Dating without a vehicle
By tech2d
@tech2d (338)
United States
August 29, 2011 9:39pm CST
I cannot believe how many dates I have lost because I choose to use public transportation, cabs, etc. Are people so shallow that you MUST have a vehicle to date? I have not owned a vehicle for almost 8 years and I never had this problem until now. I must thank my fellow mylotters for their comments regarding this on a earlier post, but it has gotten so I must talk to SOMEONE about this. I am just trying to be energy conservative. I do not work therefore, I do not see the need to own a vehicle. I am retired. I guess I'm just not in the "hip" things of the world or specifically, Nashville, TN.
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7 responses
@marguicha (223107)
• Chile
30 Aug 11
I suppose it depends on your country and costums. In my country a cab would do wonderfully for a night date and public transportation is all teens use. Here you can´t have a driver´s licence until you are 18.
I have a car that I only use to go to the nearest super or to the metro. I use public transportation as it is a lot cheaper that using gas to take one person from one place to the other. My car is a jewel 14 years old. I love it!
@marguicha (223107)
• Chile
7 Sep 11
It´s a common trait in the world now, tech. But where I live, the city is so big and the amount of vehicles so great that you get anywhere earlier with public transportation. I have an old car (1997) and use it only to reach the Metro and to go to the super. The car is not worth money anymore, but I have a long queue of people wanting to buy it cheap
. It´s not on sale
When I do to a party at nigh, I usually take a cab and have some friend to drive me home on the way back or stay overnight if I can.
. It´s not on sale When I do to a party at nigh, I usually take a cab and have some friend to drive me home on the way back or stay overnight if I can.
@walker23 (23)
• United States
30 Aug 11
In my personal opinion, a car would be a much more convenient way of transportation, but that is primarily becuase I live in the middle of nowhere. Using public transportation is nothing to be ashamed about and no person should be so high and mighty that they MUST have a chauffeur to there date, especially when in Nashville!!
@youless (112496)
• Guangzhou, China
30 Aug 11
Although having a car is much more convenient. However, it shouldn't be a must in a date. After all, you are going to meet someone who you like and probably you will choose him/her as your spouse one day. Namely you are choosing the person rather than a car. As long as you can send your girl home, no matter by bus, subway or even walk with her, it will be fine already.
I love China
@tech2d (338)
• United States
30 Aug 11
youless, I agree with you but I think here in the states it is considered a status symbol to own a vehicle. I'm just guessing but when you are dating, I guess the date judges you by what you have more than who you are. I can understand that when you are young, but when you are in your 50s?
@bagarad (14283)
• Paso Robles, California
31 Aug 11
If a girl you date is more interested in what you have than who you are, isn't it better to find that out right away? I was born and raised in California. I was married when I was 21 and my husband was 24. Neither of us, for various reasons, even had a driver's license when we got married or for two years afterward, so we also had no car. We met at UCLA where everyone lived on campus and we saw each other for meals and in the evenings every day, so we didn't really need to date to get to know each other. If we wanted to leave campus, we took a bus. Hardly anyone on campus had a car. When I dated others on campus it was the same. We either took a walk or took a bus.
I think if a woman is open to a man, she will do anything to get to know him better. If that doesn't interest her because he has no car, I say she's not the right one. The right one would see the wisdom in your reasons for not having a car and be glad you are concerned about not spending money on things that are not important.
@dreamy1 (3811)
• United States
31 Aug 11
It depends on where you live. If you are in NYC for example then it's not an issue because no one has a car in the city. If you live in a place where the public transportation isn't as good then I can see it being an issue because it's the norm to have a car.
I have a car and I will tell you it gets old very quick if I have to keep hauling people around who don't have their own. If you don't have a car some people assume certain things about you. They may assume you don't have a job, you may be poor because you can't afford it or you may not have good credit. These are things that most women who are looking for a relationship are not looking for.
A car is not just a means of transportation it's a symbol as well. Having and maintaining a decent car can mean you can afford it which means most likely you are employed, it means you are responsible.
I get that you want to be green and everything and that's great so your choices would be to find someone else who doesn't have a car and believes in the same philosophy or buy a car to please other people.
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
30 Aug 11
wow, good post on this one. I don't know, but most people, especially girls won't dig a guy without a car, especially you are living in America. So, it seems mandatory to own a car or without a date. But that is not the case for every single girl though. Some girls are not into material stuff, they are more into emotional things.
Oh, actually, when I was in high school, I saw this hot girl dating a guy without a car too. She drove him after school. How is that happen?
@pepperpopper (376)
• Philippines
30 Aug 11
having you own wheels does not really matter. what matter is that you should come in time or ahead. Guys should always be ahead of time. Don't let your girlfriend wait. If you need to ride a public vehicle, you should give enough time allowance. Consider the weather, route, traffic etc. That's it.
@reinykwan (350)
• Indonesia
30 Aug 11
hmmmm.. if you go to a place that far from your house, it should be need vehicle, but common transportation is good alternative.. why didn't try to dating around your house, walking is good alternative too, you can walk while join hands :)
