When I have two and love them both?

Have you heard of sibling classes? Its a class, usually your OB is going to recommend you to attend when you are having a second child. Its about getting your older child to be more involved with the pregnancy and to be more prepared when his little brother is born. My sisters had my nephews 3 years apart, during this time we were all living with my parents because they were only 16-18y/o at that time. So it was like my nephews were my brothers. Anyways, we prepared my older nephew by making him more involved with taking care of the baby, we would assign him to get the baby powder, wipes and diaper while making a diaper change, we would wrap the diaper good and ask him to slam dunk it in the trash. We would also ask him to shake the bottle when mixing water and milk, sometimes when he's in a great mood, we would let him hold the bottle, with our assistance, while feeding. We would also call him big brother, let him know he was such a great helper and he would have his chin up and have this proud smile on his face. But since these are your sons, and not nephews, while the baby is asleep or if daddy can watch him first, do something with your first born, even or an hour, something only you and he can do. So that in the end, he will realize, even if you have a new baby, you will always have time for him.

Hello susliic and welcome to myLot. Congratulations with you fairly new son. My two oldest were boys too. there was almost two years between them. What I did was have the older one help with the baby things like holding the baby powder when changing the diaper or the shampoo when it was bath time. I would suggest that you find something for your 4 year old to do to help when you are caring for the baby. Sometime maybe let hem hold the bottle or if your baby is taking baby food have him hold the baby food for you. any way find something that includes the older boy to make him feel important and necessary.