Who should handle the relationship?

I think a relationship shouldn't have a superir in it. Both people should have equal parts in the relationship because the two people should be able to learn to think as one

Both should handle the relationship to make it works, no superior or boss, give and take relationship, both should respect each other as a person, accept each other strength and weaknesses,no one should control...but the two person are responsible to make the relationship grows with love and respect.

hello, well, i don't believe there is superior in dealing with romantic relationship, be it a man or the woman, as long as one respect one's opinion and decisions. respect maybe the greatest aspect to have in a relationship, if one don't have it, i think, the relationship will not prosper, you tend to quarrel every now and then, so, i think not the woman nor the man whose superiority can handle best relations, for me its Respect.

I believe both partners should have equal share on the relationship. However the share on each relationship is with respect to either of the partners expertise. For example, I would assume that the female of the relationship should handle all female matters, such as lets say wall papers for the house (just an example, I am sure you can think of more). With that, the male of the relationship could handle all the fixing (once again you can think of more examples.) Both must have equal share on the activities of the relationship or else it is no longer a relationship, but a dictatorship towards one way or the other. A strong relationship is always dependent on the equality of both parties. Both parties must offer or contribute to the relationship, so that both parties are always interested. So generally I agree with you, that both man and woman should control their relationship together as they are both contributors to their strong relationship.

For me, no one should control no one. I don't believe that one should be a superior in order to make the relationship work and last long.For me, in order to make a good relationship, both parties should work for it, its always a "two to tango". There's should be a give and take relationship. Though men and women express differently, but both feel the same. Both wanted to be recognized and wanted to feel love and beloved. Though there are some especially men who are not so expressive, do that's the time where the woman's expertise in nurturing your man's emotions begins. I think control is not the right word for me, but teaching and motivating the other half how to make the relationship lasts. If there is love, i think we don't need much effort on it, it will just go naturally.

I believe that a sense of superiority should never arise in a relationship. It is better to have both just have the same amount of "control" on their lives, after all, nobody likes to be bossed around. From what I have learned in the past, Equal understanding is what makes relationships work and last longer.

rosie14, A relationship is but two entirely separate individuals, with vastly different psychological mindsets, personalities, cultures and upbringing, coming together by freewill. We call this bond 'Relationship'. As the saying which says that it takes two to tango, a relationship is about two self evolved individuals working to be together. They are not bounded into any relationship like what you could do to two items by tying them up with a nylon thread. But we stay 'bounded' because our hearts have melded into one. Therefore, in that sense, relationship is mutual exclusive and would not work if either party does not have the conviction to work and stay together in it.

I don't believe that someone has to be 'superior' in a relationship because both should do their part and work together to maintain good relationship. :)

The fact is most relationships are held to stability because of the 'strength of a Lady'. Ladies have that 'thing' that us men lack and they never quit on something just because it seems to have no future, they try to make a future seem real instead. That is why I respect our ladies. In a good relationship, there should not be the leader or a controller. Fifty fifty sharing of responsibility should be the order of stability for a relationship to last for long. If you notice anything, somehow straining to keep the relationship going- think twice, it may just be a tip of the ice berg for your relationship and should not be taken for granted. Happiness is the main thing that show how healthy is a relationship. Even though we have those occasions where lovers quarrel for simple things, a simple word 'sorry' plays a major role in uniting love-hearts.

I also think that a relationship is in the hands of both people. It takes two to tango and whatever there is they have to deal with it together. If one gets too authoritative and if one gets too admissive, then chances of a problem may arise. The best way to handle a relationship is to give and take, and might as well compromise.

A very sensitive topic. Because there are many relations in which one of the partners like to boss a little. Personally, I think no partner should be in control, as it's a relationship we're talking of sharing everything. And first of all "love"!

For me relationship is about understanding and caring it's not about who can provide more love. It's a joint party by two individuals. As long as both parties are trusting each other I think relationship will even grew stronger.