Relationship - A Fleeting Thought
By skysuccess
@skysuccess (8858)
Singapore
September 1, 2011 11:01pm CST
Most relationship never made it or perish, not because of circumstances, inner conditions.
Do not reckon that the mutual respect of space, freedom and understanding contributes to the downfall of our relationships. In fact, it's the first finger we often pinpoint whenever promiscuity or infidelity strikes in the relationship.
The attribution to external causes per say only reveals a distorted truth; it always seeks to blur the real underlying problem of ourselves and tries to besmirch one's perception in Love.
One must fully understand that relationship is indeed forged by freewill. Nobody is coerced to love another person; we love incidentally or accidentally and later make the choice to further this love into a relationship. Therefore, you got to weigh your own risk to see if you are still willing to pool the resources to make this investment worthwhile.
Pull out if you can't seem to forgive or refuse common grounds - you will save yourself a lot of misery.
Do you agree or disagree?
3 responses
@obe212003 (2299)
• Philippines
2 Sep 11
yeah i quite agree... it's a matter of choice! we never choose who we love, and it is by "chance' that we fall in love unexpectedly at an unexpected place and time. Pursuing a relationship follows, commitment and then adjustment and thus a lot of conflicting issues or even revelations surfaces out thus either causing more or less intensity in our affection. If on the losing end and there is much pain, then we have a "choice" to fall out of love.
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@skysuccess (8858)
• Singapore
2 Sep 11
obe212003,
Love doesn't go to the one that felt the affection first - it goes to the first person who initiates and makes it happen.
Being in love is free, but being in a relationship comes with a price - the price of being subjected to gruesome test of eliminating our overly individualistic perception of life and learn to manage an additional headcount, transcending every aspect of our life.
Many often lament about how my partner is unable to do this... unable to do that - but let us look at it objectively, if it wasn't taught, then how would one learn? Following this line of argument, if it wasn't understood, then why would one allow himself to be 'taught'? And it goes round in that cycle.
People are always taught about love, it doesn't just appear from nowhere. Though love comes quintessentially natural, but natural doesn't mean that our development are enlightened or learning that promote minimal intensity or conflicts. In fact, it's usually our frictions that we burn ourselves with, bestowing us the most valuable lessons in love.
Incompatibility, coupled with wrong frame of time... sometimes... makes the most suitable thing unsuitable.
@heartstrings217 (19)
• Philippines
2 Sep 11
I totally agree with you skysuccess. In every relationship we should always be ready with questions of what ifs?.. That not all will run smoothly and will have a happy ending. Sometimes it may be bitter to you. True that you have to really weigh the risk and whatever it will be, accept it. If a relationship is already not working both ways, then, give up. Rather than staying in a relationship and be miserable. The more you stay, the more you both will be hurting each other.
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@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
3 Sep 11
Well yes! i think when you decide to be in a relationship... you have to give 100% of work, patience, love, understanding.. and if there is a single hole that could be used to tear you both apart, i would sa if it is not the both of you who will work hard to keep the relationship strong, then it would rather be ended than it becoming one sided.
