Do you have any trouble in getting along with your family ?
By captinjack
@captinjack (788)
China
September 4, 2011 8:20am CST
I don't why ,but i nearly had several fights with my family ,which makes me rather unhappy now. I know that i am not good at talking ,even with my family .I never imagine the relationship between my family and me is so fragile . Here is the process . At around six o'clock , my elder sister asked me to clean the water dispenser .So i did it . When i did the washing and cleaning near the tap , i felt like that thousands of mosquitos were biting me on all around my body . Thus ,i speeded up and cleaned it as soon as possible . When it was time for dinner ,my mom criticized my cuisine . The worse is that after dinner my sister found the water dispenser broken .And she blamed me for that . I swear to the God that i didn't break it . I didn't explain as usual ,though. How could these happened ? Do my family don't love me any more ?
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16 responses
@Amanda81587 (3042)
• United States
4 Sep 11
When I was younger my mother and I never got along. I would stay in my room all the time and never communicate with her at all. It was not until I got pregnant that we became very close. I think it was because I needed her and she had been through it herself. Now that I have lived on my own it makes it easier to communicate and have a relationship with my mom because we are not clashing heads. Now when it comes to my boyfriends family they will be my best friend to my face and talk bad about me to others when I am not around!
@Amanda81587 (3042)
• United States
6 Sep 11
I do just let it go. I also watch what I say around here. She is going to be my mother in law so there is not much I can do. I love her son and I have to thank her for him everyday!
@captinjack (788)
• China
6 Sep 11
Sorry to hear that ,Amenda . I have met some mean guys who stab people behind them . Just let it go .
@koperty3 (1876)
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4 Sep 11
We have bad days and good days with our family. It does not mean they stopped to love you. Everybody loosing their temper once for a while. I have problems with getting along with my mother but this is a different story. I just can not forgive my mother what she did to me in the past and I know that she is very lucky that I did not know about child services when my brother and me were very young. Now I have with her diplomatic relationship and most of the time we talk about weather only. I live in different country that she does. But as I said this is not the case with you. For sure you have loving and caring family. Maybe just they had bad day. Don't worry.
@captinjack (788)
• China
6 Sep 11
Wow, i was not meant to mention your sad memory ,Koperty. Since you are so sensitive ,i think you and your mother can work it out as long as you two recall good memory now and then . Now i am cool with my family ,Hope you and your mom can hit it off .
@koperty3 (1876)
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6 Sep 11
I think there is no hope because my mother denies everything and don't improve her behaviour ( constantly lying). And again she likes make conflicts between other members of both families by gossiping and lying. I have diplomatic relation with her. And this is as far as I can go.
@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
5 Sep 11
It just cannot be that your family no longer loves you. However we all are humans and have our emotions which we cannot control all the time. And the thing with your sister, well siblings are always fighting and blaming the other for any minor catastrophe. If you feel like it, then you might not pitch in to do anything for a few days…you know, just shut yourself away from them…maybe they’ll understand their mistake and patch up with you.
@chiwasaki (4694)
• Philippines
5 Sep 11
I'm the only child in the family so I'm very close with my mom and dad. My dad passed away about 8 years ago and I'm living with my grandmother. We don't have serious fights that I can remember. We do have some misunderstandings but we usually settle it the same day.
@bravobrino (70)
• India
5 Sep 11
Hi Jack let me also share my experiences with you.Ours is a joint family with almost 14/15 members living together.When the mood goes it goes well with everyone at home.But when things go wrong it is uncontrolable and the problem never seems to be ending.It goes on for days.The hardest part is when some of your family members speak to you for reasons you don't even know.A piece of work which could have been done away in seconds will still lie for days and no one i sthere to say why it is still there and who will do it...funny.
