Long distance relationship
By enaid_osnam
@enaid_osnam (99)
Philippines
August 29, 2011 9:25am CST
I recently found out that this girl that I know broke up with her long time boyfriend. and I mean really long time! like maybe 10years? I was really frustrated to find out about it because I always thought that they would end up together and I always used to say how healthy their relationship was. The past 2 years, the girl went to Canada to continue her studies their and the boyfriend was left here in our country. They kept communicating with each other and they seemed pretty happy. A few weeks ago, I saw her boyfriend with another girl and I already had this feeling that something fishy was going on. Last week the girl arrived for a vacation and it still seemed like everything was perfectly normal until she confirmed their break up yesterday because of another girl. I still can't believe that her boyfriend took advantage of the time when she wasn't around and that he gave up their 10 years relationship. I'm afraid that one day I might end up in the same fate..:( have you heard of long distance relationships that work? Because so far, the ones i've been hearing are pretty unsuccessful...hmmpphh pls share your thoughts
4 responses
@mabeldaclan (787)
• Philippines
29 Aug 11
I have this kind of relationship right now. I do hope it will work out. If it won't, then I just wish that it would last for a number of years also. See, the two people involved in this kind of relationship have to exert twice the effort of those who are near their partners. It also depends on how the two people deal or adapt to the situation.
@enaid_osnam (99)
• Philippines
29 Aug 11
You are right. Both should work harder to keep it going and make sure that they are staying on the same path. THey should also stay out of temptation, be honest and loyal to each other. I hope your relationship turns into a story of success. :) Wish you all the best
@mabeldaclan (787)
• Philippines
30 Aug 11
My. I almost lost him last night.
But, we've saved it before the day totally ends. That was tough. Yeah, I'll surely stay out of temptation. I wish he also will. He lives in a bigger city than mine , so the chances are, there are prettier girls in his place. I just wish he will hold on to his promises.
But, we've saved it before the day totally ends. That was tough. Yeah, I'll surely stay out of temptation. I wish he also will. He lives in a bigger city than mine , so the chances are, there are prettier girls in his place. I just wish he will hold on to his promises.@enaid_osnam (99)
• Philippines
30 Aug 11
Well if he leaves you for pretty girls then that man is not for you and he does not deserve you as well. Just do your part at least when it all ends you know that you did what is right and if he decides to not do his part then he is a total jerk. You can definitely claim that he was the problem and not you :)
@janevi (888)
• Philippines
30 Aug 11
long distance relationship is a special kind of relationship where two people really need to exert an effort to keep it going. There are advantages but at the same time disadvantages. In order for the relationship to be strong and remain in tact though they are very far apart, constant communication is very important. With technology this time, distance is not a hindrance to make your presence be felt from the other end of the world.
One of the advantages is that, you are spared from temptations of doing something not acceptable before marriage. One of the disadvantages is that, either you can fall into another relationship because of the physical absence from one another. What is really important is the love you have for one another. NO matter what temptations that may come, you will be able to resist it for a higher value in life, that is faithfulness and fidelity to the one you truly love.
@enaid_osnam (99)
• Philippines
30 Aug 11
Yes your perception is true. I wish everyone had that same value they have for their partners. Sadly, some do not possess faithfulness and it causes their relationship to sink. Well,I think it is a matter of destiny.If you are for each other then you are, if you aren't then someone better will definitely come. :)
@soulist (2985)
• United States
30 Aug 11
You said it exactly. Both parties need to exert the effort. Both needs to work hard and do what it takes to make it work if they really want it to. I have seen long distance relationships end up with marriage, and other times Ive seen it fail. It depends on the couple and how much they are willing to not only work, but also sacrifice.
@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
30 Aug 11
hi enaid,
Having a long distance relationship is not easy
Lots of trials will come along the way so both partner must be strong enough to pass all this I 've been to a long relationship before but we did not end up because people change along with the feelings.
Sad that they did not end up wow that was a decade of relationship but sometimes everything is not just meant to be
happy mylotting
@soulist (2985)
• United States
30 Aug 11
I completely agree, people change, feelings change even circumstances change during the meantime. In close distance relationships it is hard to be prepared for different things, but in long distance relationships its hard to be prepared and know how to respond or even comfort each other. That was probably one of the hardest things I had to deal with in one of my relationships.
@enaid_osnam (99)
• Philippines
30 Aug 11
That is great to hear. At least you get to see your boyfriend once a month. Some don't get to see each other for a year or more. It gets more difficult to sustain the relationship. Hope you and your boyfriend stay strong :)
