Would you be OK in an arranged marriage?

United States
September 4, 2011 5:58pm CST
Hi people, we all know that in western cultures many years ago, the marriages used to be arrange by the family of the groom and the bride, they basically didn't have too much of a saying about with whom they were going to marry, still today, there are many cultures that arrange the marriage for their children, I wouldn't want that for me, because I am very independent and I believe everybody should make their own decisions, but I know I think that way for the way I was raised, I know other people didn't grew up the same way I did, so they would obviously have a different opinion about the issue, so what do you think? would you be ok, if your family arrange your marriage? or not? and why?
3 responses
• Philippines
5 Sep 11
Hmmm... I say NO to arrange marriage. For me, marriage is sacred and has to be done with people (man & woman - no offense) who truly love each other. :)
• United States
5 Sep 11
For me marriage is sacred also, however I think marriage can be done by anyone that is inlove, it doesn't matter the gender, but in my opinion it has to be a decision of only the people involved. No one else should even give opinions about it. I always get mad when parents want the daughter or the son, to marry the person they want, without even thinking what does the daughter or the son wants.
@trent714 (73)
• India
5 Sep 11
dating and marriage is the best of all according to my opinion . Through dating u can understand each other.
@suspenseful (40192)
• Canada
5 Sep 11
I do not know. I had a hard time finding a husband and no one was knocking on my door wanting me for a wife. I would suppose in my case, an arranged marriage would have been all right even though it was not in history ( unless you count hundred of years ago). I would suppose if I had guys after me marriage wise coming out of the woodwork, it would not have been necessary. I seem to think of arranged marriages as the parents saying, "poor girl she will not ;have any suitors, so we might as well make an arrangement for a marriage for her."