i was not appreciated and yet i still heard a negative comment..
By airasheila
@airasheila (5454)
Philippines
September 1, 2011 11:12am CST
i know for a fact that truth really hurts. as sometimes we really need it to learn from our experiences. however there are a lot of ways how to say the truth without hurting others. we can say it in a polite manner wherein rephrasing the negative words that somehow can be pleasing to the ears.
just like what is happening here at my end, i cannot afford to see that our kitchen wares was not properly arranged. that is why, i am arranging it everyday accordingly. i am not asking for any appreciation at all from my family members for the arrangement that i have done since, i have willingly done it. but, inspite of what i have done, still, i will hear a negative comment from them. due to this reasons, there are really times, why life is like this, i was not appreciated and yet i can still hear a negative comment.
10 responses
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
1 Sep 11
Yes friend in India most of the daughter in law faces this negative comment. Even we complete our all house chores but if one is remains then our MIL gives negative comment. Now we indian daughter in law is habitual to heard this type of comment.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
2 Nov 15
thats because you live with inlawshere in the USA w e do notdo that as we know how tough that would be. we get married we find our own apt and move into it and make our own family so much better so much edasier.
@ronadelle (1547)
• Philippines
3 Sep 11
Oh, I'm really sorry that you feel that way. I think family can be really mean at times that sometimes it's not worth doing something good at all because they won't appreciate either. BUT you know, when you said that you did that arrange those kitchen wares not because you want to gain appreciation but because you just felt like you want to do it and you did to see that they're properly arranged. That for me my friend is excellent and unconsciously it's expressing love for your family. Yet they managed to speak negatively about it. My suggestion is, voice out your feelings. Don't let this kind of things pass. I mean, saying what you feel with how they behaved is necessary. But this doesn't mean that you have to start up a fight or argument. No. Talk to them nicely, say what you feel and I think they'll realize what they have done that hurt your feelings. You can do it!
@parryjain7 (68)
• India
2 Sep 11
Thats the Human tendency when ever we do good things we are not apreciated and we have to hear the negative things from them .. the best way i do is .. i just do the things what my heart and my mind says ..if anyone says always negative things than just fire once and ignore the things .. fire because u will remove all ur frustation and than u will be free n happy bird ..you can try these once .. i feel myself more comfortable
@araboi (41)
• Philippines
2 Sep 11
It's really hurts to be unappreciated, I'm in the same situation as yours I always get to be blame for everything that happens here in our house. I do house chores such as washing the dishes, but my sister after she ate she would just leave her plate in the sink not washing her plate, and my mom will ask me to wash it for her and it's unfair she's suppose to be the one washing it. My life here sucks I always get to be blame for everything.
@CelticSoulSister (1640)
• Southend-On-Sea, England
1 Sep 11
I would hope that it's entirely up to you how you arrange your own home and that anyone saying anything negative/critical, should perhaps take that on board. How would they like it if someone criticised the way they arrange their homes?
@fantabulus (4000)
• India
2 Sep 11
Hii.. airasheila you are right no one is appreciated to our work but if any mistake is happen in our work then start negative comment. Why I cant understand not only our MIL but also all human being are same. I not like this some time argument is start on this topic....
