Career Women makes bad mothers? What do you think?

When I was young, I came home to an empty house every day. I would meet kids whose mothers were at home with them, while mine was never there, and wished I had what they had. I had a very difficult time in school, and no one was there for me, no one understood, no one cared. Meanwhile other kids were happy with parents who loved them enough to be at home with them. I love my mother, but at the same time, I'm not close to her. She was never there for me, and now that I'm on my own, I just don't feel any desire to be there for her. That's very sad. I wish I was closer to her, but we never understood each other when I lived at home, and we still don't now, and that likely isn't going to change. The Columbine kids who shot all those people back in '99. They came home to an empty house, both their parents working, and the feeling that no one was there, no one cared. After reading that, I identified very much with how they felt, and why. I hope things working out for you, spending your life on your career. Perhaps you are right, and your kids will turn out just fine. I hope so. Unfortunately you only have one chance to be a bad mother. There's no do-overs.

When I was still single that was my dream..to become a career woman at the same time a loving wife and responsible mom but things come in different ways when my baby came. Deep inside, I felt like I'm not that responsible leaving my baby to someone. So what I did I shifted into business for me to keep an eye my baby at the same time while working. Career woman is best but if you are married and have kids, your most priorities is in the kids. It all depends on you if you can handle well everything, so why not. Wish you luck.

You are a living proof that not all career women are bad mothers for it seems that you have grown up fine. I think there are cases where single moms have to put up with so many jobs or go overseas to raise her family, which in turn leaves her with no extra time to spend with her children.

I dont think career women are bad. But it is challenging to maintain balance between house care and office work. You have take care of your children and should do the work properly at office. All this makes your life stressful. It is your decision to choose what you want. At any point of time , if you think you cant balance work, then stop going to office.

i dont think career women make bad mothers... but they are definitely very tired to balance the work and the family.. if everything under control, they will be satisfied by the harmony of life..thats a kind of happiness. for me, i wont give up my job becus its part my life...i will be crazy just staying at home to take care of the kids...

I think a woman can have a good job meanwhile she can be a good wife and a good mother. As a independent woman, I would like to have a job to get some income, so that my economy will not depent on my husband. I would like to keep working before I have childs. I can't make sure what I will do after having childs. You know, bringing up a kid is a difficult thing and it takes time. So when I become a mother, maybe I would like to stay at home and have more time to take care of them as the economical condications permit.

This is a terrible blaming to the women. It is not a fault for a woman to have a career. Even if you don't have to worry about money, but having a career makes you feel confident and updated. Of course I am not asking you to be a 24 hours career woman because you also need to have your own time to stay with your family. Today the woman has a higher pressure. Since people will blame them if they can't handle well the family. A family is built by couples. So the husband is also responsible to it. It is not right to let the woman sacrifice alone. I love China

laura__lmaxi yes I agree that a person with a great job does not have to stop it just to be a great wife. for one thing here where I am in once affluent America in California both husband and wife have to work in order to pay for that too expensive a roof over their heads, utilities so they can cook and live and gas for the 'cars that they need to get to work.our economy has done gone kersplat and with it women are in some instance happier than they were before. Children are not suffering as they would be were mom to stay home and the rent not get paid and utilities not get paid not to mention food not get bought.common sense here is used to bring families closer as both dad and mom can achieve success too.I had to work most of my married life and i was glad I had some job skills so I could return to work when my husband was unable to work. we survived and we also were happy.I was always there to help with homework.

I worked while my children were younger(now they are 23 and 21) and they turned out to be great kids. Everyone needs a life outside of children and home. The financial aspects of women working outside the home outweigh everything. Unless you got lucky and married someone rich, it takes two incomes now to even make ends meet. Go with your gut, do not quit your job just because you are getting married. It was ok back in the fifties, but not now.

Wow that would be sad to hear in this day and age. I was a single mother of two and had a very fruitful career in the medical field. I raised both of my kids completely alone and financially. I have the best relationship a mother can have with my two kids. Both of my kids are college graduates too. I was single with two kids, went to college and worked. Then I moved to a duo career where regardless of how busy I was both of my kids where a priority and quality time was very bountiful. So no a career women does make a bad mother and actually I have seen some not so great stay at home ones.

