piece of paper to say you are married. As far as I am concerned, you are already married. Enjoy your life together, your family will get over it.