Offline employment not suitable or suitable?

Oh I didn't know we had such similar experiences. The only difference is that I have not worked in so many places b4. Now I have decided to work from home and work at my own hours after several heartbreaking experiences. In response to your question regarding whether you should listen to your heart, I would say go ahead and follow your heart. You are only young once and time waits for no man. So, if you feel that you have missed out on life (meeting up with your friends, etc) and if you really think that working in an office is not your cup of tea, then pls follow your heart for the sake of your own sanity and overall well-being. However, I suppose you might have to speak to your mom about the matter and get her see your point of view before making up your mind. Ultimately, you don't want your mom to worry about you and for you, right? Whatever your decision is, you can be assured of my support.:)

oh wongchoiyee, its very difficult to answer this question. what sort of work are you doing? i know you are in malaysia, and i don't know much about working there, but maybe you need to look for a different type of job. i think you are probably quite a caring person, as well as being sensitive yourself, is it possible to look for something different, that would suit your personality better. and then maybe you could then develop your online work. the danger of working online all the time is that isolate yourself, and as someone else here has already said, even working online you still have to interract with people.

In India offline jobs are better or suitable here after completing education like Engineering. BSc etc immediately got job till 15 thousand to 30 thousand...but for less educated men not offline job is good.. But they start their own small business or work as a worker in any small company or shops.

i've worked lots of places and i was never very comfortable anywhere. i fought with a lot of the people, i didn't like the authority.. i just didn't really like it all in all.. and i changed jobs over and over and over again. until i found my current job. i like the people, i like the work, my bosses are ok, i can do my own thing! just keep looking, you will find where you fit :)

rather than mending your heart you should mend you ways because in my point of view life is all about compromises specially when it is for money and belive me there is nothing better than offline work ....trust me on this .sitting all the day in front of computer would only cause a headache

maybe you are the kind of people who like to stay alone and can not get on well with others, it is just because of your own charaters. The best way is to be a witkey online for you and you can try it.

It sounds like you're sensitive to the opinions of other people, like my partner. She's had similar experiences, where in every job there's someone (or several people) who make life hard because she takes their attitude personally. I've gone through that as well - I think we all do - and it took me years to find a job with good people who wanted to work together. Personally, I think there are two parts to the equation: management and us. Good managers are very rare: most of them are only interested in power or are stressed because they are expected to meet unreasonable targets. They push their workers, they make hard decisions and, unfortunately, a lot of them don't have the man-management skills they need, so they don't know how to motivate people, they don't know how to encourage teamwork and they focus too much on the figures instead of the people. The second part of the problem is in our attitude to work. We all want to work somewhere with nice people, a friendly environment and a job that motivates and encourages us to do our best. The management problem plays a part here but there's also our own view of things: sensitive people like you (and my lady) always feel as if every comment is directed at them personally, when they can just be bad management expressing what they want us to do. Taking those comments to heart destroys morale and makes us feel victimised: learning to understand the other person's point of view and get to the real problem is an art that can take years to achieve. I found that I enjoyed office work a lot more once I stopped all the confrontation. I stopped taking everything personally and started asking questions to understand the problems. There's a rule in business process analysis that says you need to ask at least three questions before you get to the REAL problem. The example they give is of a company that decided they needed to replace a very expensive statue because it was being eroded. This would have cost a lot. So they asked questions: "Why is the statue being eroded?" Answer: "Too much bird poop, which is acidic." Question: "Why are there so many birds there?" Answer: "Because there are a lot of spiders living on the statue and the birds eat them." Question: "Why are there so many spiders there?" Answer: "Because the flowers planted around the statue attract a lot of insects that the spiders eat." They replaced the flowers with plants that attracted fewer insects, the spiders left, the birds went somewhere else and the statue didn't need replacing. Ask enough simple questions and you get to the REAL problem. In a hostile office situation, this can work as well. It's a part of the technique of selling - you don't confront, you don't take it personally, you are understanding, you ask questions and you get to the real trouble, so you can fix it. In the end, most of the bad feeling at work comes from FEAR. People are afraid to lose their jobs. They're afraid of being blamed. They're afraid of someone else doing the job better than them. They're afraid of not meeting targets. They're afraid of doing the wrong thing. They're afraid of everyone and everything, all day, every day and they express the fear as aggression. Take away their fear of you and a lot of the problems go away. Be nice to your 'enemies'. Be understanding. Encourage other people. Be enthusiastic about the results other people get. Compliment people on a good job. Smile. If someone says your work is crap, don't take it personally: be understanding and ask them why they think that. It's incredibly hard for colleagues to be horrible to someone who's understanding, non-confrontational and wants to do better. If you can let all the bad stuff slide off you, like water off a duck's back, the people throwing the bad stuff will realise you're not a target and it'll stop. In my best ever job, my (excellent) manager absolutely adored me because I didn't care who was to blame. She knew she could blame me if higher management needed someone to blame and I'd smile and laugh about it. Blame is not important. "Whose fault is it?" doesn't matter. I would say "I don't care who's to blame. Blame me if you like, even though I had nothing to do with it. It doesn't matter. What matters is fixing it and finding a solution. Let's focus on that. How can we fix this? What can we do so that this doesn't happen again?" Of course, now I work part-time at home, so all that's finished. But my clients like me for the same reason. If something's wrong, I'll ask why, I'll accept that I messed up (even if I didn't) and I'll do the work again. They go away happy because they have a solution instead of a confrontation - and I create an environment in which they know they can tell me when something's wrong, they know I'll do my best to fix it... and I know they'll come back to me for more work because they're comfortable telling me when something's not right. Just my opinion, hope it helps.

You should not give up. There are more advantage of working outside than working from home. You get a lot of benefits. Like insurance, healthcard and so on. I went to 3 different jobs. You really get to interact with a lot of types of people. Some are nice but most of them are hard to get along with. But, I would rather focus on my job than keep dealing with this kind of people. I just ignore them. Right now, I'm working in a good company. I can't say that I have found the perfect company for me. I'm planning to resign soon. Some of my officemates are hard to get along with. I've been sacrificing for two years now. So I suggest, that you should not give up. Good luck to you.