Are you comfortable having a non-jealous type bf or gf
By braveheart07
@braveheart07 (2601)
Philippines
August 29, 2011 9:03pm CST
Last Sunday, I had talked on the phone with this friend of mine. She was really sad and down at the moment. She broke up with her boyfriend just four weeks ago because of some misunderstandings.
She also told me about the things that she really does not like about her boyfriend's character, and that is her boyfriend does not get jealous. She said that even she was talking with another guy, chatting with another guy, and sometimes holding with another guy, her boyfriend does not get jealous.
She asked her boyfriend, why you don't get jealous? And her boyfriend simply answered her, I have a trust on you.
For that reason, she got hurt with that statement. She said that maybe her boyfriend does not really care about their relationship and was very insensitive about the situation.
How about you guys, what is your point of view regarding this situation? Do you think there is nothing wrong with the situation? Do you think the guy did not do anything wrong and was just having a great trust on my friend?
In case you encountered such kind of bf, gf, wife, or husband who does not get jealous, are you comfortable with that?
21 responses
@rozilynf (140)
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12 Mar 12
Theres something wrong with that situation, i think that guy is so stupid being like a stone, feel nothing about that, he have trust but your girl friend holding hands with other guy, its not a normal that her boyfriend nothing to feel, my be her boyfriend have another girl so he can't get jelous, it must feel the girl if theres something wrong with her boyfriend, i am also a girlfriend, may be thats why she cried. Base on my own experienced i never cry until i never found that my boyfriend lied or cheated. i have an advice with your girl friend she must talk her boyfriend and make thing clear. sO she can't get hurt.. & don't love too much with her boyfriend, so she get hurt too much too.
@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
5 Feb 12
Hi,
for me, i would love that my partner will jealous on me sometimes because i could more feel that my partner really loves me,though we all that we need to trust each other to avoid jealous and fighting sometimes,in the situation of your friend,they trust each other so it will depend upon the couple what will they feel.
@soulist (2985)
• United States
30 Aug 11
So wait....she was upset and thought he was being insensitive because her boyfriend trusted her and didnt get jealous while she was holding other mean, chatting or whatever else? I am very happy that my boyfriend doesn't get jealous and that he trusts me. Thats the exact thing I want in my relationship. She was very foolish to break up with him because of that.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
15 Nov 11
There are people who are like that. I was too trusting myself but i have had my times of being jealous. My BF too, but when he acts indifferently or does not seem to care... it would of course make me wonder why he is not reacting as he should have. But boys will be boys. We cannot expect them to be like women who would be reacting more than thinking first...
But to answer your question, of course, i would want my boyfriend to be jealous from time to time, but i do not want him to have this habit.
@Galena (9110)
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30 Aug 11
of course I am comfortable with my non jealous husband.
would anyone REALLY prefer a jealous partner? after all, it's a classic sign that they don't trust you, don't respect you and don't really love you. they just see you as a posession to be owned. not as their equal.
neither my husband or I are jealous. because we love each other.
@chipesterkhan (2925)
• Philippines
30 Aug 11
well i'm just glad my gf trusts me when i go out. she knows she doesn't have any reason to be jealous.
@sizzle3000 (3036)
• United States
30 Aug 11
I don't see where that would upset me at all. If you have a strong relationship there shouldn't be jealousy. That just means that he trusts her enough to know that she won't cheat on him or anything. I've never gotten jealous of my husband and his female friends nor he mine. It just comes down to trust. My daughter and her husband are still learning so they are still getting over the jealousy phase. Trust is important and shouldn't be the reason you break up with someone, it's a good thing.
@naija4real (1291)
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30 Aug 11
I am comfortable with people who are not jealous. I think jealousy is a bad habit and it is not good in any kind of relationship. thanks
@edsss17 (4394)
• Philippines
30 Aug 11
Hey Van! :)
Some are comfortable with it and some are not. I am not, honestly!
I want my boyfriend to show that me that he cares for me and by telling me he is jealous.
Let me tell you about my first boyfriend. Dang, whatever I do he doesn't get jealous at all and when he do something with girls, that makes me jealous like WTF! :/
So yea, I want my boyfriend to get jealous just like what your friend wants! But too much jealousy is not healthy in a relationship.
