Have you ever felt offended by a friend?
By chiyochan
@chiyosan (30183)
Philippines
September 5, 2011 10:34pm CST
I think I have been.. that is the reason why i have absolutely tried my best not to see them anymore. I felt as though they did not understood my situation before and instead they made me feel like i was different from them now... they made me feel like they are just trying to still consider me as a friend but that they always see to it that i kind of feel awkward whenever i am with them. I get invited to some gatherings with them, but for sure they are only doing so just so to say they did invite me. after all we were friends since we were in highschool. but time changes people, events changes people and you sure will know how they are, who they are when you lost those things you used to have, like money for one.
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@love2click (366)
• Philippines
6 Sep 11
Yes, my long time friends whom I considered very close to me has change. I think they will be at my side when I faced the great challenge of my life but they don't. We are not parted our ways but still we have communication through facebook. I just felt upset when some of my friends posted their new photos together specially when they set gatherings but they don't remind me of that. My friend have changes when I get pregnant. I don't know why.
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@love2click (366)
• Philippines
7 Sep 11
Yes,exactly! And I get jealous when i see their pics on Facebook without me. huhu!
@chrystaltears (3392)
• United States
6 Sep 11
I am very sorry you are going through this. I recently lost a friend of about 8 years. She started wanted to do things that she knew I didn't want to be a part of because I am trying to live right. Well, as I had a busy schedule and had to start being away from my home 4 days and nights out of 5, and then I would visit my mom who is 86 from Friday night or Saturday morning until Sunday night, my friend starting hanging out with others.
Now, she makes it obvious that she doesn't want me around more than a few minutes at a time. If I am at her house she keeps looking at her phone when it rings and won't answer it while I am there. She looks at her watch the whole time, and I know she is trying to show me she has other plans. So, obviously, I only stay for a few minutes.
I finally have stopped trying to keep in contact with her, because our intervals for even speaking on the phone or texting were getting further and further apart.
Again, I am sorry that you are going through this. I know it hurts. Try to get involved with someone else who enjoys having you as a friend and try to be happy. I know it is easier said than done. I wish you the best in this.
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@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
6 Sep 11
Im sorry to hear about your friend as well. sometimes, its really hard to find the kind of person who would stick with you like a glue would. :D
let us just behappy then that we have found out how they are and will no longer be caught hanging out much more with them...
@artistic_temper (83)
• Philippines
6 Sep 11
That's pretty sad but unfortunately its one of life's harsh realities. People do change and we have no control over these things. Well, when I get offended by somebody and unless he/she apologized and meant it I would certainly distance myself from that person. Nobody wants to be hurt nor excluded. Well, if you feel you don't belong anymore, find other friends who will treat you right.
@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
6 Sep 11
thank you for your response, i really felt that way, it saddens me that they are suppsed to be my closests friends, and i was proud to have them until i felt like they are no longer interested in being friends with me. i hope though they would realize that more than anything else in the world, i do not want nor need their money. i just want to know that i have true friends! unfortunately not with them.
@lumenmom (1986)
• United States
6 Sep 11
I am really sorry about your situation but unfortunately that is more the rule than the exception. When you lose what you use to have people do look at and treat you differently. They try to act as if they are better,not realizing the same thing can happen to them. With me it has been more family than friends that have done this. When I had a good job and money to spend on them I saw and heard from them every day. I was always welcome in their homes and to their events. Then things changed for me and I was shocked by how I started getting treated. It is very painful to see those you trust turn on you like that. You just have to tell yourself that they are doing the best they can and you have to go on and make new friends. Don't let their opinion of you get you down. You have to focus on what is going to make your situation better and what is going to make you happy.
@igatiful_badass (1222)
• Philippines
6 Sep 11
ow i know that feeling. Well just be civil with them.
In time they would realize what they have done.
And include them in your prayer also.
@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
6 Sep 11
i have tried to stay away, they always would contact me and let me know they are there for me. when i would respond they would then not contact again. its like they are playing games with me and i do not understand what they want.. do they just want to see how miserable a person is just so they would feel better about themselves?!
@ennylrak (30)
• Philippines
11 Sep 11
I'm forever offended by one of my girlfriends. We've been friends since freshman year in high school and she's offended me for as long as I can remember, I can't believe I'm still friends with her. She's told me that I was an ugly child, that I'm too fat or too skinny, and my shoulders are too broad, or I'm too tan. She'd even look me straight in the eye and say, You're ugly today. I used to wait on her for hours only to find out that she's not coming. She's stood me up so many times. And the worst she's told me was that my exbf would have never picked me over the girl he cheated on me with because her father's richer than my dad. Bs. I didn't talk to her for a while and she never got a clue why. She's my closest friend in highs chool. Maybe that's the reason why I overlook her utter insensitivity.
@sophiecheer (931)
• Philippines
6 Sep 11
On most cases, I retort back. You see, I am a very straight forward person and I tend to speak what I truly meant.And with it, I could sometimes end up offending other people. That's just me, I guess. I expect the same from other people. I'd rather that I hear the truth from them than their sugar coating and stuffs. Sure, we could have a misunderstanding over it, but I am a true believer that every concern will be fixed when people TRULY TALKED about and decide to work it out.
I agree that time and circumstances change people. But when people decide to stick their heads for their friends, I know they are for keeps. On your case, just speak your mind about how you truly feel to your friends. Do not act up and expect other people to decipher what's going on with your mind and heart. It's always advisable to always be OPEN to them. After all, you are friends. And when it comes that you no longer held a common interest, you decide to part ways. It's just that simple.
Don't feel bad about something, especially, when everything that's been going on is within you. Let it out.
@cvsuperman16 (72)
• Philippines
6 Sep 11
Yes I have been offended many times and I have also offended many friends,but even after all that is said and done, we accept that we are humans and we are not perfect, so forgiveness is always in place. I have no enemies because I believe that any conflict can be diplomatically setteled.