Is it necessary for kids to have lot of toys?

@Jenith (1381)
Philippines
September 1, 2011 9:06am CST
I'm a first time mom of a 2-yr-old son and I don't think he need more toys. He loves any type of cars and we do have lot of toy cars in our house. His toys didn't lasts for long. 3-4 hrs after buying, it was damaged already. Instead of buying toys why put it in a bank and save for his future. This is always what I think of since I love saving money but sometimes I do have conflict with my hubby. He wants to give our kid the toys he like most of the time. What are your views on this guys? What I'm gonna do to avoid conflict with my hubby for buying toys which is unnecessary?
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12 responses
@GardenGerty (160949)
• United States
1 Sep 11
I do not know how to settle the situation with your husband. I think kids will always ask for more toys, but in the end they go back to their favorites to play, and the others just lay around. Children need classic things like blocks and crayons that make them use their imagination. He needs blocks, for instance, to build garages for his cars.
@GardenGerty (160949)
• United States
1 Sep 11
Remember who is the parent in this house. I would also put some of his cars away, just leave one or two out. When he starts asking for new ones, give him one that you have had put away. You are not obligated to always do what your child wants. What he wants is not always right or helpful.
@Jenith (1381)
• Philippines
2 Sep 11
I agree. Thanks for your help.
@Jenith (1381)
• Philippines
1 Sep 11
It's normal for kids I think to ask for more toys. I already suggested to my hubby that if he can't resist to buy toys then buy the educational one. But our son always insist the toy that he like most which is car. What you gonna do if you are the parent of this kid?
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2 Sep 11
he is only 2.. he isn't going to really notice much. and kids are so easily distracted, he can be playing with one toy, turn around, and see a toy he played with yesterday and think it's something new! my 3 year old nephew has a mountain of toes, and he prefares to play with the vacuum cleaner!! lol! saving money is a great idea, and if your husband is desperate to get him toys, get him cheap things like stickle bricks and lego, and foam puzzles etc.. don't be getting anything too expensive. for example if your husband wanted to spend $20 on toys, tell him to buy stuff for $10, and you'll put the other $10 away :)
5 Sep 11
we all trick our kids from birth haha.. santa, easter bunny, tooth fairy lol!
@Jenith (1381)
• Philippines
2 Sep 11
Oh my son is in good memory, he can remember which one is new and which one is old. Good thing he can easily distracted for now, when he wants me to buy something I told him that we go to the other corner to choose which one he likes best and while walking I talk and play with him 'til he forgot about the toys and end up buying nothing. Just a matter of tricks I guess.
@maximax8 (31046)
• United Kingdom
10 Oct 11
I don't think a young child needs a lot toys. Every boy or 2 to 3 years old seems to love toy cars. As you son gets older it is likely he will become interested in construction toys like Lego. One of the toys my son liked best was a three vehicle garage with flashing lights when the doors open. It is nice to belong to a toy library and then it is borrow rather than buy. Saving for your son's future is a very good idea.
@Jenith (1381)
• Philippines
12 Oct 11
As a mom, I'm so worried for my son's future. As much as possible I need to save every month for him. There's a lot of what if's in my mind nowadays. Now I started to buy only necessary toys for him like the educational one. Thanks GOD he didn't insist in buying something else for now. Hope he won't change.
@lumenmom (1986)
• United States
7 Sep 11
For little kids the whole world is a big toy filled with lots of wonder and fertile ground for them to explore and for their imaginations to take off. Children can make anything a toy and lots of fun so no, they don't need you to go out and buy them a lot of toys. Most toys end up either broken or forgotten in a very short period of time. The best thing to do is let your child get plenty of outdoor activity and playtime in nature. For the most part that is free.
@Jenith (1381)
• Philippines
12 Sep 11
Good idea. I always do that when the weather is good or sometimes went to our home province and enjoy the beauty of nature.
• United States
1 Sep 11
Yes it is preferable to save money as opposed to buy so many toys. There are lego type toys where he can learn to be creative. I would say to discuss with hubby about what would be best in terms of not buying so many. They do get a lot of toys for the holidays and birthday. Sometimes kids get so many that they are unsure what they like and bore easily with some. Explain to your husband on how maybe limiting a few would be best. He is 2 years old and if he is given way too many, maybe in the future he will expect a lot and times do get hard and he will be disappointed if he is use to receiving.
@Jenith (1381)
• Philippines
1 Sep 11
I agree with you, my kid easily got bored and when he find other toys which new to his eyes he wants us to buy it for him. My hubby wants our kid to have all the toys he wanted to because when my hubby still a kid he rarely have toys. He wants to give our son what he didn't have when he was still a kid. I told him already to be aware of it that maybe for now we can give him what he want but what if when he's grown up and we can't already afford what he wanted? I don't want to came to a point where he gonna sell us(his parents) just to get something he wanted.
