Have you ever longed for someone knowing that you can't get this person

This brings me back memories. I use to be into this guy but I was so shy and never spoke to him. To me, if I spoke to him, it was like the whole world to me. That's how hard I fell for this guy. Pretty much for a whole year, I was just infatuated with him but never approached because I know he would reject me. So save the shame, I just sat back and did nothing. Then he left after he finished school and I felt real bad for nothing speaking up. Years later, I still see him now and then but I'm over him now. Turned out, he wasn't someone I was expecting him to be. It takes time, remember there are so many opportunities opened for you. Don't just rely on one person.

I used to, but I got him in the end. Though we have a different situation, yours is tougher. My current boyfriend used to have a girlfriend before we became a couple. We're good friends and I'm in good terms with her gf as well. Since we're friends we hung out often and then special feelings started to develop. He wanted to stop I didn't want to. I kept on loving him and fighting for us. A lot of times I felt like I'm going nowhere and I'm just making a big fool out of myself, but all the work paid off and we're now together. Anyway, if you want to escape your problem, have you considered changing your job?

I've liked a lot of women that I know won't be mine in the first place. It's definitely harsh phase to go through. Accepting something like that has to include booze and dancing women in front of you. Seriously though, you have to get a grip because she's not the only girl in the world. You should just let it out of your system slowly and let things flow by like it never happened.

I think many people have been through this. Sometimes your heart aches so much that you don't think you can live through another day. I have found, that if I am absolutely sure I have no chance, then it is beneficial to convince myself that I would not be happy with this person in the long run. For example, I once fell hard for someone who was a smoker, even though I hate smoking, and it really bothers my asthma! I had to be honest and realize that we would not be good for each other because he would always smell like smoke. I also had to pay attention and realize that he was the type of man who would want to be "in charge" and probably wouldn't listen to my ideas if I was in a relationship with him. The gradually helped me to get over him. Everyone has flaws, and if you focus on her flaws rather than all the things you find appealing, it may help.

Yes it has happened to me but I made the situation worse by begging that person so they eventually felt bad and dated me but I ended up getting hurt. There were other women he was involved with. I learned that if someone is not interested you dont force them because they will end up hurting you, the best thing to do is move on someone out there is interested in you.

I would say that U just can't obtain everything you like, sometime just stand by and enjoy looking at her quietly. Another suggestion is that you can bring something else in your mind to distract your focus on her, like some kind of hobby

I used to go through the same thing as you are going through now. There is one guy I like, I even don't know why I like him, just wanting to see him everyday, talking to him. I thought I couldn't go on my life if my life without him at that time. Later, another guy broke in my life, he wasn't a charming guy but lovely, I spent a lot of time with him, and suddenly I amazed to find out I liked the first guy not so deeply as I thought. So I think you may make more friend as your can, spending more time with the others for thinking her less. Finally, you may find the same thing as me. Blessing!!