Specially for Indian Women. Do Read it Girls, Ladies, Women
By avani26
@avani26 (1518)
India
September 6, 2011 7:43am CST
My sister sent me this Chetan Bhagat's article which has come in the "Times of India". I really wish that my fellow mylotters read it and judge for themselves. (Guys and Men please do not take it otherwise).
A recent survey by Nielsen has revealed that Indian women are the most stressed out in the world: 87% of our women feel stressed out most of the time. This statistic alone has caused me to stress out. Even in workaholic America, only 53% women feel stressed.
What are we doing to our women? I'm biased, but Indian women are the most beautiful in the world. As mothers, sisters, daughters, colleagues, wives and girlfriends - we love them. Can you imagine life without the ladies?
For now, i want to give Indian women five suggestions to reduce their stress levels.
One Don't ever think you are without power. Give it back to that mother-in-law. Be who you are, not someone she wished you would be. She doesn't like you? That's her problem.
TwoIf you are doing a good job at work and your boss doesn't value you - tell him that, or quit. Talented, hard-working people are much in demand.
ThreeEducate yourself, learn skills, network - figure out ways to be economically independent. So next time your husband tells you that you are not a good enough wife, mother or daughter-in-law, you can tell him to take a hike.
Four Do not ever feel stressed about having a dual responsibility of family and work. It is difficult, but not impossible. The trick is not to expect an A+ in every aspect of your life. You are not taking an exam, and you frankly can't score cent per cent (unless you are in SRCC, of course). It is okay if you don't make four dishes for lunch, one can fill their stomach with one. It is okay if you don't work until midnight and don't get a promotion. Nobody remembers their job designation on their dying day.
Five Most important, don't get competitive with other women. Someone will make a better scrapbook for her school project than you. Another will lose more weight with a better diet. Your neighbour may make a six-dabba tiffin for her husband, you don't - big deal. Do your best, but don't keep looking out for the report card, and definitely don't expect to top the class. There is no ideal woman in this world, and if you strive to become one, there will be only one thing you will achieve for certain - stress.
[/b]So breathe, chill, relax. Tell yourself you are beautiful, do your best and deserve a peaceful life. Anybody trying to take that away from you is making a mistake, not you. Your purpose of coming to this earth is not to please everyone. Your purpose is to offer what you have to the world, and have a good life in return. The next time this survey comes, i don't want to see Indian women on top of the list. I want them to be the happiest women in the world. Now smile, before your mother-in-law shouts at you for wasting your time reading the newspaper.”! [b]
So friends what is your opinion? Have a nice and stress free life.
1 response
@kalav56 (11464)
• India
6 Sep 11
In which era are you living avani? You have given these helpul tips to an audience who are already aware of all this. Girls and women w ho can read this on the net are certainly not people/women who are stressed out. You must see my household help.SHe was beaten black and blue by her husband and had to find a substitue for her work for a month because she could not bend or do any hard work. SUch people need all that you have said. THese women would easily constitute a major portion of the percentage in these modern times. Educated women are relatively less stressed. However, by force of habit and on account of some inborn constraints women are burdened with a lot of exra work. Even as afar as household work is concerned, when guests arrive the burden falls mostly on women. THis cannot be helped and they have to learn to tackle it.[for e;g, I am just tired out after three days of work at home with a puja and small birthday function at home and with guests around.]Nevertheless , it woul d pass.
@Ankitdhama (103)
• India
7 Sep 11
Ya, I am also agree with you. These five things are ok but unless a woman will not be educated she may get stressed easily because of these reason. But a woman should also anderstand that for a man both the woman in his woman in his life(i.e. his mother and his wife). So automaticaly he would try to make both of them happy. So why are they getting stressed because of they don't have power in their family. When they are free to do what they want to do
@kalav56 (11464)
• India
7 Sep 11
Hullo Ankitdama! Welcome to the forum. My opiniion on your last sentence is as follows:
If anyone clamours for power then it is always a nuisance. Anyone should try to adopt a "live and let live policy". Interpersonal relationships [even within family ] need a lot of care, clarity and a bit of distance. When one is dependent on another and communication channels are not totally transparent or there is "taking for granted" on anyone's part then it becomes a problem. Strictly speaking if everyone is free to do what one wants to do there should be no problem . Here , if an individual activity needs some cooperation from another there arises adjustment. If this adjustment is not equal on two sides stress occurs.
As for the woman not understanding the husband's problem, I tell you Ankitdama, women are slightly complicatd creatures. THe mother has been the centre of her son's life and does not want to let go o the position. THe wife is new and clamours for attention.
THere needs to be a good adjustment.
