can a girl make the first move to get the attention of a boy?

it is better may it come from the other side, but if the boy is shy you can go ahead

there could never be wrong if she initiates the chat and get his attention. i think this is already acceptable with our times now. there could be no problem there unless one of them is already in a relationship.

Usually it's the boy who makes the first move but I see no mistake in the girl making the first move though. To be precise, love is a unique and mysterious matter. Sometimes it may end up being one-sided and in most cases, the boys won't really know whether the girl likes him or not. He just doesn't notice it. But what your friend can do is to get herself noticed by the boy first. For example, she could try to appear at wherever he goes and make it seem like they meet each other coincidentally. Not to tell her to stalk but just make it seem like they just happen to bump into each other and then then your friend can strike the first conversation with him. I've seen in tv dramas in which the girl always make the first move . My, it's not wrong haha, just that love takes effort.

How old is your friend? I think that is very common and I dont think it is wrong. She is very much infatuated with her crush unless she will give the first move to the guy and express her feelings. As a friend, you should just guide her and let her know her limitations with comes to that guy.

Just wait, if the guy is interested with your friend he will surely gave a msg to your friend so since it doesn't happen, just don't It will spoil the role of the woman

I'd say she should totally go for it. It's now or never. If she doesn't speak up soon, that boy is going to get taken right our of her hands. In this day and age, it doesn't really matter whether the girl or guy makes the first move. She needs to be bold and talk to the guy. I've been in this situation before and for a whole year I never spoke to the guy even though he was in my class. I let him slip away and that is what's going to happen to your friend. Be there with her and boost her confidence. It's Facebook! It's not like she's talking face to face with him. =)

I think there is nothing wrong to make the first move. This is not about shyness but rather a tradition to let the guy make the first move. But if you keep waiting the first move might never come, so it is best to try giving the first move yourself and hope for the best. Good luck

I think it's okay to make the first move. But don't make it too obvious at the first time. Just by saying hello or hi in facebook can make a big difference! She would know if the guys likes her if he respond to her message and then try to go online when the guy is online again at the following day and wait if he now make the first move to talk to her, if not... hmm I think he needs to get to know your friend better. =) Since this is through social networking site she can get any response quickly if the guy really want to talk to her. Good luck! Happy Mylotting! Mitch

I just wonder why your friend is shy and can't make her first move? It's ok for us to go the first step for our love,love is produced by both,it isn't wrong for one to step forward,and just tell her to be encouraged,it's ok,then tell the boy can she get the love.After all,they just chat online,the boy couldn't see her shy expressions.

Shyness denies a person many great opportunities, but I don't really see why she is shy towards this guy who is already in her friends list. What is friends for if you don't even say 'hi' to someone you like. She has nothing to fear, Facebook has played the most important role to minimize chances for the guy to deny her move. She should approach the guy and lets love take its course. Or to know if the guy is already in another relationship.

I think, who wants it should do something to try and get it. If she likes the guy there's nothing wrong with making friends with him. Just don't do the professing of love in a sudden rush thing. Everybody has a right to try and win over the one they like, girls and boys at that matter. Some guys like girls who are confident enough to signal them that they like them. It motivates the men to do better because the women already started on him. He would surely try to return the favor on a higher level. But if the guy keeps ignoring her or isn't interested with her, well at least she tried to pull out the signals rather than keep thinking of the unknown.

Hello Katrinapaz, Yes it is ok for a girl to make a first move, some girls think guys are suppose to come to them which doesn't happen most of the time who know how long that will take. I think your friend should wait until the boy comes online again and start chatting with him first and ask for his number.

I guess girls making the first move is highly uncommon. Some boys also tend to get the "aggressive" signal when girls do. It is basically rooted on your friend's gut feeling. If she senses, not daydreams, that this guy somehow likes her but is simply shy..making the first move..simply a Hi on the chat box would suffice. :) Crushes are good feelings :)

I say she should throw out a simple greeting once and a while and let the conversation pick up and before you know it, BAM! it could lead to a long lived friendship to possible relationship you never know until you try. :)

there is a huge diffrence between making a move and simply saying hi on facebook. Your friend should say at least hi on facebook but also should still make him do alot of the work. It will make him more intrested.

If a girl loves a boy, so what's the harm if she makes the first move. If she loves him than she should tell him. There is no good in keeping the love inside you. It will only make her unhappy.