How will be your reaction? When received negative responses

Hello my dear friend! Yes we all encounter opposing opinions, and I am one to read and re-read the response to see if the member somehow has made me re-think my own thoughts. I have been known to give the BR to a not so polite response as after the back and forth interactions I have seen the point of view of the members. Sometimes what we might think is not polite may in fact not be impolite. Not everyone is the same so we simply continue to remain our selves. If a response is rude and or not so nice, I am usually myself online as I am offline. I do as you and politely state my opinion and move on my friend. Online is no different from offline where you will not have all members agree.

surekharathis when we post our discussions in an open fo rum we are asking for responses and we should expect different reactions from different people. I never get upset if someone has a different view point from my own.,After all this is the idea of a discussions to ask for everyone's views and they all might not agree with mine. that's what a discussion is all about , opposing views. we might even learn from opposing views. Its not negative its just a different view from mine. life would be horribly boring if we all had the same identical views.

surekha: I am also like you only. This has been the history. If we have supporters we also have people who do not support. Both are part and parcel of life and we have to take them in the right spirits. I give + only and refrain from giving - on 99.99 occasions. I am reminded of support given by mylotters right from the beginning and I try to encourage others also equally. thanks

Hello there my friend, Well, each and everyone of us are entitled for his/her own opinion so whenever I encounter some negative opinion or response, it's either I won't response back or just politely thank them for it if I think that they have a point. There's just one instance that I received a negative response that hurt so bad because that member seemed to went way overboard and insulting. Gladly enough, one of my friend here in mylot noticed it and help me with that member and discovered that that member has other "victims" besides me. I think that was brought out to the admin and the next day, that member's response to my discussion was deleted and the account was also gone, maybe suspended.

I know that you are positive woman. I know that some of my discussion or post can be controversial sometimes. Life got positive and negative site the same life posts. I understand that some opinion can have negative topics. I would not mind if that would be supported by constructive criticism and not discrimination ( because the person who rates me can have different opinion).

Hello there, I have not received a negative response here. For me the term of negative response is when someone using bad word to give a personal attack to other but I never see that kind of response here so I think mylot members are doing good. It is normal to have a different opinion and we should not feel offended when someone give a different opinion. Lets stay positive, we are all from different cultures and languages perhaps the other did not mean to give a negative response but the different cultures and language barries make a missunderstanding. For the western people when they disagree to something they will say it straightly but for most of eastern culture we tend to not say it straightly. in mylot we are interacting with different cultures, lets learn how to accept difference.

It really depends on what sort of "negative" responses that we are referring to. If it's only difference in opinions, I would have no problems with it at all and I would just take it in my stride. Everyone has the right to their own opinions, and we are all made differently and raised differently, hence we have our own individual opinions. However, if it's abusive and vulgar language that are hurled on me, I will become annoyed, angered and taken aback. I believe no individual should be subject to such treatment, not even on the online world. Honestly speaking, I have had one such experience on myLot; it was a terrible experience but I am glad that it was the first and also the last that I have experienced so far......

I welcome negative responses. Just because someone disagrees with me doesn't reflect anything negative back on me or them. It's just a different point of view. That's the point of Mylot - to discuss. We are not here to just agree with each other all the time. We are here to learn. Sometimes people are just plain rude, but it's okay. My feelings aren't hurt any.

Someone, surely has a reason, why the responses were negative. I assume, people who gave negative responses, was admonished me, in order to become better.

hi surekha, it is challenging to have negative responses as long as it is not said rudely, like insulting. i would definitely express what i thought on the said response. it would be a great interaction. ann

Its foolish to expect that all responses we get for our topic will be positive and that all mylotters will stick to our line of thinking. The very purpose of starting a discussion is to elicit opinions of wide divergence. The more negative response we receive the better according to me. Since while starting a topic we are only thinking of positives of that topic we very often never give the other view a thought. So when mylotters get their opposite view in, we learn a lot which otherwise we would have missed.

It is not necessary that everyone should agree to my comment, we all are different individuals and one can have different opinion. I will not mind if someone disagrees to my opinion, will accept that very friendly. Thanks for sharing.

Hi, I think we need to be ready to accept negative as well as positive responses based on the subject matter. Mainly because people have different opinion on the same topic and the way we are thinking may not be always right also. So there may be difference of opinion. Normally, for me, if there is a negative comment on my discussion topic, I used to be more talkative and become challenging with the person whoever is on the other end. Again, I try to continue the discussion till I feel it is right or justified. Thank-s

People differs in their opinions. I think , we cannot call it a negative response if one's answer is in opposition of what we think of. It's just an opposition , but not a negative one , my friend. However, when i receive opposing response, i politely comment and say my side . But it's not to impose my answer but just to air my view. But if the comment is offending, i would just let it be and don't comment anymore.

When I post a discussion, my intention is to learn, and one can learn from the positives as well as the negatives, so I wouldn't be offended at all. Though I have not started a discussion in a very long time, there have been instances where I have seen mylotters mark a best response to someone who was offensive and went totally against the discussion and ideas of the initiator of the discussion- the persons responses were logical and made a lot more sense than the yes men and women who did not really contribute much to the discussion at all.

Hello,For me if I encountered with the negtive response,I will comment politely as I think the same way as you do,everyone has his/her own opinion of doing things,that is your own business,What I am doing here is just listening to different voices which is also a must when we are dealing with different people.It is natural if we have someone who disagree with us,we can not make the same standard of doing things that seems hard and impossible,so I think that just listening and politely reply . Hope you everything goes well Molly

Well, to comment on your post... There have been times when I outspokenly expressed my opinion to many people here at myLot. I was being honest, even though they could not take or accept my honesty. Other times, I have ignored them or just simply rated them positive or negative. Everyday, I grow and learn, and I have decided to take a more different approach from now on, at dealing with people when they decide to leave a negative or sarcastic remark at my post. I believe that if a person has the time to do all of this, they must be bored. So, being that I am not bored, I refuse to give into them. To be honest with you, when someone leaves a negative response at your post, they are only doing this to embarrass you, make you feel bad about yourself, allow others to look at you differently, or they simply do this, just to see what you are going to say back to them. It is like a game to them. Don't give into their childish tactics, you are better than that.

Everyone is entitled to their own opinions. You can not force your views on others. When you receive a negative response you have to accept it in the spirit it was intended. You can gain some insight from it and push it out of your mind and continue on.

That actually adds a little character to the topic when you really think about it. Of course, that would only be if the responses were well reasoned and well written. They can completely pick apart my view point, but as long as the responses are going to rather make me think, then it is good. I could completely disagree with your opinion one hundred percent but if you can explain it well, then that's half of the battle. I think that looking at the other side is going to really add a lot of the response. Sometimes, I might tend to be that person. The person who tends to take the viewpoint that might seem to be against the majority. Then again, just because its the majority, does not mean it is necessarily correct, but it is popular. As long as you believe in what you say, then I'll respect it, even if I don't like it. That's all that there is to it.

Hello Surekha, I never feel bad when i get response against my thinking because i know this is natural as all people cannot think alike they all have different minds and can think differently.There is no question of negating them for this reason.But i feel there are people who don't think up to this level and just give you (-) when they feel that you are not responding in their favor which is not right. Every person has the right to say as per what he/she thinks and its always better for a discussion that it has favor and opposed responses as this makes a real discussion.