What do you do when someone goes back to their old personality?

United States
August 29, 2011 8:41am CST
People make wonderful changes that affect their life in a positive way. Some people have been able to make radical changes from being addicted to drugs, alcohol, and other things. What would you do if perhaps your friend or close family member had made these changes but goes back to their old lifestyle. Viewing and doing things as they had before. I think these things can be very hard on relationships. If you've seen them make changes. And afterwards you were perhaps able to do more things with them because of their cleaned up life. What would you do now that they've gone back, how do or would you handle these things?
4 responses
• Bulgaria
30 Aug 11
First of all, of course, I'll try to offer my help to them. Sadly in most cases, we tend to act stubborn, we just won't accept any help from others, because we don't want to seem weak in the eyes of others or just think that what we're doing is right and "couldn't hurt us". We usually think that way until it's too late and that's one of the worst sides of human nature. Sad, but undeniably true. Anyway, I wouldn't give up on a person just because they made a few bad decisions. We all make them and I'm willing to forgive in most cases. But if the other person doesn't wish to go back to his "clean" personality, who am I to stop him? No matter how much I try to change him, it will never work, until he realizes what's good for him on his own.
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• United States
31 Aug 11
I agree it is very hard to help someone who is stubborn. And I wholeheartedly feel the same way about a person needing to want to change for their own well being. A person can have all the support in the world but if they don't want to change then it's not going to happen. Thanks for your thoughts on this. Have a great day.
@zerd87 (301)
• Philippines
30 Aug 11
I will try to confront the person. Good communication may solved the problem. I will tell the person that the old habit is bad especially if it is vices. I can ask also the closest person to advice or tell his friend to stop the things he have already overcome. In that way, maybe we can help him realize that it is not good to continue bad habits.
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• United States
31 Aug 11
I agree with you. Doing these things can possibly help the person realize that they are cared for and that these habits aren't healthy. Thanks so much for these ideas.
@Fragab (128)
• Philippines
29 Aug 11
That is a tough question. Although, it is the person that has to deal with it, friends and families are required to be more patient. While the struggle is much more harder this time being failure the first time, people around them should make extra effort to help. While it is hard on the friends and family looking at their love one fails, imagine how much more harder it is for the person.
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• United States
31 Aug 11
I agree it has to be extremely hard the individual. Especially when they are trying their hardest to deal successfully with their issue and to conquer it. It is also hard on the family. Seeing a family member go through hard times is very discouraging. But if we can keep the right perspective and continue to be supportive it can pay off in the long run.
• Latvia
29 Aug 11
I have seen many people changing their lives correctly. Rehabilitation isn`t possible without changing all life. You cannot build something good on old fundament. Sometimes you need just to wake up. When you see somebody to return to all these bad habbits - they was only pretending to be better not living this better life!
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• United States
29 Aug 11
I agree with you. A person has to really make changes. In order to do that they have to strive to apply what they are learning and avoiding the warnings that they are given. In that way they can continue to benefit.