Do You Love Your Enemies??
By Marja
@buenavida (9984)
Sweden
August 31, 2011 2:56pm CST
I am reading the Bible, the 6th chapter of Luke, about the greatest teacher, Jesus Christ. The advice he gives to us would solve so many problems if everyone would follow them.
27"But to you who are willing to listen, I say, love your enemies! Do good to those who hate you. 28 Bless those who curse you. Pray for those who hurt you."
35"Love your enemies! Do good to them. Lend to them without expecting to be repaid. Then your reward from heaven will be very great, and you will truly be acting as children of the Most High, for he is kind to those who are unthankful and wicked. 36 You must be compassionate, just as your Father is compassionate."(New Living Translation)
The word Jesus is using, translated to love, is not the word for friendship, but it comes from the word "agape" that is described as love that is built on principles. As far as I have understood it, it means that we wish that wicked people would change and learn to live according to God´s will and live forever, so we wish the best for them.
Some interesting things have actually happened when those who behaved like enemies, were treated in a kind way back. Many have changed and some have changed completely.
Have you tried to follow this advice of Jesus? Have your enemies changed for the better because you made an effort to treat them well?
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9 responses
@velvet53 (22534)
• Palisade, Colorado
31 Aug 11
I have to say yes to this question. I have found that some people really like it when you stay upset with them. To me it is not worth carrying anger and hash feelings inside myself towards other people. I feel a lot lighter and happier by loving these people.
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@buenavida (9984)
• Sweden
1 Sep 11
You are absolutely right. Harsh feelings only hurt us and if we try to find something positive in the person that has treated us badly, it is easier to hope for the best for him or her - and that is why Agape love means.
@buenavida (9984)
• Sweden
15 Sep 11
Beautiful, loving our enemies is a good way of loving ourselves too..
@velvet53 (22534)
• Palisade, Colorado
14 Sep 11
I know that I do not want to carry around the burden or weight of having bitterness or anything of the sort bottled up inside of me. It is so much more refreshing to let it go and to think good thoughts towards people. It makes me healthier in many ways. I learned that lesson many years ago.
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@redmaryjane (891)
• United States
2 Sep 11
I try. The people I who have wronged do not even have the slightest clue that they have wronged me (and a few other people). They're convinced that what they are doing is noble, hopeful, and right. I don't exactly call them enemies but choosing to love them is tough. I can't say that I hate them. It's more like, I don't care and I'm okay because I'm far away from them.
As I've said, they have no idea that they have wronged a bunch of people. They expect me to act a certain way (which is to love them or like them or just work with them) but I don't want to have anything to do with them (long story).
So they expect me to love them, which is to essentially go by their every whim without question. Their management and their attitudes aren't exactly charming and if I point out the things they're doing wrong, they won't give me the time of day and disregard anything I'll say.
Therefore, it's best that I left them. I worked with them for about 5 years and all I got were broken promises and friendships that weren't worth time and effort. It's best to distance myself. I don't care about them but I don't wish them ill.
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@buenavida (9984)
• Sweden
2 Sep 11
Hi, redmaryjane We cannot feel friendship with everyone, and that is the interesting about the Bible verses above.
Jesus used a word that comes from "agape" and that is not the word for friendship, "philía", but means that we wish the people who treat us badly will learn to understand that they are doing wrong and change.
We also hope that they will get a good relationship with God.
If they change in that way, we might consider having them as friends again.
Sometimes people don´t change, so we have to leave to God to judge what will happen to them. But we can continue to wish the best for them..
@redmaryjane (891)
• United States
3 Sep 11
"But we can continue to wish the best for them"
Yes, this is true. While I don't really care about them, I will not question God for the good fortune that He gives them.
I don't feel comfortable in praying that God changes their minds though. I'd rather just have God have their way with them.
I still am friends with them. I just don't interact as much. If they think that what they did and how they treated me are "for the good of the company," then I choose not to work for them. If they still think that the time we spent together were great and not acknowledge the way they maltreated me, then I'll just not have anything to do with them. Perhaps it's God's will for us not to keep in contact. It's sad, but at least I have moved on and had God deal with it.
Thanks for replying to my response! :)
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@flowerchilde (12529)
• United States
15 Sep 11
I don't really think of myself as having any enemies, but there is one aquaintance who for years has rubbed me the wrong way, and I, for the most part, simply ignore that! And I find myself liking her more and more! And actually count her as friend..