@flowerfest08 (1677)
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30 Aug 11
hi:)
I think your friend had a reason to call the relationship off,I think its alright to be jealous, especially if s/he had a reason to be,that's a way also for a girl/boy to feel s/he is important.
@pepperpopper (376)
• Philippines
30 Aug 11
I'm a jealous type of person. I broke up with my bf last night. I caught him having 2 facebook accounts. He changed his official account with a nick name and he put his real name on his second account. I also saw that he blocked a girl on his official account and saw that he added that girl on his second account. It hurts me a lot. It's like he don't wanna let the girl see that he is already in a relationship on his official account. I think he is uncomfortable with me having this kind of attitude. But this is me. I shouldn't be telling this and telling the whole world but you guys don't know me personally, so it's fine. I just wanna tell what I'm feeling.
@legrande (68)
• India
30 Aug 11
wen u r guy is jealous or possessive on u, then u will not be having a freedom to move out with ur frens socially...
sometimes, our guy or gal needs to be jealous, and this gives a boost in the relationship.. quite a few times, i have felt the same from my bf.. and the gives me the same dialogue, ""tat i trust u dear""!!!
@manishkundnani (6)
• India
30 Aug 11
Hii frnd..
I think that the boy is really in love with her ..though he trust his partner very much bt you can not trust the men around them ..
It also depends on person to person and there want of space ..
It might be possible that boy want to give her space ..though it was a silly thing to break up bt still i think that boy should feel jealous ..
@dreamy1 (3811)
• United States
30 Aug 11
Your friend sounds immature and insecure. I guess she would prefer her boyfriend to be extremely jealous to the point that he doesn't want her to leave the house. Will that make her feel loved? 
There's a saying be careful what you wish for, you just might get it. Just because he is not jealous doesn't mean he doesn't care about her. The next relationship she has she might be with someone who is extremely jealous and she will hate it.
There's a saying be careful what you wish for, you just might get it. Just because he is not jealous doesn't mean he doesn't care about her. The next relationship she has she might be with someone who is extremely jealous and she will hate it.
@mensab (4200)
• Philippines
30 Aug 11
i will be fine with that kind of girlfriend. i admire the guy who says what is right. i think the guy has said what was in his heart. his trust to the girl could not be understood by the girl. i think they were in different levels of relationship. the guy was able to develop trust and get passed the romantic level of exclusivity. but the girl is into this level of having the attention and care of the guy.
@ybong007 (6643)
• Philippines
30 Aug 11
Hmm...why would a woman get hurt if her guy doesn't get jealous? I think a lot of women would readily change places with her. But to an extent I guess the girl has a point. maybe she just want's to feel important and an apathetic boyfriend don't even care. There are people who are like that, I also know someone who broke up with her boyfriend because of almost the same reason. I don't know if she tried to get him jealous too but from what I learned the guy doesn't just seem to care. I guess it isn't normal for guys or girls to get jealous at some point. As they say, too much of anything is no good at all.
@rog0322 (2829)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
30 Aug 11
Hi brave,
It would be a great relief for me. I have been plagued by jealous partners ever since and I just want a break. Jealousy, at least for me, is not really a sign of love but an inherent insecurity that is so hard to correct.
I am not jealous type of guy, I even like it when someone like my partner, at least, somebody else found them attractive and not me alone. It seems to say, I have the right vision in seeing the beauty with the one like as others see it.
@mabeldaclan (787)
• Philippines
30 Aug 11
Its good that the guy has trust on your friend. But, its strange that he doesn't get jealous with other guys. Most guys get really irritated when their girlfriends go with other guys, physically or even in pictures. Girls, of course, at times would like to see their boyfriends get jealous.
@varier (5685)
• Indonesia
30 Aug 11
Too much jealousy is bad for love and health. 
But I think we still need that "jealous feeling" in love. By that feeling, we can have "a sense of belonging to each other." Wasn't it sweet?
Well, still, too much jealousy is bad for love. That's why we also need to trust each other.
Anyway, if your partner is holding hand and kissing with another people, then you still say that you are trust him/her, I guess there's something wrong with your trust and your love 
But I think we still need that "jealous feeling" in love. By that feeling, we can have "a sense of belonging to each other." Wasn't it sweet?
Well, still, too much jealousy is bad for love. That's why we also need to trust each other.
Anyway, if your partner is holding hand and kissing with another people, then you still say that you are trust him/her, I guess there's something wrong with your trust and your love 