Would you unfriend her?

Philippines
September 6, 2011 8:03am CST
would you unfriend someone who lives in with a man that has a wife and children? I don't think this is right. or would you unfriend someone because inspite of the encouragement still choose to ruin her career? would you unfriend someone who made tons of scandalous act in a mall? I understand she had not controlled her emotions. one more thing..would you unfriend someone who aborted an unborn baby? that's what i hate. Worst, still living with that jerk. and she might do it again. :(
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• United States
6 Sep 11
You don't have to 'unfriend' these people, but you can certainly speak your mind. Too many people just like to turn their heads and pretend they don't see these wrongs being done. Many people do not want to get involved. But that's more of what we need in the world: people who care and try to make things better. Yes, your friend is wrong to be living with married man with children. But where in the world is the wife?? It seems that we do not know the whole story. I do not believe people should give up on their marraiges as easily as they do in today's society. However, life is too short, and if you are with the wrong person, you can't spend your life trying to make things work. You should support your friend if she is truly your friend.
• United States
6 Sep 11
I can also relate to the situation between you and your friend who had an abortion. I will not dig too deep about my feelings on abortion, but I will say that I DO NOT think it is right. However, I have several girlfriends that have had abortions. The first time I went through this I was only about seventeen years old. My best friend had just made her way out of an extremely abusive relationship when she found out she was pregnant. And, although I do not believe in abortion, I still love my friend today. The way I see it, it is not our job to judge. We cannot control the world, we can only control our own actions. I told my friend exactly what I thought, BEFORE she had the procedure. She is the one that has to live with her decisions.
@viju0410 (2286)
• India
7 Sep 11
We do not have total control of our friends but we can certainly help them out to correct the mistake committed by them once or twice. If they are intentionally involving themselves in the wrongdoings, then we can be out of touch for a while. It seems the friend is losing the focus of her life and do not know what steps to be taken for improve it in a positive manner. It also depends on the circumstances as if the friend is treating you as a close friend, how can you turn your back to such a friend? However, I would not support anyone for abortion as I consider pregnancy, childbirth and motherhood are few roles where a women need to play with love, patience and full dedication and its not a joke...
• Singapore
7 Sep 11
The first one is downright immoral. But for the scandalous act in a mall, what did she do in the mall? Example, making hell lot of noise etc. The last one is also immoral and cruel too. I hate people who abort babies. Babies are angels sent down by the heavens and it's a life! She doesn't have the right to abort it right? I think it's not encouraged to have such a friend.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
7 Sep 11
I wouldn't unfriend my friend just because she is one of those you have mentioned. What is important is our friendship, that is true . I think, nobody wants to be immoral. It's just that they let their hearts rule their head, so they entered into such relationship. But usually, some of them realizes in the end that what they are doing is not good, so with your help you can make them change.
7 Sep 11
There is a saying that goes like this "Tell me who your friends are and I will tell you who you are!". I will believe on this quote, because some of our undesirable/desirable act comes from the people that surrounds us. It really depends on the person we were dealing with. So its better to avoid this kind of human being.
@pibi713 (187)
• China
7 Sep 11
It depends.I Don't want to judge people. I will respect them for what they did. People have their own choice. By the way abortion is immoral.
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
6 Sep 11
Hi, tess__quinain. No, not like this. If she did not do anything intentionally to harm or hurt me in any kind of way, I would not unfriend her at all. If anything, I will be silently praying for her to become a better person than she is already. I would not unfriend her because of the bad things that she is doing. There are many women that I may be friends with that are doing something very bad, and I would not unfriend them at all.
• Philippines
6 Sep 11
All I know is I'm staying away from her. I don't wanna be seen with someone who's committing adultery. Friends are one thing but reputation is another. If you wanna keep your reputation clean, you'd better keep in mind who you're hanging out with.
@Ghajini (776)
• Philippines
6 Sep 11
That's really tough, however I think breaking a friendship because one of the person involved in the said friendship have sinned a lot is not the solution. Since, we should be aware that nobody is perfect, only GOD. It does not matter if your friend sinned 1000 times, because we are not in anyway better than her... since all of us are just disgusting sinners, however the good news is that it's not too late to repent and seek GOD Jesus Christ. I suggest that you should somehow give her some advice regarding her decisions in life, she might treat it badly, nevertheless you should let her feel that your just concern and just sincerely want to give her some advice.
• Indonesia
6 Sep 11
Hi there, if she was my friend I would not unfriend her. From what you have described, im sure she has been in a hard situation and as a friend I will not leave her and will not make her feel alone. Whatever she has done with her life, it is her decision, even if her decision is something I cannot and will not do in my life but who i am to judge her as a sinner, to commited a sin or not is a personal problem with God. As a friend, it dont mean we are allowed to control her what to do and what not to do. I consider the friend is mature enough to take the consequence of whatever she choose.
@kry893 (222)
• Canada
6 Sep 11
No, I wouldn't unfriend someone even so we've been friends. Reason for that is because I wouldn't know why she's doing such things. I'm sure she has her own reasons for what she's doing and though I might think some things are wrong on her side, I don't think she'd want me to interfere with her life because it's her life. So, if she wants to talk about things like that, I would advise her and who knows, one day she might realize about her own ways.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
6 Sep 11
If I consider someone as my friend or best friend I would only unfriend that person if he/she is harming me. I don't judge about other people their lives, opinions, deed. I accept a friend the way he/she is and respect him/her as long as they treat me the same.