@buenavida (9984)
• Sweden
16 Sep 11
That is interesting.. Sometimes we can find good qualities in people when we learn to know them better. They can also change for the better when we treat them the right way..
Proverbs 27:17 says
[b]"As iron sharpens iron,
so a friend sharpens a friend."[/b]
(New Living Translation)
@Netsbridge (3253)
• United States
31 Aug 11
I always show love to those who choose to be mine enemies by simply leaving them alone, as long as they do not step on my toes or attempt to block my way. Did you know that you can some times love people by simply leaving them alone?
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@buenavida (9984)
• Sweden
1 Sep 11
Yes, in some cases that is the only thing we can do to avoid to provoke them in any way. Perhaps they calm down and we can talk some other time if they feel better..
@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
5 Sep 11
It is so true that with some that the most positive thing we can do is leave them alone. Their mind is probably not working properly and they may not understand what they are doing. Jesus also pointed to such a situation in his final moments.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
5 Sep 11
Yes, I have seen many positive changes by treating people as I would like to be treated, to do to others as I would like them to do to me. When we live as Jesus showed and taught, only good can come out of it, though it may take some time.
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@buenavida (9984)
• Sweden
5 Sep 11
Dear friend, you must have a lot of experience in practicing the Bible principles with all kinds of people. It is by applying them during a long time we learn how valuable they are!
Thank you for your response..
@staria (2780)
• Philippines
19 Sep 11
It's really hard to live by this but true enough it is written in the Bible therefore we have to abide. In my experience I tried to reach out to them and though no sorries where said in between we tried to reconnect and forget about the bad things. This way we bring peace to ourselves. Not only forgiving those who harmed you but giving yourself peace and relief too.
@buenavida (9984)
• Sweden
19 Sep 11
Beautiful! It seems you both were willing to create peace and that worked well! And I am sure both sides a relieved..
Many times those who are willing to take the first step are the courageous ones.
The good advice in the Bible always proves to be good for us!
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
1 Sep 11
i could write a book about this subject alone i usually find it hard to love my enemies. but i do often pray for them cause i cant stand anyone to be hurt or in pain. i know i have prayed to stop hating sometimes and it works.
@buenavida (9984)
• Sweden
2 Sep 11
It is so wonderful that you pray for stopping to hate and it has worked!
And the kind of love we have to our enemies, is not friendship, but "agape" and that is what you are talking about, to wish the best to our enemies and hope they won´t suffer in any way.
Great attitude..
@eileenleyva (27560)
• Philippines
3 Sep 11
No buenavida, I do not love my enemies. In fact, I hate them completely. They make me feel so miserable. I know that to be a genuine Christian, we must love not just God, but also our neighbors. And neighbors include enemies. So we can't really live without them. But I do not quarrel with them. I just let it pass when we have differences of opinions, sort of allow them to carry on with the lives they want to have. I know it is not right but I avoid people who are vexation to my spirit. That probably means I am still a work in progress as a Christian. Bear with me, I still have to psyche myself about that Gospel story. I hope I'll come to it soon enough.
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@buenavida (9984)
• Sweden
4 Sep 11
Eileen, you are an honest person and that is a good way to make progress in being a Christian..
As you may already know, the kind of love Jesus was talking about was not frindship, but "agape" the love built on principles.
We can love others by wishing that the good that they might have in their heart may grow and we can also pray to God about it.
Love is part of the fruit of God´s spirit, and the Greek word mentioned there is "agape" - you find it in Galatians chapter 5.
We can pray that God will give of His spirit and help us to overcome hatered and love our enemies and wish the best for them..
Have a great day..
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@RDotson (51)
• United States
1 Sep 11
I have to say that I pray for my enemies because I believe that is the best way to not live with hatred in my heart. I see the huge different between holding a grudge and forgiving someone for something they have done to me in my life. It is hard living day to day with hatred in our hearts, it keeps us imprisoned and gives your power up to your enemies. I feel God knows all and sees all and he will take care of those who do wrong to us in this life.
@buenavida (9984)
• Sweden
2 Sep 11
That is an excellent attitude. Holding grudge can only hurt us so better let God handle the people we can´t handle.
He can see our motives and see if there is something good in our heart, and and if he finds something, he can make it grow.
We need to read the Bible daily to get the strength to trust Him from all our heart.
Thank you for your response..