I think my boyfriend is actually going through with the military

It is understandable to be scared, but you don’t want to spend too much energy on that. You want to be up and happy when you are together. There is e-mail, and phones and even if you will be apart for awhile, time passes quickly. I am not sure I understand why it's months you can't talk to him?? I thought basic training was weeks and they could still be in touch with the ‘outside’?

I think boot camp is about 8 weeks, so it's a few months without being able to actually talk to him and hear his voice. During that time, we'd have to communicate by writing letters until I went to his graduation. Tech school is a few months but during that time I think he can have his phone and laptop so he could call and Skype until he gets out. Then, hopefully he'll be stationed nearby so we could see each other when we're not busy. If he's out of state then we'd figure something out to where I'd go out there and be with him. Luckily, he's not doing a job that requires him to go on deployments.

It does mean a lot to me and I'm glad he'd want me to go with him if he had to move. I'm just scared that our lives will grow apart since his life will be continuing in boot camp without me and I'll still be here going on with my life. Changing schools would be a major inconvenience, but I just did it this year actually so I could be closer to him. I just tell myself and my boyfriend that "I can find a school anywhere I go but what I can't find is someone like you". So I guess it's not really the moving part and going away that bothers me, it's the not being able to talk for months that really upsets me :(

I'm 19 and he's about to turn 19. I'm in college now, he tried it but school really isn't for him so he's decided to go into the military. After boot camp, he'll study to be security forces. He's only going to be in for 4 years and once he comes out he'll try and get a job as a police officer, which is what he ultimately wants to be. Fortunately, I don't think my boyfriend will be doing anything over in the Middle East. Hopefully, he'll get stationed at the base near where we live. If not, he's already told me that he would take me with him wherever he goes. School is definitely a priority for me and I know that I need to get through college so that I'll be able to have a job. But if he does end up moving, I've decided I would go with him. I could find a college wherever I go, but I can only find the guy I love in one place. So if I have to move to that place with him in order to be together, I'll gladly do it. I won't compromise my education though, and wherever I end up I'll finish school...with him by my side. But who knows? He could end up at the base nearby and I wouldn't have to move anywhere and I could just finish up school where I'm currently at. Him being away is going to be extremely hard, but at least I get to look forward to going to his graduation from boot camp and then seeing him for the rest of my life.

Thank you :) Things will definitely work out one way or another. I hope he's stationed nearby too. If not, I'd be perfectly fine with moving to wherever he is. I'd rather relocate schools than live life without the one I love.

I hope it all works out for you in the way you hope it will... I hope he will get stationed near you.. that would be the best thing so you don't have to uproot yourself.

We'll try to keep you company, and keep you entertained here in myLot while he's away!

Thank you so much, I really appreciate it :)

Oh yes, I'm proud of everything he does. But the thought of him leaving is killing me. He's always told me he'll be with me forever so I definitely think our relationship will continue. He knows that college really isn't for him and he wants to be a police officer when he's older and I guess he thinks this is his best option. He'll be in the air force on security forces and then when he's out he'll apply to be a police officer. I'm happy knowing that maybe someday soon we'll be able to live together or something, but right now the sad part of things is really getting me down :( I'll hang in there and I'm sure I'll be on myLot posting about it lol

One month isn't so bad, especially when you can communicate a lot. This is going to be hard for me since I'll have to communicate through letters. Even thinking about it makes tears come to my eyes. He says we'll be fine and nothing will happen, but it still doesn't change the fact that he'll be gone for a little while and he could possibly end up moving :(

I know how hard it is for you, I really do. I'll be praying for you. Everything's gonna be alright. Be with him as much as you can before he leaves.

Thank you :) I'm definitely going to try and be with him as much as possible..he works 2 jobs so it's kind of hard though =/ I'm sure he'll make the time to see me though. And I'm sure I'll be here on myLot posting when he's gone too lol

He's already told me many times that we're going to be together forever, so I'm not really worried about that. I just don't want him leaving and I can't bear the thought of not being able to see or talk to him. I'm just looking forward to the day when he's done with all of this and we get to be together.

Very understandable. I'll admit, it's going to be hard, but trust me, it'll all be worth it in the end.