2 Sep 11
i agree! lego is good, he can build lots of different things!!
@moneywinner (1864)
• Brazil
2 Sep 11
I think saving money is necessary of course, but, for me, you need to enjoy the moment. I don't know how many toys your son already have, but maybe you should teach him to not destroy the toys otherwise tell him that you are not going to buy new toys.
@Jenith (1381)
• Philippines
3 Sep 11
He was just too curious with his toys. He don't even know that he already destroy it, he just wonder why he can't put it back some parts of it. He will try putting it back for a couple of times and if he really can't, he will come and ask for help in fixing it. Ifever I gonna buy him again I'll go on lego, in that way he can remove some parts and put it back without destroying it. Thanks money. Happy weekend!
@ShepherdSpy (8544)
• Omagh, Northern Ireland
2 Sep 11
A few tougher,more kidproof toys might be better than replacing many more easily broken ones..or You could try some saving options..I don't know how you might feel about letting him work off his energy on a previously owned toy?
@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
6 Sep 11
Toys - Children loves toys.
As far as my experiences as a Mom is concerned, I believe toys make kids really happy so I do give my kids toys. but I make sure I give them those that are appropriate for their age because if not, chances are they will only destroy the toys. It is also wrong to buy just about what the kid wants. Too much of everything is not good. Just give him enough toys he can enjoy playing with and also also allow him to play the toys along with other kids so that he can would know how to share and to socialize. I also believe it is not advisable to give expensive toys because kids can always outgrow toys. Sooner they'd just leave that toys and will find new interests so what happens to the toys. It's either they gather dusts or you just give them away.
@lampar (7584)
• United States
2 Sep 11
If you think over pamper your child and buy as many toys as he want is good parenting, then by all means, go for it. Personally, i don't think children need to have a lot of toys to enjoy a happy life, a two years old boy may need plenty of motherly and fatherly love and caring like cuddling and intimacy to become a happier kid and productive adult later. It all depend on what sort of person you want your child to grow into in the future, a spoil brag who want every demand to be fullfilled or a responsible teenager who act responsibly toward his friends and family.
@Jenith (1381)
• Philippines
3 Sep 11
As a mother I always wish my son to be responsible when he grow up. In fact, I keep on researching and reading ebooks on how to nurture him well. I can't rely to older people like my parents because aside from they are a bit far from me, I also don't agree some of their parenting style. I'm against of buying him what he wanted all the time specially with regard to toys but sometimes it cause conflict between us couple. How I wish my hubby has same thinking with me to avoid arguments in the house. *sigh*
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
2 Sep 11
It's not necessary. Besides your baby is just 2 yrs old so he never knows how to take care of his belonging/s and toys. Better give him cheap toys or plastic ones, and let him assemble it after. Or have those toys than can be fix with glue so you won't keep buying new toys each time he ruined one. have a good day jaiho®
@Jenith (1381)
• Philippines
2 Sep 11
You are definitely right. All the toys that we bought for him were already damaged. What my hubby did is take some parts from the other damaged toy to fix the other one. Glue is a great help also. But it just take a day or two and that toy was broke again.
• United States
2 Sep 11
I understand what you are saying. i like to save money to but my wife likes to get the kids what they want. now if we have the money i dont mind getting the kids a new toy some of the time but they have to get rid of an old toy before they get the new one. maybe that will help you with that you are going through. talk to you husband and tell if you are going to get new toys that it only be like ones a month your even less. you can even save the toys for the birthday. that way your kid will get a lot all at once. i hope i have helped .
@Jenith (1381)
• Philippines
2 Sep 11
So we are on the contrary, my hubby loves to do what your wifey is doing in buying toys. Maybe they don't realize yet how hard it was working just to earn money. Now my hubby is minimizing in buying toys but he can't resist sometimes when he go out with our son. So with his parents which is my in-laws, they are tolerating my son in buying those unnecessary toys. It makes me feel bad for sometime that as a mother I can't do nothing about it. They thought that they are always right. And it's right for them to give my son toys, showing that they love him much. *sigh*
• Philippines
2 Sep 11
for me is not necessary to buy a lot of toys but there is a toy which is enough for the kids when there is already a toy car its already enough if you buy only one and not so expensive
@Jenith (1381)
• Philippines
2 Sep 11
For now if I tend to buy, I buy the less expensive one. Lesson learned. I hate buying expensive toys and later on he will just damaged it. Oh he is not contented in one, if he saw different style and design he wanted to buy that too. By the way, welcome to mylot.