Do you frequently allow your husband to hang out with his peers?
By biach17
@biach17 (196)
Philippines
August 30, 2011 10:20pm CST
I dont know if i am limiting my husband to have some happy happy with his friends...
but every time he asks for permission to go out with them i do allow him...
it is just too frequent....
i know he works hard with his job and with our business so he deserves to relax sometimes...
Cant he get a relaxation time with us..his family....
Because he always says he want to go out with them to relax..
i dont know if i misinterpret the word relax ...
isn't hard to be a wife ...or i am just making a situation here..
Please help me...
Thank you!
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4 responses
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
1 Sep 11
Hi Biach,
When I was married, my husband didn't ask for my permission to hang out with his friends nor did I ask for his. I was friends with most of his friends and their wives so sometimes the kids and I went with him and other times, I just enjoyed time at home alone. Other times we invited friends over. Maybe you could suggest to him to ask his friends to come to your place?? I can understand that you want to spend more time with him. Have you talked to him about this? How often does he go out and what does he do when he is out?
@biach17 (196)
• Philippines
1 Sep 11
he goes out with his friends..maybe twice a week sometimes zero at all....its a rare situation though.
they want to go out ,as in out like drinking
...dont want to go with them because i annoy some of his officemates...
a very bad influence ones. and it feels like i am out of place...
@r3jcorp (1382)
• Philippines
1 Sep 11
I've been through that and I am happy that my husband already stopped hanging with his peers. But during those times, I never forced my husband to stay with the family nor do I kept on calling him while he was out. I just make sure that he has a participation in taking care of the children specially when they are starting to study. He became too busy with my kids projects and assignments, too engrossed with the computers and then one day, he never wanted to go out anymore.
@biach17 (196)
• Philippines
1 Sep 11
how did you do that not to call or never stop him to hang out with his peers....
it is a hard task for me....
i hope my husband will have a self-learning about letting go of being a happy happy man outside. i know he just does that to relax because of being tired at work.
but still he has a family to relax with.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
1 Sep 11
My ex-husband always wanted to be out with his "friends", at first I did not mind but it got to out of hand. Anyways he an ex and my current boyfriend rarely will be out with his friends as we do go out together. I would say it is okay once in a while but the family must be a priority. I would not know how to advise on how to change it, I could not get my ex to change his ways.
I see that you do not have nearby friends, so best that he understands that the family must come first. Especially you and he.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
2 May 12
I understand what you are saying. I think it is a good thing for husband's go out every now and then and spend time with their friends. But I don't like it if my husband does it often and for long periods of time. One time my husband was going from early in the morning around 10 or 11. and He didn't get home until 2am the next morning. I was a upset. Then he turned around and did it another time. After that I told him he has to be reasonable. That I don't stay out until two in the morning and expect to do that often. So he shouldn't be doing that either. Hope that your husband is relaxing with you and your family more often.
