How do you think the Chinese and Indian?

@crisce (25)
China
August 29, 2011 1:16am CST
I am Chinese and I have a friend in MSN and he is a Indian. We both students in the university and we know each other in an online community and chat in many time. But recently he alwaya aks me some strange queations like "how can I attact the girls"/ "what can I do if I want to have relationship with a girl", ect. And also he will ask something about me and my BF, I always feel embarrassed and do not know how to answer. Maybe I have misunderstand him but I really want to know if the topic of love(you know)/boys and girls or something like that is popurlar in Indian? Why he asked me about that as we are so far after all and I can not help anyway. Honey my lotters, what will you say about this? Is this the difference between Chinese and Indian?
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• United States
29 Aug 11
Fireheart took the words right out of my mouth. I am American. And many Americans (whether we admit it or not...) are of mixed races and backgrounds and more often than not either choose who to be or discover ourselves on our own. I am the later. I am of mixed races (African American/French/Native American/Scottish)but I created my own identity and person. And I never limit the type of person I date to race, creed or culture. I have dated all types of women from Japanese to Korean to Hawaiian to Ukranian to South American to Cuban and yes, even a beautiful Chinese exchange student while I was in High School. And I didn't let language, religion, race or culture stop me. I simply learned what I needed to learn about the person I was interested in and made it work. I truly believe that this guy likes you and just does't know how to ask you without being rude or embarrassing you. But more important, without losing the friendship you already have. Its the 21st Century, love. We as a planetary society are growing up a little. But we still need people like you and your friend to keep daring to Change the World by being curious, being different, and not being afraid to discover something new. I say, if you're no longer with your bf take a chance. The worse that could happen is that you change a close friend into something wondeful and brand new for the both of you! Good luck, Dearest. Cheers!
• China
29 Aug 11
I agreed you said the right thing.Language, race and the culture can't stop love, but you do really believe that are not any problem between a muslim and a christian. I met a guy who is a muslim and I could feel that he wanted to have a date with me, even he had asked me out. I don't know how to do, just aviod to communicate with him. one sentence of yours went into my mind, maybe i just afraid to discover something new. I am a fogey, change scaring me.
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
29 Aug 11
Hi dear, For my opinion, if the same 'style' of conversation is still keep going on, you can stop the relationship. As I am being an Indian, I can foresee the attitude of the people who talk in such a way. I am not asking you to stop it or continue, but from my experience, many of the people here are having an attitude of 'taking advantage' of things. So, now you need to justify what to do next - if you feel continue, you can and you can straight way can ask him to stop such personal and unrelated questions to ask. I have more than 100s of female friends from Philippines and China etc. Still, I keep a nice and standard relationship with all of them. So, whatever we are, if we can keep a healthy relationship each other, we can be proud of being a good person, who belongs to whichever nation. And also, if you think that your friend behaved inappropriately, I feel sorry for the same and request you to not continue if again continue with unhealthy talks or discussions. Regards, Thanks
@Poch3ng (144)
• Philippines
30 Aug 11
I agree with this comment that mostly but not all Indians have that kind of attitude as what have mentioned above. I experienced working with Indians and most of them doesn't know that they are portraying that kind of behavior which makes people around them feel uncomfortable because of their behavior. You need to tell straight to them that you are uncomfortable with such unhealthy conversations like that.
@Fireheart (683)
• India
29 Aug 11
I dont think there would be much of a difference, after all we are all humans and only different is the difference in habits, culture, and behavior, he is being quiet silly with you maybe he needs lot of advice about girls, i dont know about that anyway you figure it out what by your experience can help him out, personally am an Indian myself and i never talked to Chinese girl before so i dont know much about things about if there is any difference. i would love to have a friendship outside of my country and chat and all anyways happy lottin
@crisce (25)
• China
29 Aug 11
thanks a lot and very happy to hear that, maybe I misunderstood him and I will talk to him about this thing, and thanks again.
30 Aug 11
hi, I don't think this is the difference between the two countries. But it maybe your friends' problem. If you don't like the topic you should let him know directly. He will no longer ask that kind of questions if he treat you as friend. If not, I think you know what to do! Good Luck!
@papasay (68)
• China
30 Aug 11
India is relativity more open county If you don't like to discuss these questions,you can said not to discuss these directly,i do not like it .it's my privacy thing.sometimes you know foreign can have no china so-called implict.
• China
30 Aug 11
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@kaplya (1578)
• India
29 Aug 11
Oh I don't think there's much different in Asian ways of thinking. Certain things that makes you uncomfortable talking about usually does the same for us too. Topic of love, girl-boyfriend relationship talks are not so common among Indian youth especially among opposite genders. I think if you are sensing uncomfortable about the things he asks you about, you should just let him know that. Mostly Indian guys online like to flirt with girls from other races as they think they are more open. Other reason behind his asking such questions could be that he confides in you and is truly looking for advice from you but than it depends on the level of your friendship with him, which of course I don't know of.
@annjilena (5618)
• United States
30 Aug 11
crisce, he like you from the question he ask .he trying to find out how to ask you out.tell him you don,t know please don,t ask you because you have a man.if he persist tell him thoughs question make you feel uncomfortable if he persists tell him you can,t discuss those question with him.
@ravalarun (337)
• India
29 Aug 11
Dear freind! We all are humans and thought are alomost same, its not important person where from? or which part from earth. when i am indian & when was in school i never mat any foreiners, i just watching in TV & asking my self,what Russian,American, britishers, ect.. peoples are eating, living, thinking.. and when i touch with people face to face and understand the people of our world, i unerstand that we human has same thoughts.
@yasasa (2)
29 Aug 11
all indians are not like that.I think he will be a fraud.dont give it an international manner of INDIA and CHINA.