what would you sacrifce for love or happiness
By verolop29
@verolop29 (1096)
United States
August 30, 2011 12:02pm CST
That's what my sister said to me one day after not seeing each other for months.I didnt know how to answer her and I still dont know how to answer that question.
After almost 10 yrs with the same infuriating man one thing have yet to change. I find that when im mad or sad he's feeling the other way around. and when he's feeling what im feeling its visa vera. what am i left to think than what im thinking right now? i always say his happyness is my happyness but is that really true? Im left to my own thoughts and feeling in this but im woundering if there are other ppl in MyLott who can relate? maybe we can all gather in mylott to compare and maybe help one another out.....
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@teenreads (8)
• United States
31 Aug 11
Sometimes I thought the feelings that come from your heart may not be the same as others'. I mean, what you feel isn't the same as what others feel, right? It's because we are born to have different emotion needs or feelings that only attached to us. Don't get me wrong, when you are happy, it doesn't mean that your friend isn't. He/she just feels happy for you. But sometimes it also doesn't mean he/she is happy. For example, my friend passed away four years ago, that totally wracked my mood---sad and grieve is what I felt at that time. But to my other friends (who are her friends too) didn't feel that same way I did. They moved on with their lives quicker than I did. Perhaps I'm so closed to my friend, so when she passed away, it took part of me with her, left the other part empty, well, kind of empty because part of me thinking that person is too important to lose. It's like there's a key missing in a computer keyboard. But who knows, there's a time when someone feels the same as you.
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@jazzyrae (1745)
• United States
30 Aug 11
hmmm this is a difficult question for me to answer because to me love is equal to happines my boyfriend is one of the many reasons i wake up in the morning and i smile. I know alot of people are in relationships that are bad and unhelpfull. I would talk to your partner and tell him how you are felling. Tell him he just is not doing a job of making you happy odds are if he is still in love he will do everything in his power to make it better
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@chicksdigscars (5483)
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31 Aug 11
i feel the same.. my partner is my complete happiness, so i also find it hard to answer this.
@wmraul (2552)
• Bucharest, Romania
30 Aug 11
And is so simple answer.
NOTHING !!!
First of all, love is or is not. Similar, happiness it is or it is not.
Regardless sacrifices which, by default, are actions which produce dissatisfaction and ... unhappiness.
Love and happiness have not grades: there is no such thing as low love or average love/happiness.
You love or not, you are happy or not.
Second, if the partner say she will love me if I gave up (whatever), then I will be gently start looking for her another boyfriend - one guy is more stupid that I am.
HOW in the name of holly lemonade one can pretend to another to tear his life a part as to prove love? You love me only if you destroy everything I like? Then where is MY happiness?
This is the most stupid thing I encounter in life.
Because, ultimatelly, love imply happiness but love mean - from start to end - RESPECT for the other one.
So, again the answer: No, as to achieve love and happiness, I would not sacrifice anything and I will not request any sacrifice from her. Is me and her, as we are, with our past and mistakes and goods and bads - and if one of us can't live with, say it. If there's nothing to be done to sccomodate, then sorry, that was not love, was attraction, sympathy, friendship, sharing, whatever but not love.
@chicksdigscars (5483)
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31 Aug 11
Happiness is what you make it. If you are finding yourself frustrated with your partner, you need to talk to him. Don’t care what he says, or about his temper, and if he puts you down, let him.. you can deal with all that after. But you need to TALK. I’ve said this to you before. If you have to find yourself searching for happiness, in something that should bring you constant undoubted happiness.. then you have a serious problem!
You don’t seem content in this marriage! Was this a marriage for love, or convenience? Is your husband older than you? Because I’m getting the impression he is. Sometimes when we are in relationships with people older than us, we feel the need to bow down to them slightly, respect the fact they are older, and should be more world wise. But in the same instance, the elder one in a relationship should be more inclined to nurture the younger one, and your husband isn’t doing this for you.
Decide what needs to change, discuss it, and make the change. Don’t spend any more of your life in-between happiness!
@verolop29 (1096)
• United States
31 Aug 11
hahah if u knew my hubby u would take that right back! hahahah
he is a difficult man to love and be around. his siser even gives me looks of sympathy whenever she comes visit but i guess he thought i was going to be an one of those grils that let man dictate her...well im not! i speak my mind now and if he doesn't like it---oh well. there are worse things out there than being married to me! with our differences aside..he's learning little by little. sometimes i tell him 'i feel ur age' and we share a laugh! in our relationship there are alot of things that need to change and i feel(which ill tell him) that if i change he wont. I KNOW this man. he wont change. so when he asks me to change i tell him give me a divorce and he shuts up!!
@chicksdigscars (5483)
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2 Sep 11
hahahaha!!
"change!"
"give me a divorce!"
haha that's so funny lol! its gave and take though, he can't expect you to give all the time!
@bond027 (107)
• India
30 Aug 11
Hello Mate!
Here there are two objects Love and Happiness..As far as Love is concern I have no experience so i cannot talk about it much..But as far as happiness is concerned I can say that sacrifice is not always that leads to happiness..!!
Hope you enjoy your earnings..!
@profvn (1)
• Germany
31 Aug 11
i can sacrifice my whole time to see that i am happy and keep people dumbfounded for love especially those who under estimate me
@skysuccess (8858)
• Singapore
31 Aug 11
verlop29,
Do we really need to sacrifice in order to love or be loved?
Or, do we need to cut off an arm and a leg to be happy?
Yet, can one really love or actually be happy when it can be so excruciating and defeating? I just do not think so, especially when all of us are born selfish and have our wants that never seems to be satisfied.
In love, we all have that bit of narcissistic self, craving for a certain attention, love and companionship from our other half. It is natural. However, I cannot stress enough on the fact that our individual happiness in any relationship cannot be entirely depended on the other person. Like the mindset of 'I can only be happy in his or her presence' merely suggest that we are not only emotionally unstable, but also lacking the innate self love we ought to brandish before we could start expanding this very love to our other half and forge meaningful bond we call 'relationship'.
Love reasoning and Love behavior is completely mutually exclusive.
Some might bicker about their other half the whole day, but still will not cheat on their partners – while others may portray a loving figure, but goes screwing around behind the scene.
Let me be brutally honest here, there are simply thousands of dimensions of love and attributing it to a single possibility of sacrifice is simply obscure or otherwise not even near any reality at all.
We need to remember that when we accept love or start to love someone, we are actually opening the floodgates to all the good and the bad. There will be compromises but they are not sacrifices.
So, I don't think we ever sacrificed for love or happiness.
@thedataminer (515)
• United States
6 Sep 11
I think you would sacrifice the man you have right now for love, or happiness, since unless I got your wording completely wrong; it sounds like you, maybe he also, are not so happy together. I'm wondering if allot of couples seem to get tired of each other or something seems to go wrong. It almost makes me happy that I'm not in a relationship because relationships seem so hard. I had a very horrible relationship once that last years and then I had some bad boyfriends. I had one good boyfriend (the last one) but I decided not to stay with him. Now I'm just all alone. I'm alone and very lonely.