Betraying friends

yes been betrayed by my closest friends. one of my friends flirted with my bf...one of my friends backstabbed...

Yes, betrayal can happen in friendships. I've had one that I remember well that happened years ago. My friend adored this guy, who already had a girlfriend. However, their relationship was not very solid. My friend took the opportunity to get close to him whenever his girlfriend wasn't around. But this guy, liked talking to me, like greeting me and just mainly talks on our lives. So, my friend was jealous and she had often said to me that he probably paid more attention to me than to her or his girlfriend. Next thing I knew was, his girlfriend came lashing out at me one day out of the blue and said all sorts of things which I had no idea what was about. Anyways, I didn't scold her but instead, I told her to calm down because I wanted to know what really had happened that she was being that way toward me. And after all that, she told me that 'someone' told her that I wanted her boyfriend. It turned out that, that someone was my friend. So, of course I had no evidence to back me up and I told her to ask her boyfriend instead and he told her that I've never done anything except to talk unlike that other friend of ours, who only would flirt with him. That cleared me off. So, she apologized to me and said she had no idea that she got lied to and that she was dumb to have believed her (my friend). So, I decided to cut off my friendship with my friend because she wasn't worth it to be my friend. Every now and then, she'd call me to say how much she'd miss our times together but I just wouldn't buy that. She's betrayed me and a couple of our other friends as well...

For me not at all so sad to tell about it but i will never said it in you because I never encounter it before.

I've definitely had all sorts of rotten friends, especially in high school. I eventually realized that if someone betrayed me over and over again, at some point I could not be walked on any longer and I would have to drop them. There are actually several people that I have told that I no longer want to be friends with, and some of them ended up getting mad and actually wondered why I didn't want to be friends with them. I am originally what I would call a very nice person, or I used to be, until people started taking advantage of it.

Judy, allow me to be one of your responders. That's right girl, it's painful to be betrayed. You are lucky to experience and hopefully learn from this awful attitude at a very young age - I presume you are in a very young age, by the quality of problem you bothered to your self. Thus, in the journey to the ages, you will met experiences appropriate to your age. So, what point in your life are you gong to use your chance to betray? Don't you know that everybody will betray someone somewhere somehow? Some betrayal cost friendship, as you just said. Some cost money, some cost family feud and the worst is, some cost life. There was no best answer inside the parentheses, it will just happen in due time. At least, from now on you will be aware that betrayal is disgustingly painful, so that you will not implicate the same agony to others or to your own self. I'm with you to this despicable betrayal implicated to you by your friends. At least, you were able to move on. Good luck, girl!!

betrayal is one of the worst thing in the world. but when time comes for our survival, we have no other options and should do it.

you have done the right thing. That kind of friends are not worth to be called your friends. I did the same thing also, when I was in highschool I had this friends which later I call them my 'barkada' we always go together eat together. Then one day, I've heard that one of my friend backbite me and told bad words about me. So, I confronted them and they told me it's not true but I really found out that they are really betraying me. So I did not go with them anymore. I chose Friends who are good to me in front and in the back.:)