You can't blame a career woman if she don't time for her kids because work is stressfull besides she dedicate her salary to her kids so I can't tell that they are bad mothers or not since their main objective is to secure their kids future thats all.

I don't understand why career woman should be bad mother? If you love your job why you should leave it only because you are married. From the people's description I would feel than my life after I get married should end at home. Well it will be not like this in my case. I like to work and I will do that even after got married and have a child. I wish you all the best.

For me, not all career women are bad mothers. It depends on the characteristics of the mother. If she is motherly enough i think even though they have careers in life they could handle it properly and still become a good mother to her children. But yeah, most of the career women are so busy that in time they tend to forget their motherly responsibilities that in time they tend to become a not so good or effective mother to their respective children.

I hope you have talked about this with your husband to be. There is nothing wrong with having a career and working..The problem with some parents that work...they get so caught up in their personal and work life that they think its ok to keep the kids at daycare or with other people, as long as someone is watching them! That's where the problem is, they don't give quality time with their kids. Not all parents are like this,but they are out there.

I don't think career women are bad mothers. The reason why they are working are mostly because they want their child or children to have a good future. We have to admit that money is needed in order to live conveniently. I am a career woman myself and a mother. I am still working because I have to. My son is still young but we are already preparing for his future. His needs like milk, diapers, vaccines, vitamins, etc. are not free, we need money for this. His future education is again not free, we want to send him to a good school and unfortunately it would cost us a lot. I'm trying real hard to spend as much time with my son. I envy other mothers that could just stay at home and don't have to worry about bills and other expenses. I wish I could be like that but unfortunately I can't.

I personally hate staying at home with the kids. And before you all go bashing me, I look at it like this. I don't like to wonder wear my kids clothes are going to come from or their food or how the bills are going to get paid. If i have a job, I feel secure and then that runs off to my kids. They feel secure when I feel that way. I am sure you know Laura, that back in the day, that was the thing to do. But today, we need more than one income to take care of things and sometimes just the basics. You have a perfect example right there: both of your parents worked and you turned out just fine. I believe that with your future children that they will learn to work also. To be honest, most of the people that I see sitting on their front porches all day long, never were exposed to the meaning of getting a J-O-B. I see people on welfare and their kids grow up and do the same thing. You have a great future ahead of you, so don't let comments like that bother you. You are doign a great thing. And voice that opinion exactly how you wrote that on here. It's okay to work outside of the home. It's okay to show your children from day 1 that working for a living is important. Besides all this, if I am at work all day, I miss my kids and makes me want to come home faster. We enjoy our quality, not quantity time together. KUDOS to you!

Well it is good if the woman concentrates on just being a plain wife once she gets married. That way she could give all her time in running the home. However a woman who keeps working even when she has already married does not necessarily make a bad mother. I can't agree with that. It all depends on the woman whether she would be a good or a bad mother. If the woman feels, staying at home is not for her then she has to be given the freedom to keep working. I've seen so many working mother who are good mothers. They know how to divide well their time between career and home. Well there are also many good non-working mothers but but there are also plain housewives who despite staying at home all day can't be considered good mothers. So it all depends on the person and not whether she works or not. So if the woman wants to still continue her career I don't think she should be prohibited. She should be given the chance to prove how well she could handle both responsibilities first before judging her.

For me yes because they know how to became independent and they don't want to subject there husband.

hello friend, i see your point. the first thing a woman should remember or think is this: If i would get married and have children , am i able to do 2 responsibilities? Be a career woman and a mother? I'm telling you this because i already experienced it. I work abroad for more than 10 years then i got married and had a family. I did not work anymore,just take care of my family . Until i got bored, so i decided to work again. I work and become busy in my career . until i found out that my children's grades in school went down. I realized , yes i'm successful in my career but my children suffered a lot. So i resigned and focus again to my family. The money that i received from the company i put it in business. And now i'm working at home and at the same time looking after my children. You say that everybody should have a life outside of their marriage and the kids. Marriage and having a family is your next path of life.

its just a time management..working mom is very stressful, because after work, you have the kids and evrything..but its depend on how you deal it.Well, if your husband salary is enough to support your family, its up to you..if not, its not advisable to let go of your good job.