Do you think it's ok to marry your first bf/gf?
By courtknee525
@courtknee525 (3742)
United States
August 31, 2011 9:47am CST
I'm sure many people don't think you should do this, but if you really love him or her, then there shouldn't be any problems. I know without a doubt that my first boyfriend will be the one I spend my life with. I liked a few guys before him but they all turned out to be jerks. Then, I became friends with my boyfriend. I could tell he really started to like me but I didn't want to get involved because I had fallen for so many guys that were complete jerks. But after getting to know him he showed me that it was ok to fall for him because he would be there to catch me. He's not like any guy I've ever met and I'm completely in love with him. He feels the same way and he always tells me that we're going to get married some day and be with each other for the rest of our lives.
Some people don't think it's a good idea to spend forever with your first real relationship because you haven't gotten to experience all the other people out there. But, I've seen first hand what other guys are like and most of the guys my age are total pigs.
I think that true love can come at any age and I feel lucky that I was able to find mine so early in love. He makes my life complete and I couldn't imagine life without him. I don't care that he's my first boyfriend, I know that what we have is real and strong enough to last a lifetime. He truly is one in a million and he means the world to me.
But what do you guys think about being with your first bf/gf for the rest of your life?
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11 responses
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
31 Aug 11
I think each person has to make that decision for themselves and that they shouldn't let others think for them. If they want to be with their first love then good for them. We can't let other people dictate our life because they think or feel differently. I had a boyfriend at the age of twelve. Then I had a boyfriend at the age of 13 and I've been with him, now we are married, have a little girl and are very happy. It wasn't literally my first but my second. People probably at the time would have thought that for us to be together always would be crazy.But we are and we are happy.
@courtknee525 (3742)
• United States
31 Aug 11
Wow, that's really cool! I'm glad to hear that you started dating so young and made it work out. That really gives me hope. I met my first boyfriend when we were both 17 and there's no doubt in our minds that we'll be spending the rest of our life together. To me, it seems ok because that's who I love and it doesn't matter. But there are some people who don't think it's a good idea just because you haven't experienced all the others out there. But I don't need to have my heart broken many times, I know my boyfriend is a sweetheart and not going to do anything that'll hurt me. I know I love him and I know that we can make it work for the rest of our lives.
@bounce58 (17385)
• Canada
5 Sep 11
I just responded to your other discussion about marrying at an early age. Although I said there that the odds of the relationship lasting is slim, I also believe it is not impossible.
If you've found your soulmate at a young age, and you are destined to be together, then I don't think there is anything wrong with marrying your first bf/gf.
@rhane7315 (5649)
• Philippines
1 Sep 11
it's ok to marry your 1st bf/gf as long as you love each other and also as long as that the sparks are there. i was the1st gf of my hubby while me, he was my 2nd bf before we got married. my 1st bf was a complete jerk and a total mess that's why i decided to leave him.
@atprudente6 (673)
• Philippines
1 Sep 11
It depends.If you think that you want to share your life to your firs bf/gf, then you could marry. But if you think that you are not compatible, then you should part ways.
Havin a bf/gf doesn't meant that you are going to settle down (though bf/gf relationship is the first step for marriage). Once people got married, they will share their life to each other for eternity. Keeping this in mind, couples should try to know their partner while they are still unmarried. And if they think they will not last for a lifetime, then they should not consider marriage at all and they should rethink if their relationship is worth it.
@Rosa26 (2618)
• United States
1 Sep 11
I think that you are very sure about his and yours love, so that is the important .
If you don't a voice inside you telling you that if you marry him you will be doing a big error for you , then you can marry with your first boyfriend.
I am not going to say that is not good marry the firsr person you know even thought my mom marry the firsr boyfriend she had, and I marry the first boyfriend too and he was the worst that could happen to me
But at the least in my case I had dreams, telling me not marry him, my family and friend advised me not marry him, but I didn't to listen.
About my father he is a great father and an excellent husband but they got divorced.
Love is the best that can happen a person, if you found your love hold it and never release!
Congratulations!
@Triple0 (1904)
• Australia
1 Sep 11
I reckon being with your very first partner is beautiful. It's alright to marry your first partner, especially if you've spent so long together and been in a stabled relationship. The reason why some people are involved in so many relationships is because the partner they're with doesn't suit them. My friend who is still in high school with me has been with her first boyfriend for more than 4 years now and still going. I reckon they'll get married one day.
@snowhybiscuis (1882)
• Philippines
31 Aug 11
I guess that cant happen with me. My first official boyfriend was among those whom you called jerks. After that relationship, I never get into a serious one again. I guess it is not my cup of tea or maybe it is not really yet the right time.
It's nice to know that there are still some people like you who get to marry first bf. This at least shows that there are still some people who ain't polygamous. Nowadays, I get to see some kids entering into relationships but didn't value such relationship.
Keep it up and have a nice day.
@waflay (2737)
• Nairobi, Kenya
31 Aug 11
I think there is nothing wrong in marrying your first love and it's good that the relationship ends in marriage.From my experience if one never ends up marrying the first love it somehow becomes hard to forget the person.When one is in relationship one looks forward to many things maybe like spending your future together,so if you accomplish this with your first love then this is a good experience.
@johnbrainlot (177)
• Greece
31 Aug 11
in my opinion people need to gather lots of experiences before getting into something like this that can last for life. things can get pretty ugly if years go passing by and decay comes. then divorce is almost inevitable and both are exposed.
@atravers26 (20)
• United States
1 Sep 11
If you believe he/she is the one then go for it. Make sure that you are sure.
