Are you satisfied with your nanny?
By aileen2008
@aileen2008 (838)
Philippines
September 1, 2011 4:32pm CST
I have a nanny for my 3.5 year old son. She takes care of him whenever we are away for office. She attends to him and accompanies him to school. She is not a stay at home nanny, but instead she leaves when we get home from work. Her pay is above the usual pay of some nannies.
I know nannies are big help especially for couples who are both working. But sometimes I can't help but get pissed at her because of her attitude.
She sometimes tell lies, and for me that's critical. She is often jealous with other nannies which I often tell her that you shouldn't be since you have higher pay than them.
I sometimes entertain this idea of changing her, but as always, having pity on her prevails. She is sending his son to school and she supports her daughter and grandchild's expenses since her son-in-law does not have any work. If I let go of her, she will not have work anymore and if she finds a new job, definitely it will not pay the same that I pay her.
My point is, is it okay if I reprimand her all the time, especially when I am having doubts whether she tells the truth or not? Am I too harsh?
3 responses
@mindym (978)
• United States
3 Sep 11
I was a nanny for the summer and I worked with a great family. The boy that I had could be challenging at times, but I was honest with the parents on things that happened throughout the day. Whether a child is at school, left with a nanny or at a day care, communication is crucial between the caregiver or teacher and the parents. She sounds like she is a selfish, immature person and thinks that the world revolves around her. But you need to do what is in the best interest of your child. Is this nanny good with your child? Does your child like the nanny? You are employing this person and if you don't think that she suits your family, especially your child, then you should get rid of her. It might not be an easy thing to do, but put your worries aside and do what you feel is best.
@aileen2008 (838)
• Philippines
4 Sep 11
Yes, not a very easy thing to do. But I' starting to be more strict with her. Let's see whether she will change.
@marguicha (222989)
• Chile
3 Sep 11
I absolutly agree with you. Those are good questions to ask. That nanny might be ok for another family but maybe not here.
@marguicha (222989)
• Chile
2 Sep 11
It is normal that you get pissed at the people you are near, be it your husbands or the nanny. You should set the rules of the house and she is your worker. You have to make that clear to her. It is not a good idea to have a worker just out of pity. She can manipulate you with her problems. I would seek someone else instead of reprimanding her all the time. Juust remember that you cannot have near you son a person that is angry with you because you scold her
@aileen2008 (838)
• Philippines
2 Sep 11
Yes, I agree. I asked her once if she wants to take a rest first coz she seems to be tired already in taking care of my son, but she said no. Then she cried. She said if she takes a rest, where will she get money for their expenses. Its complicated.
@marguicha (222989)
• Chile
3 Sep 11
I would do what is best for my family. Your nanny doesn´t seem the kind of person I´d like to have around my kids. You can get someone else and she can get another job. Crying doesn´t solve problems. I know that by my own experience.
@aileen2008 (838)
• Philippines
2 Sep 11
I set rules, she follows 95% of it. What pisses me the most is that she lies and she gets jealous with other nannies.
