Boyfriend/Girlfriend Versus Friends
By niceurdaneta
@niceurdaneta (50)
Philippines
September 2, 2011 9:23pm CST
some of my friends that are in a relationship are having a hard time balancing their time with their long time friends when his/her gf/bf is around most especially if the bf/gf is someone new in the group. Friends often get annoyed when you can't make to group gathering because you're having a date with your bf/gf or vice versa. I need your opinion on this situation guys... How could we best handle it?
5 responses
@holesworth (220)
• Australia
3 Sep 11
I think that true friends will be wholeheartedly accepting of the boyfriend/girlfriend. As long as they - the friends - are not being completely forgotten and dismissed, I feel that they should be willing to accept any new addition to the group. I believe that it is wrong to expect people to choose between old friends and new partners and that - if they genuinely care about you - the will completely understand when you are unable to make it to a group gathering.
@vivamir (671)
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3 Sep 11
I totally agree with you holesworth..
I am the only girl in my group of friends.. however Ive never had any issues when my friends have entered a new relationship- thing is though, the girls tend to be jealous of me LOL..
I find it hilarious.. I mean dont they understand that we have been friends for over 10 years and if I wanted to be with there man- I could have... we are all great friends and I wouldnt give them up for NO relationship..
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@blink182m (182)
• Philippines
5 Sep 11
It is not easy balancing between your Boyfriend/Girlfriend against friends. We sometimes choose our friends against our Boyfriend/Girlfriend then they really get some bad feelings if we hang.out with our friends. The only solution I can apply to this is which of them is more close to your heart your friends who are always with you through ups and downs or you BF/GF.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
3 Sep 11
i have had the same experience, my bestfriend spends more time with her bf than with us, her friends and we did not understand that as much when we were single ourselves, until we had our bfs and partners that we realize, because when you have a bf/gf.. that person beomces your instant all around companion.. you want to be with the person you love all the time.
i'd only suggest though that if there are gatherings, parties to attend to, why not have your bf tag along.. even if you and your friends(single) need to go and watch movies together, bring your boyfriend. i always do that, and he became part of the circle me and my friends have and they know they'd be seeing him all the time, wherever i am, he'd be there too.
@GemmaR (8517)
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3 Sep 11
When you first get a new boyfriend or girlfriend, you're bound to have problems balancing your life, especially if you normally spend a lot of time with your friends. You life is changing, and you should readjust your life in reaction to this. Your friends should understand that you want to spend more time with your new partner, simply because you've only just met and you're bound to be excited by your new relationship. Make sure that you still make time for your friends, because your partner might not last forever whereas your friends most likely will.
@waflay (2737)
• Nairobi, Kenya
3 Sep 11
I think as much as your friends are important to you,the same applies to one's girlfriend or boyfriend.First your friends should understand that you have another friend in your social life.If they get to know that now things are different like it has always been,then the time one needs to be with the boyfriend or girlfriend is not too much to ask of.
