i think my husband may be cheating or living a double life

If a person has nothing to hide, he will not act suspiciously. He will be open and answer you honestly when you ask a question. In a marriage, I believe that there must be open talk. I want to tell you to trust your instincts. There may be something going on, but it is not wise to distrust him unless you have proofs. What I did for my situation was that I gathered more information. Once armed with all the information, you will then be able to decide what you want to do with your life. You have to handle the situation in the calmest way possible. I know that this is going to be very difficult, but you have to refrain from accusing unless you are backed with solid evidence and don't ever reveal the source of your evidence or how you got the information. Some people think that they can fool you, but you have to fight with information. Knowledge is king! Arm yourself! That's all I can say. I wish you all the best and I do hope that it is really nothing to worry about.

hello, I am sorry for what you are going through right now. I know how difficult it was but I also think this is a big mistake of yours because you really know him. This will get worst if you dont get to action. Well, I am not telling you to divorce him right away. Just talk to him calmly and tell to him how you feel and if he understand maybe you are just misinterpret his attitude but if not, I think you must be aware of the next action.

I am totally speechless. I mean, i think i cannot really give a good advice to you on this matter, because i do not want to say to you that you should go on and continue doubting him. your basis are people who you do not know much. i think maybe you should back down a little, your husband is trying to hide more things when you try to get more information. just tell him you'd be happy if you will know who he spends time with because you are married, afterall you should know that it is part of marriage that you are open to each other. i know we should really follow our instincts but then, we should also bear in mind that it is important that we have proof or basis of what we worry about. all the best to you... i wish you and your husband can fix this.

Maybe he is cheating, maybe he is not. And maybe, you do not really know your husband before you married him. Maybe, you will end up divorced or you can still work this out. Maybe he just need more space, or maybe you're suffocating him. Maybe you made a huge mistake marrying him, maybe not. But, one thing is for sure, this are all presumptions. This is no real basis that this accusations are made. I suggest you go talk to him in a calm manner. Heart to heart talk. And maybe, just maybe, you can find out what really is happening to your relationship. good luck to you!

I think your sixth sense is right. Your husband might be cheating on you or living a double life.And he lies to you. You should rather talk to him and find out the truth than over the relationship. Calm down and make a deep communication with your husband.

If you have proofs that hes really flirting with someone else just divorce him and find a new life.best of luck!! thats what he deserves.

I am sorry to hear this. I always wish everybody the best and the same for you. I also always want the right things to happen, so I really hope that this situation goes back to normal, where you both get to share your married lives together happily and not face all the trouble of divorce and more. Maybe, you should really try setting up a calm conversation with him, try not to be the better person and be extra-patient. See to it that you get to convince him to sit down and talk about all of this openly and calmly. Be prepared for anything though. Let not your emotions ruin it for a while until you both come to a conclusion. Best wishes to you!

My partner cheated me many time already and I even caught him flirting with my friend. That really hurts so much and my trust with him is totally broken. I cannot believe the effort that he had given me just to win me back, we reconciled because of our child but I dont think if I can love him again. I lose my trust in him, I cannot believe in him anymore and getting back the trust was really hard. I cannot blame you for feeling the same because I was once cheated. but the good thing is we are not married so i could leave him anytime. If there are still way to fix the problem between the two of you then give him a chance. it's better to talk privately.

Ok honey I am going to be real and straight up with you first off look at what you wrote two key word he is lying and secretive, I know in a marriage you be open and honet with one another and you should be familar with all his friends because you are his wife, onething about having friends is that they are in your personal life meaning his friends should know of you or you should know them, one reason why is that you just don't bring anyone around your family they really have to be your friend and close liek family you just don't bring random people by or hang with random people, because incase something happens or anything you would know who is with, and lying what is he lying to his family about, when it comes to you, Like I tell alot of people that come to me for advice there is a path to everything, and instead of him saying " I am doing this because you don't trust me, that's a bunch of bull he is being sneaky trying to get away with murder, child please. I will tell you this for anything there is a reason why you don't trust hime he must have done something in the past or whatever who knows but instead of him trying to keep you distant and out the loop he needs to work on gaining your trust back that is what most people would do for someone they really love, you would do any and everything to make your marriage work, you can't work a marriage by yourself it takes two and if he is not willing then you make your decision from there, its to much out here to worrie about what he is doing, because once you start worrying about what he is doing, you then take focus off your self and you can't do that, When you love someone it takes time and energy and it takes to much energy for somone to violate the love and trust you have for them, so he needs to buckle down and tell you whats up, or you need to figure this marriage out and go your own way, I don't like it when people take adavntage of other people especially spouses because your vowels states a lot and he needs to abide by them, and if you really are inlove with him and can't figure it out than focus on you don't run behind hime trying to figure out what he is doing focus on you and your life just be prepared for when that day comes when he decide to tell you what has really been going on, but right now he is making a bunch of excuses, you have to live for you life is to short to wonder why someone is lying on you and keeping secrets. And I gurantee if you strt focusing on you and make up something for you to do and ignore him he is going to wonder why, go ahead and take the time and make over your self make you feel good, and Pray about it and once you pray about let it go and let the pieces fall where they may lay.