I don't Understand her. . .

I think that if you want to salvage your friendship with this lady you need to explain to her how upset this made you feel. If you don't, then she will have no idea and is likely to do it again. I imagine she has no idea how if affected you, and possibly didn't realise the importance of the occasion to you. If, after you've explained, she does it again, then you will know that you are not meant to be close friends as she doesn't respect your feelings.

hello bessyjanmayi, She pretty much stood you up, let her know that you were waiting and that she should've said she wasn't coming instead of telling you shes busy, once you say that she will be aware of her mistake and hopefully apologize, if you forget about it she will do it all the time so I say yes confront her.

I would have to say the next time you invite her and she says yes I would ask her again are you sure because if it is not good for you we can do it another time. Or I would just wait for her to come around to me and as me for something to do. Keep your relationship simple like phone calls.

Maybe she had a reason too. You said she told you she's busy so that was an assurance enough that she can't come to the said date. The least she can do is say sorry for not making it but she didn't. That is what friendship is all about confiding with each other. I think what you thought is true you are the only one who is making all the efforts to have your friendship works. Since you said you are very close to each other, I guess you should talked to her and clear something out in a mild manner of coarse if she treat you as a real friend the same thing you treat her.

Try to understand your girlfriend. sometimes we come so important nesht who can not even share with a friend. I think you have to wait and she can explain to you why. do not rush it do not then sorry to lose a really good friend. successful and enjoyable day!

Hi bessyjanmayi If she didn't came to your bestfriend date just try to ask her in a calm manner and you can't blame her if she's busy since she had her own vision too. I suggest try to get her point before making any judgement.

If you are supposed to be good friends I would find an appropriate time and talk to her. It sounds like she has been hurt some how and doesn't want to connect or get really close to anyone. Sometimes when people have been hurt like this they shy away from getting real close to people. When it gets to that point they start making excuses to keep them out of the possibly of getting close and being hurt again.

to my opinion a friendship should come from both ways. Do you have the feeling that you are the only one who is working for the friendship or is this true? make a list what she did for you and what you did for her. Is there a good reason why she is investing less in this friendship? Might be she has the feeling you make all the descisions also about her life (the date) or she is scared for some reason. Perhaps she is your best friend and she doesn't feel the same about you? Ask yourself what she really means to you and you can also ask her what you mean to her. If the list and her answer are not like how you think about a friendship let it go. So you can confront her with it but after you've been thinking it over.

While the possibility of her misunderstanding you is there, she should have at least apologized. Give her a chance to make it up to you, but if she continues to stand you up with no explaination or anything, definitely say something to her. Like "I really would like to hang out and get to know you better, but I feel like you don't want to, by always blowing me off and not even telling me you can't make it." If after that she continues her behavior, it might be better to stop contacting her for a while. Let her see that that type of thing is unacceptable. I've had similar things happen to me, and if you let the person keep doing it, that's what they will do. Continue to do it to you all the time, because you let them. People treat you how you teach them to treat you, even if you aren't trying to. By allowing a certain behavior, that teaches them that they can walk all over you, and you won't do anything about it. Good luck with your friend!