Expectations of families

I admire your beliefs and disposition my friend, even though you are hurting inside still you accompanied your husband to celebrate the holiday with your in-laws. My suggestion for you is to leave your husband, because staying with him will only hurt you more.

I know that you are sad and I wonder if there isn't something to be learned here. If he won't try to make the marriage work then what can be learned from this? Maybe, given time, he will fall out of love for this woman and come back to you. You would need to be someone he would want to love. I would spend this time becoming as good a woman as you can possibly be.

yes, i think aidil fitri is right time for you and your husband family support each other it means that your husband family care and love you... and now it`s your effort to make their love for you is not useless...

Hi there! I guess it is just normal for every family to hope and wish that their child would stay together with his spouse. Despite the fact that parents disagree with the marriage, parents do not hope to see the child's family to be broken. No matter what, it's all up to you. I must say that, hold on. Keep a strong grip on the tiniest thing you hold to keep your household intact. When there is no more reason to hold it, that's the time you make a decision of your life.

Perhaps your husband told his family of his wishes and his family had already advised him to think twice before doing anything foolish since he already has his own family with you. Maybe they too, hoped that he will come to his senses eventually and get back together with you. Maybe that's why they just told you to be patient and to least see how far it'll go. I guess once your hubby realizes he is in the wrong path, he'll probably regret and get back with you. Until then, the best way is just carry on, move on and just be strong.

Each family would want, all went well, and get the best. You should try the best, so that your family was not disappointed. Your happiness is the happiness of your family.

The only good thing that I can see in your latest statement is that your husband's family is taking your side. They do not want you expelled from the family.

Hello! It's natural for a family gathering to have a discussion something like more on reminders to your marriage life. Don't be discourage for that. Our in-laws are so concerned to the future of their son/daughter in the future. I mean in building a family is not easy, so reminders from them is also useful. It's true that patience is a great virtue so sustain your family in the long run. Without patience to both of you, you cannot hold your family intact for the years to come. So take their advices happily accepted and pray for it.

Each family want to remain in harmony, and harmony. The problem is often the case, solving the problem must be with a calm heart, so as not to regret.

Hi Indahfth, Yes families at times do have expectations as this. The sad part is that they are not the ones living in the situation, so not as easy for them to have to deal with it, as it is not them but you, who is. Although it would be wonderful if things changed for you, you must remember that it is your life and clinging to hope for change may or may not be right for you. So if and when you do make a decision, as hard as it may be, you need to look out for you and your child. The family, although at times things change, they still will be part of your and your son's life. My prayers to you that all of this can be fix and or that you finally are happy once again, which ever route that is with.

Wholeness within the family, is a highly desired by everyone. Family, definitely do not want, one family member, should be separate. Consider, what would you decide. Your decision, determine your future.

Just pray and hold on, you'll see things will be okay. Maybe not sooner but it will come. Problems are only there to make us strong persons and good people. Don't mind what they have to say, concentrate on what you are feeling.

I guess this discussion related to your previous discussion, right? Of course they gonna said that. Remember, you're in your husband family. They realized that your husband made some mistakes on you and can do nothing to help you. What kind expectation is that...grrrr Made up your mind, see your future in front of you and move on and one more thing .... never look back. All my support with you

Your husbands family really has not choice but to say those words to you. They are his family and even if he did wrong they will always be his family no matter what. I am sure they do not want to see anything bad happen to your household as you are his wife, but they can not take sides due to him being their family. I would suggest you speak with his mother or sister to see what they would do in the situation you are in, and see what they feel is expected from you. I wish the best for you and ask ALLAH to help you in this time of need.

Every family has always hoped for the best. But, whatever the family wishes, you have to think about yourself. Because, you are going through. Not they.