@mindym (978)
• United States
4 Sep 11
Sometimes when you get into these types of situations, it might seem like your family doesn't love you. It can be a frustrating thing. Sometimes it seems like you can't do ANYTHING right. Maybe your Mom and sister were just crabby and took their crabbiness out on you. That's not really fair to you, but that is just how women can be
. I get along well with my family, more so now that I am out on my own. My younger brother and I used to not get along so well when I lived at home, but I never thought it was because he didn't care about me. But he has his issues sometimes just like I do. Overall, I am really fortunate to have a loving family and we love to have a good time.
. I get along well with my family, more so now that I am out on my own. My younger brother and I used to not get along so well when I lived at home, but I never thought it was because he didn't care about me. But he has his issues sometimes just like I do. Overall, I am really fortunate to have a loving family and we love to have a good time. 
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
4 Sep 11
No more than the average family. I think that there are a lot of families that even if they do in fact get along, they are at each others throats every now and again. You know, we are slightly more so, but that is just going to happen from time to time. I think that it is ingrained in the blood from both sides, so I tend to really get the worst of it.
In the end, we're going to fight, even if we are blood. That is just life when you think about it. Sadly there are going to be times where families are going to be completely ripped apart by infighting and petty bickering to say the very least. It is really something is going to be rather frustrating and not to mention slightly agitated, but its just something that many people have to work through.
@sanjay91422 (2725)
• India
4 Sep 11
Sometimes it is not your fault but you get blamed for it just because they need to blame it on someone. They want to get the pressure shifted from themselves to others. But remember one you love is the one with whom you can share your feelings, your stress etc.
It can happen that someday you will be in bad mood and you will share it with them in some way. Some people do it by sharing the real matter with others while some do it by shouting at others or blaming others for it.
@airamtheb (370)
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4 Sep 11
It is normal for your mom and sister to comment on your work because they were not satisfied of what you have been doing.It does not mean too that they dont love you,instead, they do that because they wanted you to learn of your shortcomings.The corrections they have made upon you is for you to be careful in everything that you do. And if you are doing on something, do the best that you can, put your heart into it so it will have a very good outcome.Unlike when you are rushing things which will surely have a very negative result.
@hafiz008 (450)
• India
4 Sep 11
Don't feel about this my friend, this type of incident is occurred in majority families. I don't face such problem in my family. Don't ever say that you family don't love you.You will understand when you got any problem in your life. You will get help only from your family. The matter of broken water dispenser if they blame you and you have to day that I will fix it. God is the one who knows the truth, so you will rewarded my friend. just think this and console your mind.
@shrmanoj (382)
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4 Sep 11
Dear friend, Don't be too upset too much for this problem. If you think positively, it is a normal thing to stay with a family. I have also faced the many problems like this. So, dear please cool and think you and about your family for the good future. I hope everything will be alright soon.
@cvsuperman16 (72)
• Philippines
4 Sep 11
I think that it is just a misunderstanding. My advise to you is that you should work on your communication skills and just be more expressive with your tongue. I used to be a very quiet person and everyone would not like me or just not talk to me as much because I was just a quiet person. Then I decided to work on my communication skills and my whole world changed. Everybody loves me now, not only because I express what I feel, but the way I tell people how I feel is such an art that even if im making fun of them, they still love me so.
@nezavisima (7408)
• Bulgaria
4 Sep 11
I think that the family loves you enough.
I think they keep you although sometimes not much to show.
Maybe you thought it was your sister because no one else to do it or wanted to vent his anger on someone.
You know you know the truth it hurts when they accuse without reason, and so you feel like your unwanted and not loved.
but it is not.
just happened.
nice day!
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
4 Sep 11
It's hard to say if your family is not loving you anymore because your kitchen is a mess or the water dispenser is broke. Is the situation always like this, they are blaming you for everything? Or is something else going on? Perhaps they have huge problems and try to hide that for you? But since they are worried/feel bad it comes out as soon as something is not ok?
Since you can explain it by writing I would advice you to write down how you feel and ask them if they don't love you and why they don't believe you.
I always had fights with my family so I left at an early age. I never believed it was all because of me, although I did try everything to keep them in a good mood.
I hope they will answer your questions and you can live with the answers. I wish you all the luck.
